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Emmiboo 1 child; United Kingdom 3270 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting Fat-and-Happy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" Bigger girls wearing the shirt PROPERLY: ^ They ... [snip!] ... point across better? Is it because none of their rolls are showing? Seriously, I'm genuinely curious why this is more proper."


I believe people should wear whatever they like in whatever size they like but they do get a better reaction if they dress for their size. I can only imagine that's because by dressing in well fitting pants, shirt, skirt etc they are showing that they know their body well enough to know what fits and if they are trying to give out a message about loving your body, feeling great in your body then that message can be taken more seriously when the one doing the demonstration looks like they've taken the time to get to know her body and what true size it is and what clothes fit it best. That goes for bodies of every size.
I wouldn't take body/clothes/size advice off someone that looked like a bag of shit......... but I respect their right to look like a bag of shit.

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14986 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting Fat-and-Happy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" Bigger girls wearing the shirt PROPERLY: ^ They ... [snip!] ... point across better? Is it because none of their rolls are showing? Seriously, I'm genuinely curious why this is more proper."


I was wondering the same thing. All of their outfits, including the girl's in the OP, are equally as unflattering and share the same message.

MyPurrrtyBabies 3 kids; Alabama 8386 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting [[Breezy]]:" I was wondering the same thing. All of their outfits, including the girl's in the OP, are equally as unflattering and share the same message."


yep, like I said the ONLY difference I see is the girl in the OP is showing her belly.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
30th Oct '12

Her stretch pants don't scream confidence to me.



It screams ' look at me! I am overweight and wearing these skin tight camel toe pants as a means to show you how confident I am in an edgy way. woot!'

Naturally Alternative 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 6489 posts
31st Oct '12
Quoting Emmiboo:" I wouldn't take body/clothes/size advice off someone that looked like a bag of shit......... but I respect their right to look like a bag of shit."



AMEN

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
31st Oct '12

I think confidence is pretty important..i do not find those girls to be confident just because of what they're doing...almost the opposite actually. That's more like a hey I'm not that confident in who i am and how i look so i need to scream it to the world so they will believe me

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14986 posts
31st Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Turd Ferguson:</b>" Her stretch pants don't scream confidence to me. It screams ' look at me! I am overweight and wearing these skin tight camel toe pants as a means to show you how confident I am in an edgy way. woot!'"</blockquote>



Lol right...that's basically what the whole "fat and confident" movement (for lack of a better word) screams. There's no true message in this demonstration...like, you really feel the need to go out and form a demo group to spread the word that you're, Uh, confident?....kaaaay..

Emmiboo 1 child; United Kingdom 3270 posts
31st Oct '12

I'm not entirely sure I understand what the demonstration is saying anyway. The shirts say 'fuck flattering' which to my interpretation says 'to hell with wearing flattering clothes'. Wearing bad clothes is not exclusive to overweight people so I don't understand the woman in the picture's point. Is she proud to wear badly fitting clothes? Is she proud to be big? Does she think the 2 are the same?...... because I am big yet I wear flattering, well fitting clothes (most of the time lol).

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
1st Nov '12

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Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
1st Nov '12

I'm shocked this thread is still going. Just so it's clear, the fact that she is wearing a shirt that says "Fuck Flattering" and clearly protesting had nothing to do with my choosing that photo. I didn't pick that picture specifically because of those factors.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
1st Nov '12
Quoting Emmiboo:" I'm not entirely sure I understand what the demonstration is saying anyway. The shirts say 'fuck flattering' ... [snip!] ... Does she think the 2 are the same?...... because I am big yet I wear flattering, well fitting clothes (most of the time lol)."


I think it is more of a way to make fatter bodies visible because media doesn't tend to represent fatties in a positive light (headless fatties during news stories about the obesity epidemic). Like showing girls who are fatter that they don't have to hide their bodies and be ashamed and spreading the message that they can be beautiful too. It's like the opposite of the idea that bigger girls need to wear tents and hide their bodies. I don't really think they are encouraging people to dress like them. It is a multi-layered message. Maybe a who cares if someone doesn't think you are attractive, you still have the right to have pride in your body. IDK...

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
1st Nov '12
Quoting Snotface♫[usmc]:" I'm shocked this thread is still going. Just so it's clear, the fact that she is wearing a shirt that ... [snip!] ... protesting had nothing to do with my choosing that photo. I didn't pick that picture specifically because of those factors. "


So it was more of the issue about confidence being the thing that is most important over looks? I think that confidence is very important. People notice you more and you have a bigger presence. You present yourself more positively. I think that our thoughts shape our reality. If we act as if we are confident then people will treat us as such. If we act as if we have low-self esteem and present that to the world then other people will respond accordingly, thus shaping reality.

Snow 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
1st Nov '12
Quoting Fat-and-Happy:" So it was more of the issue about confidence being the thing that is most important over looks? I think ... [snip!] ... as if we have low-self esteem and present that to the world then other people will respond accordingly, thus shaping reality."


The whole point of the thread is in the OP and the title. "Is confidence everything?"

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
1st Nov '12
Quoting Snotface♫[usmc]:" The whole point of the thread is in the OP and the title. "Is confidence everything?" "


Yeah, I know. The conversation just went in another direction. I was just posting my opinions on the confidence thing. It's not everything but it is a major component. No matter what size you are, a lack of confidence is going to be hindering.

Turd Ferguson Bangkok, Thailand 4583 posts
1st Nov '12

Well people on the news probably have to be protected by not showing their face.



Either because they were filmed without expressed consent or, well they asked not to have their face shown.



Because obesity isn't something most people are proud of. I am accepting of all walks of life, shape, color and size, but it's true. Why would one want to their face shown on a news piece about obesity?