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Losing weight/wedding vent. ♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5836 posts
26th Oct '12

I've always been bigger than my sister. She's been tall, skinny, and tan her whole life, and I've been the fat sister with the huge boobs. (I never wanted to lose weight, b/c I loved my boobs, and didn't want to lose them, lol) But after 3 kids, she's plumped out a little.
I've lost 40 pounds since July, and I'm getting close to the weight she is now,



She's getting married in January, I'm supposed to be her MOH, and she's threatening to take me out of the wedding if I don't stop losing weight.
This is complete bullshit.
I get that she doesn't want to be upstaged, (which I have no intention of doing), but I find it ridiculous what she's asking of me. I'm doing it to better my health, not to make her, or anyone else upset.
I have done everything I could to help her plan her wedding, and she's treating me like shit, all because I want to be considered healthy on the BMI charts, and be fucking healthy.
/vent.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
26th Oct '12

She sounds lovely, lol



Have you offered to help her take off her weight? Maybe it could be something the two of you can bond over.

Harajuku Girl TTC since Nov 2014; 3 kids; Your House, NY, United States 16137 posts
26th Oct '12

That's pretty fucking ridiculous of selfish of her :?

Schmayder ♥ 1 child; Iowa 11769 posts
26th Oct '12
Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" I've always been bigger than my sister. She's been tall, skinny, and tan her whole life, and I've been ... [snip!] ... and she's treating me like shit, all because I want to be considered healthy on the BMI charts, and be fucking healthy. /vent."


That is fucking rediculous!! I'm sorry mama idk what i'd do in that situation:shock::?

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
26th Oct '12

My sister isn't in my wedding party cos everyone always compares me to her :oops: And she's a total bitch but mainly cos everyone in my family goes on about how it's sad I'm not as pretty as her.



I would tell her that you are losing weight to better your health and you would hope as your sister she would support you in that. And if she wants to join you in your weight loss journey, she is more than welcome

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5836 posts
26th Oct '12
Quoting A❤T=P+[It's a Girl:" She sounds lovely, lol Have you offered to help her take off her weight? Maybe it could be something the two of you can bond over."

Yes, we started couch to 5K together, and she never finished. I did. Now, she's pissed about it. I've offered to go to her house, and do 30 Day Shred, or anything else she wanted to... she's always busy.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
26th Oct '12
Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" I've always been bigger than my sister. She's been tall, skinny, and tan her whole life, and I've been ... [snip!] ... and she's treating me like shit, all because I want to be considered healthy on the BMI charts, and be fucking healthy. /vent."


I'd tell her to shove it.



Brides are freaking nuts sometimes, and they need to realize the world doesn't revolve around them. She shouldn't tell you "you need to be unhealthy because I'm too insecure to have you healthy and possibly upstage me." That's complete BS. I can't stand women who go all bridezilla like that.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5836 posts
26th Oct '12
Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" My sister isn't in my wedding party cos everyone always compares me to her :oops: And she's a total bitch ... [snip!] ... your sister she would support you in that. And if she wants to join you in your weight loss journey, she is more than welcome"

I have told her, but she told me that she 'already has the dress altered.'
:roll:

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
26th Oct '12
Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" I have told her, but she told me that she 'already has the dress altered.' :roll: "


There's plenty of time between now and January!

Melissa + 2 :) 2 kids; Traverse City, Michigan 3069 posts
26th Oct '12

My sister cried because we were tanning together and i got tanner than her at her wedding and she cried to mom.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5836 posts
26th Oct '12

She was a bridesmaid in my wedding, and was a complete bitch. I've done everything she asked me to, spent any money on HER wedding that she's asked me to, and I get this shit.
I'm sitting here crying, I'm so pissed.



I'm about to just tell her to take me out of it.
My health is more important than her selfishness.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5836 posts
26th Oct '12
Quoting Melissa :) 8 weeks!:" My sister cried because we were tanning together and i got tanner than her at her wedding and she cried to mom."

Sounds like something mine would do.

Mom2William&Michael 2 kids; 1 angel baby; New York 7600 posts
26th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" I'd tell her to shove it. Brides are freaking nuts sometimes, and they need to realize the world doesn't ... [snip!] ... insecure to have you healthy and possibly upstage me." That's complete BS. I can't stand women who go all bridezilla like that."


This a million times. Fuck that.



At my wedding, I was 3 months PP and I was like 200+ lbs (and I'm short, too). My maid of honor was my tall, thin, gorgeous best friend. She looked way better than I did but people were still paying attention to me because it was my day.

Olive ♥ 1 child; North Carolina 4902 posts
26th Oct '12

Tell her to stop being fucking bridezilla and shove it. If she can't accept that, then take yourself out of the wedding and continue to be healthy :) When she sees how amazing you look at the wedding I bet she'll wish she worked out with you!

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
26th Oct '12
Quoting Mama to William + 1:" This a million times. Fuck that. At my wedding, I was 3 months PP and I was like 200+ lbs (and I'm ... [snip!] ... gorgeous best friend. She looked way better than I did but people were still paying attention to me because it was my day."


Exactly! Some people are just crazy. I really just can't even understand how people can be just total bitches about weddings.