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Beginning to feel down :/ Rachael Connelly94 1 child; St Neots, United Kingdom 4 posts
24th Oct '12

I had my beautiful baby girl 5 weeks early in July this year, however when myself and my ex partner found out I was pregnant in November last year, our relationship deteriorated.
I found out he cheated on me while I was 5 months pregnant and that killed me, so I moved out of our home, and into a hostel 30 miles away from anything and anyone.
After many apologies we had decided to try and stay together, however I decided I didn't want to move back in with him, not straight away anyway.
The rest of my pregnancy he came up and stayed with me and treated me like a princess with a couple of disagreements.
The night I had my daughter me & my ex had an argument, where he turned his phone off calling me a compulsive liar when I told him I was going into labour as I was 5 weeks early. After having to ring round all of his friends he eventually turned up to the hospital, and saw his little girl bought into the world.
Our relationship got better and he got a job and I thought things were looking up, I was looking at getting a place back in our hometown.
But when my little girl was 2 months old he just went downhill, started to take drugs, started lying and started shagging b****y l***l girls all behind my back,
Now my little girl is 4 months old he hasn't seen her since she was 2 months old as he attacked his mum whilst holding our daughter.
He got arrested and was remanded in custody for 2 weeks.
Since then I have moved back into our hometown and I've had his friends shouting abuse at me and one has even attacked me in the centre of the town because he 'only' smokes weed & he 'only' pushed his mum, when there is far more to it all. I never wanted to stop him seeing our little girl, I never wanted our relationship to get as bad as it has. I loved him more than anything, being with him for 2 and a half years, living together for a year of that, I feel like I've lost my best friend through drugs and I just need some help & advice?

Jadejynx Due December 31; 1 child; United Kingdom 44 posts
24th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rachael Connelly94:</b>" I had my beautiful baby girl 5 weeks early in July this year, however when myself and my ex partner found ... [snip!] ... living together for a year of that, I feel like I've lost my best friend through drugs and I just need some help & advice?"</blockquote>



:( I feel for u Hun that's really sad, you can go one of two ways really support him in trying to give up the drugs and become a family man, if he wants to that is? Or keep away an get legal action taken against him to keep him away if u think he could in any way be a danger to you or your babies, it's not worth the risk if he doesn't want to be helped he takes that choice of being in kids life away from himself,I can't imagine how u r feeling but know that u have managed to bring two healthy kids to this world and have been bringing them up so u have been doing it and can do it! U r what they need first and foremost! So just make sure they c u at your best and c that u love and want them and u cnt go far wrong xx

Rachael Connelly94 1 child; St Neots, United Kingdom 4 posts
24th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jadejynx:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rachael Connelly94:</b>" I had my beautiful baby girl 5 weeks ... [snip!] ... they need first and foremost! So just make sure they c u at your best and c that u love and want them and u cnt go far wrong xx"</blockquote>




Hey, I've got one baby, and I have offered my support and help, with his drug problem, successfully getting over it a year ago, but since I moved out it has just come back 100x worse. When he is sober he is amazing & I just miss the good times :/
I've been to court and got the legal support I need, he's not allowed near me, his mum or his daughter. He has already broken the non-molesestation order literally a week since its been granted :/ and the police won't do anything about it :/
I wanted his involvement with our little girl offering chance after chance but he wasn't interested and now he is its too late... I really don't know what to do...

Jadejynx Due December 31; 1 child; United Kingdom 44 posts
24th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rachael Connelly94:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jadejynx:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rachael Connelly94:</b>" ... [snip!] ... girl offering chance after chance but he wasn't interested and now he is its too late... I really don't know what to do..."</blockquote>




I would do what u think is best for you and your kids. I would stay away but it's your choice to be made Hun :( if he's not interested there's not muh you can do but be a good mum and soldier on x*x