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Things in common. Phf- ee bee;) Due January 26 (girl); 18 kids; Pennsylvania 5310 posts
29th Oct '12

How important is it to have things in common w/ your spouse? If you had basically NOTHING in common- would you marry them?




I know they say opposites attract, do you believe it? Can opposites be happily married?

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46565 posts
status 29th Oct '12

I think it is important to have some things in common, but not everything.



I believe that "opposites attract", but I don't necessarily believe that "opposites have the best marriages".

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
29th Oct '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting forgive-n let*love:</b>" How important is it to have things in common w/ your spouse? If you had basically NOTHING in common- ... [snip!] ... in common- would you marry them? I know they say opposites attract, do you believe it? Can opposites be happily married?"</blockquote>




My DH is a introvert, home body, gamer. I am outspoken, hate being at home without a purpose, and generally only use my phone to surf BG and the internet. We are pretty opposite, our political beliefs are similar in finances and foreign policy but vary vastly on social issues. We are happily married. We just struggled in the beginning to "like" the other one's likes....didn't work. LOL We don't need to do everything together so some things we don't.

Chef Sarah ♥ Due May 11; 1 child; Hollywood, FL, United States 10450 posts
status 29th Oct '12

I think opposites can be happily married as long as they respect each other. My SO loves old movies and I hate them but I watch them with him sometimes anyway. I love watching Law & Order SVU and he hates it but watches it anyway. I think there should be give and take with any relationship. The fact that you try to understand at least is what matters, you know?

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
29th Oct '12

I think that whether or not opposites attract depends on the individuals. I'm not attracted to the opposite, I find it more attractive the more we have in common. I also think that when you have more in common, you tend to agree on more, which means less arguing... but that's just my opinion.

Avery 1 child; Arizona 2709 posts
29th Oct '12

I have a lot in common with my SO I don

MamaTay[Kennedi] 1 child; Greenville, Texas 4878 posts
29th Oct '12

I think you need to have something in common with your SO. My parents only have my brothers sports in common, and hes going to graduate in 2013. And now, when they have spats, its always "we have nothing in common." Which is sad in my eyes.

MamaCass{+JOE} 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Pennsylvania 42358 posts
29th Oct '12

I think it's pretty important to have some common ground. My SO and I have a ton in common, but we also have a lot of things that we like/believe/do differently. We have a happy little balance going on.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
29th Oct '12

I think big things are important. Like we are both religious and share political views but in a bag of chex mix we like the things the others hate which is awesome

geni (: Due September 9 (girl); 33 kids; Texas 84 posts
6th Nov '12

My DH have only the big things in common. How we manage our money, how to raise our children, God.
but little things we have nothing in common.. he is a homebody, i am not.
I dislike his music, he dislikes mine. taste in clothes.




I agree you have to give and take in marriages.

EnnaBennaBanana Due February 2; 2 kids; Maryland 6195 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting forgive-n let*love:" How important is it to have things in common w/ your spouse? If you had basically NOTHING in common- ... [snip!] ... in common- would you marry them? I know they say opposites attract, do you believe it? Can opposites be happily married?"


My husband and I don't share alot of the same intrests. lol
BUT we both love God and put our fam first.
That's what matters to me.
So yes Opposites can be happily married.