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A Father's Case Against Breast-Feeding user banned
2nd Nov '12

What do you think about this article?



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http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2012/10/a-fathers-case-against-breast-feeding/264115/#



A Father's Case Against Breast-Feeding



By Chris Kornelis

inShare1 Oct 31 2012, 8:24 AM ET 175
It may be the healthiest choice for a baby...but not necessarily for sleep-deprived parents. kornelis_breastfeeding%20banner%202.jpg
Reuters
My son is amazing.
Thomas is practically reading Oh, Daddy! to me, and he's only 23 months old (almost two, for those of you without kids). He's off the charts in height, and he's well above average for weight-enough to be strong, but, you know, not an overweight child. Not Thomas.
He helps me unload the dishes. He helps my wife fold the laundry. He's even more incredible when you consider that he's accomplished all this, at such an early age, in spite of his troubled upbringing. Thomas grew up on formula, the stuff Michael Bloomberg is trying to keep away from mothers and infants in New York's hospitals.
Betsy really wanted to breastfeed. She tried. Really hard. It wasn't easy. There were problems with the "latch" and with Thomas getting enough to eat. We went to a lactation consultant, rented a pump, and were up every two hours for a hazy routine of turning on the machine, attaching the tubes, applying the supplemental nipple system, and trying to feed a crying baby. There wasn't much milk, but there were plenty of tears.
Begrudgingly, we gave up

.Enigma. clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107102 posts
2nd Nov '12
Quoting TantricLemons:" What do you think about this article? *************************************************************** ... [snip!] ... to feed a baby, people should be talking about the healthiest option for the family. That's in the best interest of the child."


I agree.

Its a personal decision for each family.



Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 585 posts
2nd Nov '12

i agree if you have 100% support do it...but if you know you might snap get formula or do both..

girlfrommars84 2 kids; Guisborough, United Kingdom 1287 posts
2nd Nov '12

Interesting reading. I don't really see it as a fathers case "against" breastfeeding though. More a Fathers case when they tried and failed at breastfeeding (not judging doesn't work for everyone thats why we have formula) so lets look at the bright side.

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
2nd Nov '12

ok...I'm sorry I didn't finish reading this stupid article...I don't even know why they deemed it necessary to write an article like this. It just seems like they feel guilty about switching to formula....it isn't a bad thing. To each their own. Raising a child is hard no matter what.......

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
2nd Nov '12

It sounds to me like this mama has a great partner. He is working hard to give her a positive feeling and not feel like she failed. Its never good for people to ever feel like they failed. Its also refreshing for a dad to be excited to be able to take an equal roll in childcare. My partner wishes he could feed our baby. I think if the ability is there, it really benefits children to see their parents as equal partners.



Don't get me wrong, I think breastfeeding is amazing. And breastmilk is the best food for babies. I have been breastfeeding for almost 4 years, and now breastfeed both of my daughters. However not all women can breastfeed, yes it is true. And those who made a choice to ff, shouldn't be made feel guilty either.



I don't think the solution to improve breastfeeding rates should be to shame women who that choice doesn't work for. I think the solution is to provide better support. And make breastfeeding possible for everyone, instead of this whole breast vs formula distraction

Mandy Gravador 4 kids; Winnipeg, Manitoba 117 posts
2nd Nov '12

personally LOVE it. I have 4 children and only my youngest is breastfed we have been going strong for 6 months but I do not enjoy it. My other 3 children slept through the night by 3-6 weeks old and my youngest who is now 6 months wakes up every hour and I know every child is different but from time to time she gets a bottle of formula and she sleeps 8 hours lol. I am not sleep deprived enough to stop but by all means if I couldn't do it anymore i would stop and have no problems, I agree you do what is best for your family not what everyone else thinks is best. I always said it is better to be a happy parent then a miserable parent so if breastfeeding makes you miserable don't do it :)

Crazyhazel89 1 child; Erie, Pennsylvania 3994 posts
2nd Nov '12

and I may be wrong but doesn't the formula say something like "experts agree breast feeding is best but when you can't there's...[insert formula]"...

TrollMama Due December 19; Beaumont, Texas 352 posts
2nd Nov '12

I think it's sad. I know people promote breast feeding and there was a time when it was gross or a symbol of lower economic status and people are working to change that view. But I also think there is a lot of pressure on parents to do the "best" which... sometimes, honestly, isn't the best for that particular family. Basically, I think it's necessary to look at the whole picture. If you skimp on breastfeeding you should look at the reasons, and if it makes you a better parent in other ways to do that... well, so be it. I think this family should stop feeling ashamed.

.Enigma. clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 107102 posts
2nd Nov '12

My babies were up every 2 hours for feeding regardless of if it was BM or formula. I did both.

MommaLBear 1 child; Georgia 762 posts
2nd Nov '12

I loved it. "Instead of focusing solely on the "ideal" way to feed a baby, people should be talking about the healthiest option for the family. That's in the best interest of the child." Especially this.

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
2nd Nov '12
Quoting Mandy Gravador:" personally LOVE it. I have 4 children and only my youngest is breastfed we have been going strong for ... [snip!] ... I always said it is better to be a happy parent then a miserable parent so if breastfeeding makes you miserable don't do it :)"


Personally my daughter waking a bunch at night makes me feel way better. She has had cases of sleep apnea and stop breathing and turn blue. So it would freak me out if she slept longer. I read something about babies sleeping longer periods having more instances of SIDS.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17275 posts
status 2nd Nov '12
Quoting Christina Getty:" ok...I'm sorry I didn't finish reading this stupid article...I don't even know why they deemed it necessary ... [snip!] ... guilty about switching to formula....it isn't a bad thing. To each their own. Raising a child is hard no matter what......."


:/



Have you ever went through not having your child latch and wanting soo bad for them to be EBF? If not, no wonder you think this article is stupid.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 17275 posts
status 2nd Nov '12
Quoting TantricLemons:" It sounds to me like this mama has a great partner. He is working hard to give her a positive feeling ... [snip!] ... is to provide better support. And make breastfeeding possible for everyone, instead of this whole breast vs formula distraction"


I agree.



When you can't BF, and you REALLY want to, it makes you feel like shit already. Seeing that would deff hurt, especially early on when your emotions are still way out of wack.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
2nd Nov '12

I think it's a great article. I was successful in breastfeeding for 7 months until I was at the point of exhaustion. I wasn't sleeping, hardly eating, I just didn't have time to keep up with my son's feeding schedule and take care of myself. When we switched to formula I felt a lot better. I don't regret the switch.