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MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" He wants to keep his son? Honestly, in your situation, I would let your son stay with his dad. Your life is so unstable right now."


I really agree with this.



OP you seem like you have a lot going on and i hope you are able to figure things out.

~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23732 posts
20th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:</b>" my mom is saying the same thing. she's pissed that i'm leaving and not taking him with me."</blockquote>




What do you think is in his best interest? You aren't a bad mom if you make the decision based on your sons needs.

user banned 1 child; New Orleans, Louisiana 18159 posts
20th Oct '12

I hated my mom for not letting me live with my dad. It took ME petitioning the court at 14 to finally live with him. I'm the oldest of 8. The youngest is 2days old... In your situation let him go. His dad can take care of him hon, and you'll still see him.

Nameless Ghoul 2 kids; Sweden 6452 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" He wants to keep his son? Honestly, in your situation, I would let your son stay with his dad. Your life is so unstable right now."


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Moses. Due October 27; 3 kids; Texas 16003 posts
20th Oct '12

I would ask your son what he wants, assuming from previous comments he's really 10. Often times, putting their needs before your desires is the hardest thing to do.

user banned 6 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, CA, United States 3597 posts
20th Oct '12

i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are gonna make him think that i did and he's gonna hate me for it. i couldnt live with my son hating me. i didnt even get a chance to talk to him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"


then talkto him now and find out!

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36713 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"



If oyu feel like that then stay where you are. Your kids need a stable home. It is not about you. Have your husband come where you are. Not the other way around.

Legendary 2 kids; Beverly Hills, California 59667 posts
20th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" There is nothing in the world that could make me leave my kid behind, especially not a 10 yr old. I couldn't do it."</blockquote>



Nope, same here.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"


Then get off BG and go talk to him right now! You need to do what is best for him and that's either taking him back with you or leaving him with his dad, but you need to take into consideration what he wants, not what you want.

user banned 6 kids; 1 angel baby; Los Angeles, CA, United States 3597 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" then talkto him now and find out!"


i tried tonight but his dad was always there and I call everyday but his dad is always on the other phone listening in.

Hy'ska 2 kids; Washington 50791 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"


well get off here and go talk to him.



If he wants to come back then open up your arms to him back.



I have stepkids they have heard SO much shit from their bio mom and stepdad about us that's not true. As they have gotten older they've figured out the truth on their own. Kids are smart, he'd figure out if they are just feeding him lip service.

Not here to please you 3 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 2214 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Mommy to 6 ღ 33:" i'm just scared that he's gonna think i chose someone over him. i feel like his dad and his wife are ... [snip!] ... him just the two of us to find out how he's feeling or what he wants. what if he wants to come back with me and his siblings?"


Well I would ask him what he want and make sure you get time to talk him just y'all 2.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting Brink:" well get off here and go talk to him. If he wants to come back then open up your arms to him back. ... [snip!] ... older they've figured out the truth on their own. Kids are smart, he'd figure out if they are just feeding him lip service. "


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MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
20th Oct '12
Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" Then get off BG and go talk to him right now! You need to do what is best for him and that's either ... [snip!] ... taking him back with you or leaving him with his dad, but you need to take into consideration what he wants, not what you want."


Exactly!