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Thoughts Of... user banned
23rd Oct '12

My Parents Are Putting A Lot of Pressure on Me about me Being Pregnant. They think I wont be Able to Support my Child. Its Too Much Stress and Pressure building Upon me . She Threaten to send me to one of My Relatives Home if I decide to keep the baby. My parents think I wont have a Future because of the Baby. I'm Thinking of Putting the Baby in a Adoption Center, But I dont want to Me and My Bf are working hard to be Great Parents . Please Give Me some Advice !

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36457 posts
23rd Oct '12

I think you should put the baby up for adoption seeing that you are only 14 and you have your whole life ahead of you to be a wonderful mother.

♥MamaToSilas♥ 1 child; Illinois 9351 posts
status 23rd Oct '12

Do whatever you think is best for the baby. If you want to parent then do it. Its going to be hard work but many women have done it at a young age. If you're still in school make sure you keep to it!

kthx. TTC since Nov 2012; Cleves, Ohio 65265 posts
status 23rd Oct '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I think you should put the baby up for adoption seeing that you are only 14 and you have your whole life ahead of you to be a wonderful mother. "


:!: And, OP, financially... you CAN'T take care of a baby without your parents support. The only place that will hire you is McDonalds, and you can't raise a baby on minimum wage and strict work schedules due to being only 14. It's in the better interest of not only yourself, but your baby.

ambrahh 1 child; New Jersey 404 posts
23rd Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" :!: And, OP, financially... you CAN'T take care of a baby without your parents support. The only place ... [snip!] ... minimum wage and strict work schedules due to being only 14. It's in the better interest of not only yourself, but your baby."</blockquote>




Can you even get a job at McDonald's being 14? Around here there is really no where that will hire you unless you're 16.

kthx. TTC since Nov 2012; Cleves, Ohio 65265 posts
status 23rd Oct '12
Quoting ambrahh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" :!: And, OP, financially... you CAN'T take care ... [snip!] ... Can you even get a job at McDonald's being 14? Around here there is really no where that will hire you unless you're 16."


I *think* so. I think I started McDonalds at 15. I was in 9th grade. I think its 14 if you have a work permit from school.

♥MamaToSilas♥ 1 child; Illinois 9351 posts
status 23rd Oct '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I think you should put the baby up for adoption seeing that you are only 14 and you have your whole life ahead of you to be a wonderful mother. "


Wow I didn't even see that she was 14. Yeah OP I would have to agree with the other ladies..

ambrahh 1 child; New Jersey 404 posts
23rd Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" I *think* so. I think I started McDonalds at 15. I was in 9th grade. I think its 14 if you have a work permit from school."</blockquote>




Oh okay. Well even then..it's just close to impossible to raise a baby at 14 and work a steady job with good money, but also keep up in school..unless your parents were willing to take on full responsibility and which according to what she says they absolutely are not.



I agree with everyone else..

Believes in Miracles TTC since Feb 2006; 1 child; Florida 2546 posts
23rd Oct '12

We just adopted about ONE year ago and know that the Birthmom struggles with her decision but she knew that it was completely impossible for her to keep the baby. She is older (even older then myself and hubby) and can't work because of some medical conditions. We still see her all the time which is important to everyone. It took a lot of trust in both families to make it work. I hope that you can find something that will work for everyone, including what is best for your precious baby.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
23rd Oct '12

At 14, if you decide to keep the baby, its gonna take a lot to raise that baby, they need more than just love. You need to think if you can give this baby what it needs, if not, adoption is an option, and also so is abortion, if your parents were to agree to it. Take your time to really think, and do your research.

kthx. TTC since Nov 2012; Cleves, Ohio 65265 posts
status 23rd Oct '12
Quoting ambrahh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" I *think* so. I think I started McDonalds at 15. ... [snip!] ... to take on full responsibility and which according to what she says they absolutely are not. I agree with everyone else.."


Yep. And she can only work very very limited hours since she's so young. Like 10-15 hours a week, maybe? That's $105 before taxes... not nearly enough to even pay for diapers and basic necessities. If her parents were willing to help, I'd give her all the support in the world. but since they aren't... it's just... not possible for her to raise a baby right now.

-A- Due October 22; 1 child; Pearl City, Hawaii 1341 posts
23rd Oct '12

i got pregnant at 15 i did it, but also it helped that her dad had joined the military. If your parents don't support you emotionally or financially its going be real hard. My school helped me out also you can ask theres programs for like free daycare while your at school. Anything is possible only if you know you can make it though.

Melissa Mattingly 2 kids; Missouri 38 posts
23rd Oct '12

My cousin got pregnant at 14 and kept her son. She went through hell and back with the baby's dad ( who was 21). Maybe your bf is more responsible and will actually work hard to try to what's best for both of you but I'm assuming he's young too. Sometimes when guys realize how hard it is they turn and run the other way. So you have to consider what you will do if you keep this baby and the dad leaves. It's not impossible but you will have to give up everything and you will need your parents/ his parents finacial and emotional support. Having kids is the hardest thing you will ever do and I know at 14 I could have never raised a child

Veronika Karn Due January 22 (boy); Meridian, Idaho 117 posts
23rd Oct '12

it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks if you want to try and be a mom and be the best mother you can be then try. your parents are either going to eventually come around or not, but you gotta see it as this is your gain in life if you want to keep your baby, dont let anyone but yourself make that choice because you can and most likely will regret it later on.

Bri + One ♥ Due October 19; 1 child; Florida 4316 posts
23rd Oct '12

I agree with the other ladies. Though, it is very possible that you two could make it & be good parents at such a young age. But with the economy these days it is going to be extremely hard for you or your bf to get a good job. Especially since you are only 14, the only places that might hire you would have to be an under the table business. If somehow you can manage to get a job then it is very possible to support your baby with minimum wage. My aunt is caring for 3 children & she works at Waffle House 3 nights a week. That is her only income.




I hope everything works out for you & your LO. Don't make your decision based on what we had to say, but please keep it in mind.