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Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" I'll start :) I think you're as uncomfortable with yourself as everyone as is, but instead of doing ... [snip!] ... losing weight. I've also always wondered what your husband thinks and if he's one of those like "feed during sex" guys. "


I actually started this whole thing because people where being a*****es to fat people on here. True story.



Your theory would actually require me to promote habits that are unhealthy, which I don't. This statement also makes the assumption that I am not pursuing healthy habits in my own life. I don't encourage anyone to stay fat or get fat. I encourage positive self-acceptance and health at every size. If someone wants to go on a diet or lose weight, I do not discourage it for other people. I only encourage them to do it out of love for themselves, not hate.



My husband and I are not feeders. My husband is not even a chubby chaser. He just found himself attracted to me. Probably because I'm sassy, funny, a little bit crazy, and my ass is pretty sexy in a tight pair of jeans. He just likes me because of who I am and accepts me as a total package.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" You're prettier than me. And you're also nice. This frustrates me very much because if you are going ... [snip!] ... all over the show, you can at least be a bit of a b***h to make me feel better. Jeez, think of the rest of us :lol:"


Haha... Well, I will try to be more bitchy in the future....



And I don't think I'm prettier than you! :P

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" I'm all for woman loving themselves, but I don't think people should be encouraged to be fat, I think they should be encouraged to be their best. "


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I don't think that it's encouraging people to necessarily be fat. I think it's just a negative connotation for fat. I mean, with all the weight I have lost, I am still considered very obese, borderline morbidly obese for my height. Yet, according to all doctors tests, I'm healthy as anything, can run after my kids and yet I'm still fat.



I think there should just be a universal acceptance for who you are as a person. Your body image shouldn't come into play unless you want support to change it.

.Enigma. clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 106965 posts
23rd Oct '12

Honestly, its f**king redundant as hell.
but I have no problem whatsoever ignoring you.

rock on

You're not my demographic 1 child; Wisconsin 26883 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting Just Ames:" Taboo was about this before. The man (and woman) had a goal for her to "eat herself into immobility". ... [snip!] ... encouraging her to eat herself to death. And it's like, does she really want that? Or does she simply not want to be alone."

There was another show similar to that. I can't remember if it was on Dr. Phil or TLC or something but anyway the chick was trying to get the Guinness World Record for weight or some shit. Her family members all supported her...even though she already couldn't leave her house. Shit made no sense.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" If you're trying to teach body acceptance, regardless of size, why the heck do you have a "fat chat"?"


I made that space because of the barrage of fat hater that was going on in a few other threads. They can talk about their bodies and their stories without fear of being harassed because of it.

JΔS Georgia 74457 posts
status 23rd Oct '12
Quoting Just Ames:" And I've seen people be horribly rude to skinny women too. It works both ways toots. "


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Some people really need to get their head out of their gaping a*****es and realize that fat people aren't the only people who are ridiculed because of their body size. I know that first hand.

.Enigma. clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 106965 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" I'm all for woman loving themselves, but I don't think people should be encouraged to be fat, I think they should be encouraged to be their best. "


exactly



I'm all for positive body image and loving ones self.



and I have not seen any fat hating threads :?



However, I do constantly hear "real women have curves" :roll:

JΔS Georgia 74457 posts
status 23rd Oct '12
Quoting Fat-and-Happy:" I made that space because of the barrage of fat hater that was going on in a few other threads. They can talk about their bodies and their stories without fear of being harassed because of it."


I really have no idea where you are seeing a numerous amount of fat hating.

OmegaDucks! Japan 615 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" I have read about 5 or 10 of her threads over a period of time (maybe more) and I never got that message from any of them."


I guess it depends on your frame of mind when you go into reading them. If you think "fat is unhealthy no matter how you look at it" then you'll likely be appalled. When I go into reading the thread, I think "its a quote about self loving that happens to be directed at heavier people." I don't think of it any different than any other self actualization quote.



I don't think people should have to hate themselves because they happen to be overweight.

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" exactly I'm all for positive pody image and loving ones self. and I have not seen any fat hating threads :? However, I do constantly hear "real women have curves" :roll:"


Hate that saying. Makes me mad. Especially when people think I want to hear it because I'm bigger. It's like ... No, if we are gonna get into this, real women have XY chromosomes. And even then, if a bloke wants me to call him a she, hell, she's a she.

JΔS Georgia 74457 posts
status 23rd Oct '12
Quoting OmegaDucks!:" I guess it depends on your frame of mind when you go into reading them. If you think "fat is unhealthy ... [snip!] ... any other self actualization quote. I don't think people should have to hate themselves because they happen to be overweight."


I don't either but like I said, I never gathered that from the posts that I have read.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
23rd Oct '12
Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" Yeah I know to each their own ... But that can't possibly be good for them. I get liking bigger women ... [snip!] ... be good for their health. That makes me think about that woman who got ridiculously fat for her husband who then left her."


Yeah, I'm not into feederism at all, but different strokes for different folks. For me, it seems extreme.



I don't eat like that. I have a nutrition response doctor. I do health at every size. I'm about having a healthy relationship with food.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
23rd Oct '12

Well, I like the quotes.



If people don't, they can ignore them. Things are done daily like this to gain a larger audience who would not otherwise see them in an ongoing "chat" style thread. One post out of all the ones posted in a day is truly not that large an inconvenience for people to ignore if they don't want to see it.



It isn't like seeing "Fat and Happy" automatically shoves a cheeseburger into peoples mouths, makes them gain 100lbs, and somehow taints them from it's very presence on the sidebar.



Don't like them? Don't read them. *shrugs*

JΔS Georgia 74457 posts
status 23rd Oct '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" exactly I'm all for positive pody image and loving ones self. and I have not seen any fat hating threads :? However, I do constantly hear "real women have curves" :roll:"


I think that quote was made up by fat people who need to feel better about themselves. If only they knew that fat =/= curves. I'm skinny but I still have some curves. My body type doesn't make me a "real woman". So stupid.