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All Booked. MalibuBarbie* 16 kids; United Kingdom 17 posts
19th Oct '12

Okay here goes:
I've never thought I'd be the person to consider an abortion, well, you never do, do you?!
I'm 23 and although I have a career an a house, I'm 23. I want to see the world see Thailand, Austrailia, see America. I want to be able to climb the ladder at work, continue having nights out, buying clothes, homeware etc without a care in the world.
I've just found out I'm roughly a month gone, its not planned, I'm single and although my family and friends would be brilliant I can't help feeling that if I did bring this unwanted baby into the world I would resent it and not love it, it would prevent me doing anything I wanna do.
That may make me sound selfish and in all honesty that is what I am, but again that's what I would be a selfish mother.
I've got an abortion all booked, my 2 friends who know have been amazing and I'm so scared, can people tell me what I'm to expect? They said a scan do I see this? I don't want to, I don't wanna change my mind, I'm scared incase I do, I don't wanna give up my job I'd rather be in this situation when I haven't split up with the baby daddy and when I'm older. I feel like I'already regret the decision I've made but I know this will be the best in the long run.

saageex3 1 child; New York 5777 posts
19th Oct '12

Your life doesn't end when you have a child, it just gets rearranged. Your goals become different and so does your mindset but you strive to get what you want 10 times harder knowing it will benefit you and your baby.



If you really want an abortion then seeing it on the screen shouldn't change your mind. If it does, then you might not be making the right choice

Erin & Mike Due April 22; Phoenixville, Pennsylvania 103 posts
19th Oct '12

IMP If you are having any regrets about the idea of one I wouldnt do it. There is always adoption. I personally dont believe in abortion but I know many feel differently and such. I dont know what all there is involved with it, but know of a few people who have gotten one and have had many years of emotional trauma due to it. I wish you the best though!

Wolfskrieger 17 kids; Morgan Hill, California 1564 posts
19th Oct '12

Just because you'll have a baby does not mean it's the end. You can still do all those things with a child. I went traveling with my parents and it was great memories. You can still do everything you wanted but it might be a little harder. A baby is a blessing. I know my son changed my life so much and it was for the better.
But if you're really considering it's really up to you but I couldn't live with the regret of having an abortion and ending an innocent life.

Erin & Mike Due April 22; Phoenixville, Pennsylvania 103 posts
19th Oct '12
Quoting Erin & Mike:" IMP If you are having any regrets about the idea of one I wouldnt do it. There is always adoption. I ... [snip!] ... know of a few people who have gotten one and have had many years of emotional trauma due to it. I wish you the best though! "

Oy, I meant IMO not IMP ..lol

* MRS KING * 2 kids; Whitesboro, Oklahoma 1550 posts
19th Oct '12

Is there anyone who has actually had an abortion and can answer ops question?

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
19th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting * MRS KING *:</b>" Is there anyone who has actually had an abortion and can answer ops question?"</blockquote>




Someone will come along and answer her questions.



OP, I wish you the best of luck. Take the time you have to really think about your choices and decide what is best for you.

Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
19th Oct '12

They won't show you I wanted to see my baby one last time as it was truly wanted but had no lungs she wouldn't survive they wouldn't show me you just sit there with a bunch of girls and wait for your turn it hurts a little it's. not a good experience but basically your in you are out

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
19th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs cree:" They won't show you I wanted to see my baby one last time as it was truly wanted but had no lungs she ... [snip!] ... with a bunch of girls and wait for your turn it hurts a little it's. not a good experience but basically your in you are out"

If you ask they will. Not every place is the same.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
19th Oct '12

IMO if you feel like you are going to regret it then dont do it. It depends on which method you are going to do. I did the pill. Wish you the best of luck.

Aria Dawn's mommy 33 kids; Texas 1864 posts
19th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Erin & Mike:




This is AS, a protected forum. do not bring up adoption. She wasn't asking about adoption.

Two Princesses 2 kids; Long Beach, CA, United States 7198 posts
19th Oct '12

When I had my surgical abortion, the nurse turned the ultrasound away from me so that I couldn't see and told me how far along I was.
I went to Planned Parenthood though, so I don't know for sure how that will be done where you're going. As for whether you will change your mind if you do see, I can tell you when I saw the ultrasound at the ER I went too before my abortion it didn't change my mind. but everyone is different. Best of luck.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
19th Oct '12
Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
19th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" If you ask they will. Not every place is the same. "</blockquote>




I did ask they wouldn't let me!

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
19th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs cree:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" If you ask they will. Not every place is the same. "</blockquote> I did ask they wouldn't let me!"


Well it is different everywhere. Like I said. Where I got mine done they asked me if I wanted to see.