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People are so funny... SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7869 posts
21st Oct '12

My baby shower was today. My mom put SO much effort and money into it. We had so many people say they were going...and maybe half of them showed up.



It just seems ridiculous that you would say "Oh, I'm so coming to your shower!" and then suddenly......something so dramatic and horrible has happened and you can't come. Right.



Not ONE member of my husbands family came. Not f**king one. His dad.....is too busy paying for other people to live, but yet...He can't even come or buy his first and only grandchild something.



I'm irritated, but very thankful for the family and friends that we do have.

user banned Iowa 1784 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" My baby shower was today. My mom put SO much effort and money into it. We had so many people say they ... [snip!] ... or buy his first and only grandchild something. I'm irritated, but very thankful for the family and friends that we do have."

I never had one with my first since i was in high school and all my friends turned against me. My second I had that happen. My third I was positive no one would show up and I invited a ton. I was wrong everyone plus extras showed up we had almost 200 people. It was nuts, I had so much stuff. But kind of cool that people came that I didn't even know and they just bought a little something for coming. I am not having one this time around either because of my hubby's family feud, no one lives close and i don't know anyone. So i am screwed because we need a lot. Oh well it's our baby so we have to provide. :) Don't be sad just remember that when people give you excuses, which will happen or they will try and avoid you.

Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
21st Oct '12

Happens to me ALL the time!!!!! For my shower (back in summer 2010) most of my family showed up but only like 8 of my friends did - and like 3 members of DH's did. Then for DD 1st day, I decided to have it at my church since SO many were coming. Yeah like 15-20 showed up. I could've had that at my house had I known people weren't going to show. I've just stopped expecting people to come and enjoy the ones that actually do. DD's 2nd birthday is this next coming weekend. Supposedly close to 50 people are coming.... yeah we'll see about that.

Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
21st Oct '12

Ohh and i just remembered, the same thing happened for my bridal shower (Sept 2011) and I had like 20 people show up. I was mostly embarrassed because my family put so much effort and money into doing it for me and making it special. I still had a good time and enjoyed the people that did show up. But only a few showed up from DH's side because this is his second marriage so it's like they feel they don't have to come. Well, it's my FIRST marriage and was a bridal shower for the bride, so that was a little disappointing.

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7869 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:" Ohh and i just remembered, the same thing happened for my bridal shower (Sept 2011) and I had like 20 ... [snip!] ... don't have to come. Well, it's my FIRST marriage and was a bridal shower for the bride, so that was a little disappointing. "


I know the feeling. People are such b***hes, honestly. They all just had TO have invitations and so many said they were going on the Facebook book event page....and hardly any of them showed. It's just pathetic. I heard every excuse in the damn book, today! But it's fine...Because we got a lot of needed stuff and a good chunk of money that we went and bought the carseat and other needed stuff with. Baby boy will have what he needs. (:



I just feel bad for my mom and my husband. My mom because she is let down/pissed off by her family...and my husband because he's finally realizing his dad couldn't care less about our son. But it's his loss, not ours.

Landon's Mommy *+2* Due October 20; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Cincinnati, Ohio 14943 posts
21st Oct '12

Happened with mine, too. I was expecting around 35 people at our sprinkle last weekend & we had about half show. The rest either didn't say anything or waited until 2 hours before. WHATEVER. It's annoying!!



Oh & all my husbands family members were over an hour 1/2 late. So we had to prolong everything to wait on their asses. They might as well have not come at all!

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7869 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting Landon's Mommy *33wks*:" Happened with mine, too. I was expecting around 35 people at our sprinkle last weekend & we had about ... [snip!] ... were over an hour 1/2 late. So we had to prolong everything to wait on their asses. They might as well have not come at all!"


So damn rude. Why say you're coming or ask for an invite....just to completely ignore the invite or say you're coming and then give an excuse?



I hate the typical "sorry, can't make it..but i bought you something!" Riiiiiiiiight.



We sent out like 70 invitations. 5 RSVPed, maybe 3 of the ones of who RSVPed showed up. It's like.."You got the f**king invite, so why not say you're coming or you're not?"

Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I know the feeling. People are such b***hes, honestly. They all just had TO have invitations and so ... [snip!] ... family...and my husband because he's finally realizing his dad couldn't care less about our son. But it's his loss, not ours."


