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Olive ♥ 1 child; North Carolina 4902 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting snglemama:" oh , she left him. Haha.. we ended up talking on the phone for hours. I wanted her to knwo it all, ... [snip!] ... today... good sign. I hope. he's so damn nice though... he could also be the type to just keep responding so he's not rude"

That's a good sign! Has he made the move yet and asked you out? :)



Last night I was considering making a profile on okcupid or pof. But online dating kinda scares me! It can be hard weeding through the creeps. Then I always think about a Lifetime movie I saw about some woman that got murdered by her online date. :shock: Maybe I'll just start mingling in grocery stores.. hahah.

Mama Mallo (: 2 kids; Texas 6514 posts
3rd Nov '12

I SO wanna join this :-)
I haven't been with my sons father since July 2010. I started dating someone the very next month and we were together a few months shy of 2 years. We broke up when I found out he had a 7 month old child with one of his kids moms and never told me about him. He had been sleeping with all three of us.. plus other random chicks he met the entire time. I was really heart broken. To his day, he still asks me to come back too. O_O He was really the best sex I ever had, and like you OP, I thought that was how it would be with the person I'd end up with. Make sense? Turns out there are way more important things, rofl.



I started dating Daniel in august of this year, so going on three months and it's been damn near perfect so far :-) but I have a hard time trusting after all the crap I've dealt with.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting Olive ♥:" That's a good sign! Has he made the move yet and asked you out? :) Last night I was considering making ... [snip!] ... I saw about some woman that got murdered by her online date. :shock: Maybe I'll just start mingling in grocery stores.. hahah."


in my experience, grocery store only works in sitcoms! lol



idk.. he asked me again at the end of our first.. meeting.. but hasnt' mentioned it again. And.. he's not flirty.. idk. Not sure. Going to back off and see what happens.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting Mama Mallo (::" I SO wanna join this :-) I haven't been with my sons father since July 2010. I started dating someone ... [snip!] ... on three months and it's been damn near perfect so far :-) but I have a hard time trusting after all the crap I've dealt with."


hi and welcome!



I wish I weren't so sexual. I dated one really great guy, but the sex was really bad. Like.. can't feel it... annoyingly bad. we're still friends, and I still frequently wonder if I could deal with it. But. I know I'd end up cheating. I need sex, and need it to be at least halfway good.



FYI... I'm super blunt and open lol. figured a chat thread is better than posting a new one constantly so it's different people and going to the sidebar everytime!

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
3rd Nov '12

what is normal when you start talking to someone? haha.. I'm used to being pursued! if a guy is interested.. I'm used to frequent texting, flirting etc...



so, we chatted some with words with friends yesterday... but no flirty stuff. I told him he had a nice smile.. he said thanks... that was about the extent of it. no word from him today. Not that I expect to hear from him everyday... but, just getting a vibe that he isn't interested.



why did he ask for my number if he isnt' going to use it?

Roll Dawg 1 child; Dallas, Texas 1477 posts
3rd Nov '12

When is the right time to introduce the new guy to the babies?



Usually I would say a while, but after watching 'Think like a man' My perspective has changed a little.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting Roll Dawg:" When is the right time to introduce the new guy to the babies? Usually I would say a while, but after watching 'Think like a man' My perspective has changed a little."



I havne't seen think like a man... or even know what that is. But.. I dont' care what hte man thinks lol... I care more about screening my guy before meeting the kids.'



I think.. it depends on the kids, how old they are, how your relationship is with them, and their maturity level.



My kids have met 2 guys. First one.. I loved dearly, planned to move in with, and eventually marry. When we broke up.. the kids took it REALLY hard. I waited until I was sure about him, and dont' regret it, but it was still hard.



I dated others, and my kids told me they felt left out of my "other life" when they weren't around. (dad has 50% custody). I explained it wasn't healthy for them to meet every guy i date, but woudl tell them. We have an open honest relationship. Next relationship.... I waited 2 months. I explained to my kids that we were dating, good friends, but that I would NEVER marry him. THey still wanted to meet him. So... they did. He's great with them. We remind them occasionally that we will never get married, and they're ok with that. I dont' want them to ever hope, or pretend something that isnt' there. We're kinda on again and off again. but are still good friends.



just... never use your kids to screen your guy. WHen I hear women say they want the guy to meet the kids to make sure they can handle it, or to make sure their intentions are good... it turns my stomach

.legendTAYry. 1 child; Hawaii 41570 posts
3rd Nov '12

Hello ladies. I want to join. :D



I split with my sons dad three months ago, and am abt to be with my now boyfriend for almost a month. We are coworkers.




We live in Hawaii and he is possibly moving to CA in 3 months.



We haven't said I love you or anything. He has met my so but we aren't affectionate in front of him.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting .tay.:" Hello ladies. I want to join. :D I split with my sons dad three months ago, and am abt to be with my ... [snip!] ... to CA in 3 months. We haven't said I love you or anything. He has met my so but we aren't affectionate in front of him."


hey lady! happy to have you join us!



: P for not responding to my PM!

Roll Dawg 1 child; Dallas, Texas 1477 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting snglemama:" I havne't seen think like a man... or even know what that is. But.. I dont' care what hte man thinks ... [snip!] ... want the guy to meet the kids to make sure they can handle it, or to make sure their intentions are good... it turns my stomach"


The book/movie says not to invest to much time before you let the man meet the kids because if the two dont mix, you have to leave the guy and youve wasted time.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting Roll Dawg:" The book/movie says not to invest to much time before you let the man meet the kids because if the two dont mix, you have to leave the guy and youve wasted time."



ugh... I'd rather waste time and protect my kids ANY day.



ask anyone who had a single mom growing up.... they don't like meeting many guys.

.legendTAYry. 1 child; Hawaii 41570 posts
3rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" hey lady! happy to have you join us! : P for not responding to my PM!"</blockquote>




Sorry babe!! Works been kicking my asssssssss.

.legendTAYry. 1 child; Hawaii 41570 posts
3rd Nov '12

I think online dating sucks ass.



One guy I met online- thought he was awesome, etc.



Turned out not only was he not divorced like he claimed he was, but his wife was 8 moths pregnant with their second child.

Queen Rowdy TTC since Jan 2013; 1 angel baby; Australia 972 posts
3rd Nov '12

Anyone mind if I lurk this thread? I dont have kids but Im single and trying to figre out how to date guys that arent assholes lol.



Im sort of dipping my toe into online dating at the moment. Ive chatted with a few nice guys but havent had the nerve to meet anyone in peerson yet.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting Yellow Diamond:" Anyone mind if I lurk this thread? I dont have kids but Im single and trying to figre out how to date ... [snip!] ... toe into online dating at the moment. Ive chatted with a few nice guys but havent had the nerve to meet anyone in peerson yet."


not at all... welcome!



though.. we'd prefer you participate instead of just lurking!



as far as no assholes... no tips there other than don't settle, don't put up with shit!



unless the sex is amazing...? lol... then put up with them but try not to fall in love? idk