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Cattails TTC since Oct 2011; 64 kids; North Carolina 857 posts
15th Oct '12
Quoting Holly+Jon=Alice:" Oh dudes, I texted her and she replied that she was under the impression that she would be staying with ... [snip!] ... during the week. She just called SO instead of replying to me and he's in there with the door shut talking to her. Uh oh."


And the result is?

Super Mommy! Due July 31 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12544 posts
15th Oct '12

It doesn't make any sense for her to stay at your place. It's too small for the 4 of you. She should just stay with other family or get a hotel.
So what happened?

Alice+Ozzy 2 kids; Burnaby, BC, Canada 3760 posts
15th Oct '12

Sorry, had to do dinner, bath, cleanup and get DD into bed.



She basically told on me to SO and cried about how if she wasn't wanted she just wouldn't come at all, blah, blah, blah, she was never going to get to see her only grandchild. She said she can't afford a hotel for an entire week.



She said she might go to the island after all after spending a couple days here. I'm hoping when she shows up she will realize that we really don't have the space and will go.

Alice+Ozzy 2 kids; Burnaby, BC, Canada 3760 posts
16th Oct '12

She's been texting SO for the past half hour and now he's being a dick to me.



I'm going to pull all of the furniture out an inch or 2 from the wall after I vacuum, change all of our bedding so there really are no extra sheets or towels and only leave Zest soap and Head and Shoulders shampoo in the shower since she's apparently "allergic" to it. Putting all of my makeup and lotions in my dresser.



b***h wants to try to start a fight between SO and I, I can make her stay here miserable.

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
16th Oct '12

I have 4 kids and live in a 3 bedroom house. DH's mom and aunt are wanting to visit. I am going to make do even though we have no extra beds. It would be nice for you to accomodate her. Perhaps get an air mattress and put it in the office area for her. Make her feel welcome.

Alice+Ozzy 2 kids; Burnaby, BC, Canada 3760 posts
16th Oct '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" I have 4 kids and live in a 3 bedroom house. DH's mom and aunt are wanting to visit. I am going to make ... [snip!] ... be nice for you to accomodate her. Perhaps get an air mattress and put it in the office area for her. Make her feel welcome."


Unless SO wants to pick one up while he's out tomorrow at a client's house we won't be able to get anything for her to sleep on. I have a checkup tomorrow and have to take DD with me and will be filling the stroller up with my weekly grocery shopping including toilet paper so I can't get one.



I think if she had given us more notice and asked if she could stay it would be a lot different. I just feel like I'm being imposed on and she's being a b***h by trying to get SO and I against each other.



I really don't like this woman and she knows it, SO and I never fight, only when he's been speaking to her. He'll start on me about working even though we agreed on me being a SAHM, hassled me about BFing DD and most recently about potty training her.
This is going to be a stressful week, thankfully DD has a pedi and dentist appointment so I'll try to stay out as long as possible both of those days and let SO deal with her.

♣ Lauren ♥ 1 child; League City, Texas 216 posts
16th Oct '12

If it were me and my child, I'd get a hotel if I had the money. We were cramped in out 850 1 bed room w.o a kid I couldn't imagine working from home and having a kid. Sorry momma but I don't know what to tell you. My ex MIL was one of the biggest wedges is my last marriage, so I sort of know how you feel. Best of luck to you!

Super Mommy! Due July 31 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12544 posts
16th Oct '12

If I were her I wouldn't even mention staying at your place, it's just too small and crowded already. Hopefully once she arrives she'll realize there's no room for her and she'll find somewhere else to stay.
That's gross she used your underwear, and went through your makeup, who does that?! Has SO stopped being a dink yet?
As for moving to Burnaby, cheaper, nicer, and you'll be able to get at a 2 bedroom, I'm sure. Plus if you move more into Burnaby near a sky-train station that's even better since you guys don't have a vehicle.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
16th Oct '12

make it uncomfortable- yes love that! good luck mama maybe it will work out and she'll get there and go "oh no this is really too small I'm gonna stay on the island" :) fingers crossed for you!!!!!!! And your so... yeah I'd be telling him to cut the apron strings already and focus on you and your family not his mother. I've had to tell hubby that more than once but it does the trick. Men and their mothers ugh lol

Alice+Ozzy 2 kids; Burnaby, BC, Canada 3760 posts
16th Oct '12

He went to the airport to escort her here, no idea why she couldn't just take a cab especially since SO has been out all day working and has spent about 4 hours on the bus and train already.
Just hoping and praying that she leaves after a couple days, I can see SO getting pretty sick of her right away since he was just contacted about a big 8 song mixing job to start tomorrow with a Friday deadline. He gets pretty stressed out when one of these jobs comes along and DD and I have to stay out of his office while he works on it. I just know she's going to be going in there whining at him to spend time with her and he's going to snap at her. It's not like he can turn the job down, it's going to pay our entire rent for a month and if he doesn't take it it looks pretty bad on him as a professional and the job will go to someone else.

Alice+Ozzy 2 kids; Burnaby, BC, Canada 3760 posts
17th Oct '12

SO took MIL out for a walk, hopefully he says something to her. I know he's pissed off.
We were awake pretty much all night, she kept getting up and opening and closing the window because she was having hot flashes and it was only 35F last night, then she was up at 5am when her phone rang and stayed up on the laptop playing Mahjong until 6:30. Then she sat beside DD's bed fidgeting and clearing her throat until she woke her up and then grabbed her and started loudly kissing on her the second she was awake. Thankfully she was half asleep and didn't freak out since MIL is a stranger to her. This morning she told SO he had gotten fat because he's 150 pounds at 5'7":roll:



I'm going to flip out if I don't get some sleep soon and if she's here for more than 2 days I'm telling her to GTFO.

Super Mommy! Due July 31 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12544 posts
17th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Holly+Jon=Alice:</b>" SO took MIL out for a walk, hopefully he says something to her. I know he's pissed off. We were awake ... [snip!] ... I'm going to flip out if I don't get some sleep soon and if she's here for more than 2 days I'm telling her to GTFO."</blockquote>



omg.. that's awful. Hopefully she'll gtfo. She sounds exactly like my mom and needless to say after not seeing each other in over 4 years, I paid her way here to meet her grandchildren. She was supposed to stay for a month and after 3 days we sent her back home. It was miserable with her here. I feel for you guys, Holly. I hope she finds somewhere else to stay. KUP.

Alice+Ozzy 2 kids; Burnaby, BC, Canada 3760 posts
21st Oct '12

We all ended up going out to the island to visit SO's little brother for 2 days and staying in SO's aunt and uncle's place since they are away and have a 4 bedroom place. MIL was pissed because I slept with DD and she wanted to but at least we got to sleep in until our normal time.



We left a day early so we could get a day to ourselves, a good sleep and get the apartment cleaned up. MIL is coming back tomorrow and will hopefully be getting the hell out of here after 1 more day.



SO told her we didn't want her staying here but she pretty much refused to leave, it's been a tense few days, she keeps climbing into bed with DD in the middle of the night and waking her up to snuggle and trying to take her out alone during the day and sneaking her treats to the point where it's been a battle to get DD to eat anything at all.
MIL has been drinking a bottle of wine pretty much every day since she's been here and she's really pissing SO off because she starts ranting about his dad and other stupidity.



This woman is never coming to visit again.