Oh yes we heard all of the excuses too. I'd rather hear the truth like oh i slept in, i am broke, i was tired, i'm lazy, i don't care,.... anything but lie to my face and not show up. DH's dad's side always have an excuse so i don't expect them anymore. i send them invites and then its up to them if they wanna come. It mostly makes me upset because it lets DH down and I feel sad that his family does this to him. My family is always here and is always making an effort and I think seeing that makes DH mad that his family can't make the effort. Most of Dh's dad's side hasn't seen DD since she was born or maybe a little after. They always had an excuse... usually someone is always sick, or they decided to go on vacation THAT weekend (they don't work so its not like they couldn't have rescheduled and they knew about the party in advance). i just stopped having expectations. my DD is so cool and smart and they'll never know :P

Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" So damn rude. Why say you're coming or ask for an invite....just to completely ignore the invite or ... [snip!] ... 3 of the ones of who RSVPed showed up. It's like.."You got the f**king invite, so why not say you're coming or you're not?""


no one EVER rsvp's on DH's side. I have to message or call everyone to get a head count. I talk to my family often and i know they all usually come. there is only a few that i am never sure about, but if they say they are coming then they usually do. on DH's side, it's a guessing game as to who MIGHT come.

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
21st Oct '12

That's so rude because you plan on people coming and spend money on food for them and then they don't show up...it's a waste! We had people do that for our wedding to, at freaking $70/plate. And then the people that don't bother to RSVP at all...it's like, just tell me you can't make it, I'm not going to be offended. Or that don't RSVP and DO show up...I guess that's not as bad though.

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7869 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting mommy-in-a-blended-family:" Oh yes we heard all of the excuses too. I'd rather hear the truth like oh i slept in, i am broke, i ... [snip!] ... they knew about the party in advance). i just stopped having expectations. my DD is so cool and smart and they'll never know :P"


Exactly. My mom, grandma, and sister always go out of their way for us. My mom treats DH better than his own mom and dad have treated him. He looks at my parents like his...He knows who he can count on and it's not ONE member of his blood family. Which is sad....But they're the ones missing out!

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
21st Oct '12

The ones who don't come because they're broke (and I know I'll have a couple of those), I wish they'd be honest about it because I'd rather have them there than get a bunch of expensive stuff from them.

Brooke Cumberland TTC since Oct 2013; 1 child; Wisconsin 420 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" Exactly. My mom, grandma, and sister always go out of their way for us. My mom treats DH better than ... [snip!] ... knows who he can count on and it's not ONE member of his blood family. Which is sad....But they're the ones missing out!"


wow that is exactly the way our families are too!!! My family has done more for DH and his 2 kids (from previous marriage) than his own blood family has. I know its not a competition, but the fact that my dad and mom see DH more than his own says something right there. DH and I were raised very differently and had a very different childhood - mine was totally based on family values and being with family and lets just say, his was not. He calls my parents Mom and Pop and talks to them more than his own. It is sad because i wish his family would step up a bit and be closer to him, but you can't make people be in other people's lives.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6263 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" My baby shower was today. My mom put SO much effort and money into it. We had so many people say they ... [snip!] ... or buy his first and only grandchild something. I'm irritated, but very thankful for the family and friends that we do have."



You're not alone. I think maybe 20 people were at my shower, including almost 10 kids. None of SO's family came either. Best part was def my mom leaving my to cook everything at 33 weeks pregnant, with an hour left until the baby shower and then being a good 45 minutes late so not only did I have to get ready, and cook all the food I had to welcome all the guests and host them and deal with the real host being MIA. If only I f**king knew it would turn out the way it did I would have been adamant against it.

Sigh.. I hope your baby still got spoiled. I'm sorry people are shitty.

Landon's Mommy *+2* Due October 20; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Cincinnati, Ohio 14943 posts
21st Oct '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" So damn rude. Why say you're coming or ask for an invite....just to completely ignore the invite or ... [snip!] ... 3 of the ones of who RSVPed showed up. It's like.."You got the f**king invite, so why not say you're coming or you're not?""


That's a bunch of horse shit.



& I AGREE! People freaking suck.