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meeting his mom this weekend ~*My heart is complete*~ 1 child; Hudson, Florida 1498 posts
30th Oct '12

I'm so nervous! We've been dating a little over a month and his mom lives out of town, so this weekend we're gonna take a little trip to see her. I don't know if I should bring my son. I want to and at the same time I don't. What would you do? I think I'm going to since I love having my little man around and 2 because I really don't want her to think I pass my kid off all the time. Any tips for meeting the parents??

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting ~*My heart is complete*~:" I'm so nervous! We've been dating a little over a month and his mom lives out of town, so this weekend ... [snip!] ... man around and 2 because I really don't want her to think I pass my kid off all the time. Any tips for meeting the parents??"


Personally, a month into a new relationship, my kid wouldn't know the new guy and neither would the parents. Actually, I wouldn't bother to meet the parents until I was more stable in the relationship. That is just me.



For you, do what makes you feel comfortable. If that means leaving your child with your mom or a sitter until you get to know his parents better, so be it. Just be yourself.

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
30th Oct '12

My SO wouldn't have met Addie by a month. I definitely wouldn't be debating bringing her to see his mom. That's way too fast.

Cattails TTC since Oct 2011; 64 kids; North Carolina 857 posts
20th Nov '12

Just wondering why ya'll wouldn't want the person you're dating to meet your child early on? If I were in that situation I'd view it as a whole package deal, they'd probably meet them on the second date. If the kid makes them uncomfortable, they aren't ready for me.

kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
20th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Cattails:</b>" Just wondering why ya'll wouldn't want the person you're dating to meet your child early on? If I were ... [snip!] ... package deal, they'd probably meet them on the second date. If the kid makes them uncomfortable, they aren't ready for me. "</blockquote>




Because I wouldn't want my kids to go through that stress.

Cattails TTC since Oct 2011; 64 kids; North Carolina 857 posts
20th Nov '12
Quoting kitermom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Cattails:</b>" Just wondering why ya'll wouldn't want the person ... [snip!] ... them uncomfortable, they aren't ready for me. "</blockquote> Because I wouldn't want my kids to go through that stress."


But can't they just be a friend in the kids eyes? Do you keep your kids from acquaintances?

kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
21st Nov '12
Quoting Cattails:" But can't they just be a friend in the kids eyes? Do you keep your kids from acquaintances? "


No but there usually a difference on how people act around SO. Granted some people can hang out with there SO and the kids have no clue but in most cases that's not true. I know I would have a hard time doing that. One of our best friends has been dating a girl for a year and he still hasn't meet the daughter because they are very casually dating and I give her so much respect for guarding her daughter's heart.

~*My heart is complete*~ 1 child; Hudson, Florida 1498 posts
21st Nov '12

My lo is 2 and has no signs of being affected by him being around. He doesn't ask for him when he leaves or cry. He knows him as will. When I met his boys their older and I was daddys friend and they didn't seem to mind.

~*My heart is complete*~ 1 child; Hudson, Florida 1498 posts
21st Nov '12

My lo is 2 and has no signs of being affected by him being around. He doesn't ask for him when he leaves or cry. He knows him as will. When I met his boys their older and I was daddys friend and they didn't seem to mind.