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Cast Your Vote:

    • Yes I've regretted having more kids. -- Votes: 0
    • No Im happy -- Votes: 17
    • Occasionally I doubt our decision -- Votes: 4
Regret No Earth Mother 2 kids; Darlington, United Kingdom 7431 posts
30th Oct '12

Random thought:
Having already got a kid have you ever regretted having another one?

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
30th Oct '12

Nah. Sometimes i have nostalgic moments of when it was just me 'n my son on our own, and where we'd be now if it was still just us, but i would never change anything.

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6849 posts
30th Oct '12

No I don't regret it at all.

No Earth Mother 2 kids; Darlington, United Kingdom 7431 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting KNZ.:" Nah. Sometimes i have nostalgic moments of when it was just me 'n my son on our own, and where we'd be now if it was still just us, but i would never change anything. "


Yeah that pretty much sums me up. Really undecided on whether we want baby no 3. A couple of months ago it was a definite no, now its a definite maybe now things have got easier.
Very undecided.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting Lauren ♥:" Random thought: Having already got a kid have you ever regretted having another one?"


Sometimes. It isn't that I wish I didn't have my son (my youngest) but I think "gosh, if I only had one this would be so much easier."



Like, going to the park, or wanting to take the kids swimming on my own. I can't do a lot because I can't handle two toddlers on my own. If I'd only had one kid, then I could do a lot of things that I just cna't right now.



But, I'm glad I had two, because there are a lot of advantages also.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting Lauren ♥:" Yeah that pretty much sums me up. Really undecided on whether we want baby no 3. A couple of months ago it was a definite no, now its a definite maybe now things have got easier. Very undecided."


I feel ya. Mine was an odd situation where we separated for two years after our daughter, then when we got back together, dude was having baby fever, BAD. Financially 'n everything we knew we'd be fine, but it definitely wasn't the best timing for me (trying to finally finish up with my BA, etc :() buuut, i mean, we're happy now, but like you're saying, the idea kinda grew on me til i was okay with it.

No Earth Mother 2 kids; Darlington, United Kingdom 7431 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Sometimes. It isn't that I wish I didn't have my son (my youngest) but I think "gosh, if I only had ... [snip!] ... I could do a lot of things that I just cna't right now. But, I'm glad I had two, because there are a lot of advantages also."


Yeah true, I think its probably a more common thought in parents with two kids. I think the difference having one kid and the difference between having two kids is massive.

Mrs. Post-tato Head 4 kids; 1 angel baby; 6849 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting Lauren ♥:" Yeah that pretty much sums me up. Really undecided on whether we want baby no 3. A couple of months ago it was a definite no, now its a definite maybe now things have got easier. Very undecided."


I think that's pretty normal. We went back and forth on number four for over a year before we finally decided to TTC.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting Lauren ♥:" Yeah true, I think its probably a more common thought in parents with two kids. I think the difference having one kid and the difference between having two kids is massive."


It really is. Just simple things. Like, wanting to go swimming. I can't take two toddlers to the pool, so now they can't swim until their father gets home to help. If the younger one is fussy, the older one doesn't get to do stuff sometimes, because we have to compromise.



It's a big adjustment, and there are times when I wish I only had one (not a specific kid or anything, just when I think about taking ONE kid instead of two).

No Earth Mother 2 kids; Darlington, United Kingdom 7431 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting KNZ.:" I feel ya. Mine was an odd situation where we separated for two years after our daughter, then when ... [snip!] ... with my BA, etc :() buuut, i mean, we're happy now, but like you're saying, the idea kinda grew on me til i was okay with it. "


Very odd. Lol. Yeah I have my baby fever days, financially we're very secure so that isnt an issue. I dunno.
I just dont know if we could cope with a third baby?
Well I guess i have plenty of time to make the decision as I would be TTC for about 3 years ish.

KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Sometimes. It isn't that I wish I didn't have my son (my youngest) but I think "gosh, if I only had ... [snip!] ... I could do a lot of things that I just cna't right now. But, I'm glad I had two, because there are a lot of advantages also."


This too. It was just my son and I til he was 5, and those years were just...awesome. So much freedom to do whatever we wanted, then throw a baby (and now 2 :P) in the mix and it's definitely a big change. Not a bad one, but a big one.

No Earth Mother 2 kids; Darlington, United Kingdom 7431 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting Mrs. Post-tato Head
KNZ. 3 kids; Washington 59255 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting Lauren ♥:" Very odd. Lol. Yeah I have my baby fever days, financially we're very secure so that isnt an issue. ... [snip!] ... cope with a third baby? Well I guess i have plenty of time to make the decision as I would be TTC for about 3 years ish. "


Oh yeah, i feel ya. I seriously panic a little when i think about how i'm going to handle baby 3. I think if anything, you won't 'regret' it, you'll just need the time to be fully on board with the idea :) Your kiddos are so cute, baby 3 would be fun :)

No Earth Mother 2 kids; Darlington, United Kingdom 7431 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting KNZ.:" This too. It was just my son and I til he was 5, and those years were just...awesome. So much freedom ... [snip!] ... whatever we wanted, then throw a baby (and now 2 :P) in the mix and it's definitely a big change. Not a bad one, but a big one."


Yeah I think its probably the ease of having just the one kidder to think of that I miss.
I definitely dont regret DD I just miss how easy it was before.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
30th Oct '12
Quoting KNZ.:" This too. It was just my son and I til he was 5, and those years were just...awesome. So much freedom ... [snip!] ... whatever we wanted, then throw a baby (and now 2 :P) in the mix and it's definitely a big change. Not a bad one, but a big one."


Exactly! My daughter was only 14 months old when I had my son (and she was delayed and a preemie, so her adjusted age was 11 months). It was a huge adjustment, and because they're so close in age there are so many things I just can't do on my own with them. I'm a SAHM, so it sucks that we can't go to the pool during the day because it isn't safe with two little ones.



So, yeah. I miss that I never really had that one on one time with either of them also, since I had him so soon.