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_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" ...let your baby go for the night with a family member so you can have a break? If so, how often? I ... [snip!] ... need to feel guilty. Bleh. Are there mommies here that needed extra help like me? Did anyone try to make you feel bad for it?"


My kids didn't do their first real overnight until they were about 15 months and a little over 2. Now we have them do an overnight about once a month.



People will say things. Always. Some people will say you're lazy for letting other people help out, others will say that you're smothering them if you don't let them go to other places. It's really no ones business, but someone will ALWAYS have something to say.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Ole' No Name:" I would let DD because I need a break, bad. But SO says no. Im shit out of luck :("


Pfft. I'd leave the kid with SO then and take a night for yourself. Go have a nice dinner out and check into a hotel for the night. I doubt your SO will say no again.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
17th Oct '12

Most of these answers don't help. Addie has been staying with family overnight since she was about 4-5mo. I don't want to just blame my disabilities, because I know there are people worse off than me, but I really don't see how you guys do it. =[ I really don't.

Lil Dude's Mamma [38 wks] Due November 7; 1 child; Argentina 2588 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" Most of these answers don't help. Addie has been staying with family overnight since she was about 4-5mo. ... [snip!] ... disabilities, because I know there are people worse off than me, but I really don't see how you guys do it. =[ I really don't. "


I prefer letting my son stay with relatives so I can have some "me" time and recharge my batteries. Otherwise he's with me all the time and I become tired, annoyed and grumpy.



I don't see why you should feel guilty, even if your DD is a baby, she's with family, she'll be alright.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" Most of these answers don't help. Addie has been staying with family overnight since she was about 4-5mo. ... [snip!] ... disabilities, because I know there are people worse off than me, but I really don't see how you guys do it. =[ I really don't. "


I have to wonder, is overnight the only time they can take the baby? It seems like it would be more helpful to you if they could take the child during the day so you can rest.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Lil Dude's Mamma:" I prefer letting my son stay with relatives so I can have some "me" time and recharge my batteries. ... [snip!] ... annoyed and grumpy. I don't see why you should feel guilty, even if your DD is a baby, she's with family, she'll be alright."


I think part of it is because a lot of the moms I know are my age or younger...and I just don't want to be that stereotypical young single mom, you know? But I don't party, I rarely drink, whenever someone has DD it's usually because I'm having health issues and I just want to sleep for 12 hours. I think I'm just being paranoid...I wish I could keep up with her like most of the mom's on here do. I mean, I only have one. It shouldn't be this hard.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" I have to wonder, is overnight the only time they can take the baby? It seems like it would be more helpful to you if they could take the child during the day so you can rest."


People would take her for a few hours during the day or come over and sit with her so I could take a bath or something like that. Now that she's almost sleeping through the night now, they usually come and get her in the evenings around 6-7 and keep her until 9-10. I think that works well for everyone. I have time to get work done at night and sleep a few hours extra in the morning. Plus, we co-sleep, so I sleep better then.

Lil Dude's Mamma [38 wks] Due November 7; 1 child; Argentina 2588 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" I think part of it is because a lot of the moms I know are my age or younger...and I just don't want ... [snip!] ... wish I could keep up with her like most of the mom's on here do. I mean, I only have one. It shouldn't be this hard."


I too only have one, I am asingle and I'm 25, and I still like to have some nights for myself. Do I feel guilty? Not really, because it makes me a better mom when I'm with him again. I prefer to let him stay the night somewhere else instead of having here with me when I am in a horrible mood and all I do is snap at him for the littlest things.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Lil Dude's Mamma:" I too only have one, I am asingle and I'm 25, and I still like to have some nights for myself. Do I ... [snip!] ... somewhere else instead of having here with me when I am in a horrible mood and all I do is snap at him for the littlest things."


That's very true. That alone makes me feel a lot better. :D Thanks.

Lil Dude's Mamma [38 wks] Due November 7; 1 child; Argentina 2588 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" That's very true. That alone makes me feel a lot better. :D Thanks."


Welcome! PM me if you ever need to talk, I am also going through depression and being a full time parent feels impossible sometimes.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Lil Dude's Mamma:" Welcome! PM me if you ever need to talk, I am also going through depression and being a full time parent feels impossible sometimes. "


Thanks. <3 In a way, I'm kind of glad I've been a single parent this whole time. I don't know how I would have taken it if her father was around and THEN left. I love my daughter to pieces, but I feel like going to schools and yelling at the teenagers "MY LIFE IS HELL. YOU DON'T WANT THIS. IT IS HEEELLLLLL." Hahahaha.

Lil Dude's Mamma [38 wks] Due November 7; 1 child; Argentina 2588 posts
17th Oct '12
Quoting Chroma Hex [+1]:" Thanks. <3 In a way, I'm kind of glad I've been a single parent this whole time. I don't know how ... [snip!] ... I feel like going to schools and yelling at the teenagers "MY LIFE IS HELL. YOU DON'T WANT THIS. IT IS HEEELLLLLL." Hahahaha. "


HAHAHAHA totally. Random people will tell me "aww it's great that you got to be a young mom" and I go like "tell me, how is it great?!?!?!?!?!" LOL



My ex and I seperated 2 months ago, and even if it's hard, it's better to only have to stand my own horrible mood instead of his as well.



I love my son too, but shit, this isn't for everyone.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
17th Oct '12

Not really because I lived with my mom until my daughter was almost 3. She would take her to bed with her whenever I needed a few hours of sleep though.

Just Emily :) 2 kids; Watertown, Sd, United States 10367 posts
status 17th Oct '12

Ds is 7 months. His first overnight was at 7 weeks his second was last month. Both times was because I had to work so my friends kept him.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
18th Oct '12
Quoting 12.21.07