Reply
lonely.. Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
27th Oct '12

lately i've been really lonely all my friends have seemed to abandon me , i guess since i cant party anymore whats the point in having me around. i'm a single momma my baby daddy hasn't been involved since i was 9 weeks. and i'm always fighting with my family and since i'm hormonal i cry over it . it doesn't help that they're just mean. i just am so sick of feeling alone all the time... my daughters the only thing that keeps me going anymore..

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7881 posts
27th Oct '12

I'm sorry you feel that way! Don't look at it as you CAN'T party. Look at it as....You are growing up. You have different things to think about. Different things to worry about. Plus, why would you want to go out and party, when you have a wonderful little girl to look forward to?



I suggest you try to understand why you and your family fight, and try to avoid those situations. If you always argue...or a fight is triggered by something...avoid the trigger.



Find someone to confide in. Your mom? Your dad? A sister? A aunt? Someone. Let them know how you feel. Also.............Don't ever hesitate to come here! A lot of us are experiencing similar things as you.



I lost all of my friends when I got married at 20. I had someone to spend all my time with and all they wanted to do was the same old boring immature and irresponsible things. We ALL lose our friends, for whatever reason. There is no such thing as "friends forever." I have some good friends that I've known for years that I keep in contact with...........But as a wife and a soon to be mother, my life is wrapped up in other ways.

Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
27th Oct '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I'm sorry you feel that way! Don't look at it as you CAN'T party. Look at it as....You are growing up. ... [snip!] ... for years that I keep in contact with...........But as a wife and a soon to be mother, my life is wrapped up in other ways."


i understand that im growing up and i dont really want to go to partys and things like tht. im trying to be a good mommy. and i think me and my family fight because of the fact im so used to not living here and living on my own tht i forgot what it was like here and they forgot what it was like having me here and now that im here everyone but my mom wants me to leave... and they dont hide it. this is just so hard because i thought when your pregnant your supposed to be happy i mean i am happy about my little girl but when i think about any other aspect of my life i wanna cry... i dont mean to sound like a whine ass but this is not what i expected my first pregnancy to be like granted i didnt expect to get pregnant so young and i dint expect to be a single mom but i tought i would be happier with my life...

Demitreia Moore 1 child; Ontario 56 posts
27th Oct '12

Oh , I know the feeling. For me the only person I have is my boyfriend and my mom. I'm lucky enough to see my bestfriend once within a month. I've been depressed for quite a while in my pregnancy and my daughter is the only one who makes me happy anymore aside from my boyfriend. But, I just look at it as, I'd rather be making a life for myself rather then out drinking my life away like almost every teen out there. Im proud of myself and any teen mom, you should be proud of yourself for taking on the responsibility of raising your child :) Chin up, message me if you every need to talk. I'm sure we have a lot in common,

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7881 posts
27th Oct '12
Quoting Gemmas mommy!:" i understand that im growing up and i dont really want to go to partys and things like tht. im trying ... [snip!] ... i didnt expect to get pregnant so young and i dint expect to be a single mom but i tought i would be happier with my life... "


That's the thing..........Pregnancy is NEVER how it is expected. It's not something you can predict.



If the trigger with your family is that you do things that you normally do because you're on your own, just be a little more careful. Don't step on anyones toes, don't have an attitude, do your part of keeping up the house, etc. Don't let pregnancy become a handicap to you.



You're pregnant, but you can still do everything you could before. Find new ways to enjoy life! Maybe join a local "mommy to mommy" group on Facebook and make some new friends? Find something that makes YOU happy and something you enjoy! Maybe pick up some part-time work? Don't wait for someone else to make you happy, do it yourself while you still can.



My life is nothing like what I wanted it to be when I got pregnant. My husband and I are struggling financially and it feels like we'll never be back on our feet, I've had a rough pregnancy with my health, etc......But.....I still find things that make me happy. Whether it be watching a funny video on the internet.....Cooking and eating a sit down dinner with my husband.....watching a movie I love....Enjoy little things, let big things take care of themselves.

Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
27th Oct '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" That's the thing..........Pregnancy is NEVER how it is expected. It's not something you can predict. ... [snip!] ... a sit down dinner with my husband.....watching a movie I love....Enjoy little things, let big things take care of themselves."


thank you for your advice it really helps. and im going to keep it in mind and see if it works with my family. thank you.

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
27th Oct '12

I felt the same way when I got pregnant and 19 and my BD abandoned me...I had to drop out of college and move back in with my parents, and I was super depressed for the longest time because I felt like my friends forgot about me. They didn't seem to understand that I couldn't just drop everything and go out with them on a moment's noticed, and eventually they lost interest and didn't really make an effort to include me anymore. They never really seemed interested in hanging out with me and DS.



Becoming a young parent makes it really hard to relate to your friends because your priorities shift so much...you have to grow up very quickly and they more than likely haven't grown up and are still into the same immature things. I've found it much easier to connect with other parents...you just naturally have more in common and more things to talk about, and they understand the need to schedule and plan things in advance, as well as include the kids. I've been fortunate enough to find some good friends my age who are also parents.



Do you work or go to school? I found that helped me to meet new people and just get me out of the house for a while so I wasn't sitting and wallowing in my depression! And of course there's always people on here that understand what you're going through.

Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
27th Oct '12
Quoting Lizzle06:" I felt the same way when I got pregnant and 19 and my BD abandoned me...I had to drop out of college ... [snip!] ... sitting and wallowing in my depression! And of course there's always people on here that understand what you're going through."


i was going to school but i decided to get my GED partly because i started at a new school this year and people were saying horrible things about me that weren't true.. but mostly because Gemmas going to be born im febuary and i wont have anyone to watch her while im at school and i have to put her first.