I'm just really curious is all but if you spank with an open palm....
1. How hard do you spank?
2. How long do the "marks" you leave (if any whether accident or not) stay behind on the skin?
a.) did you feel bad about the "marks"?
3. Do you spank on a bare behind or not?
4. How many times do you spank in a row?
5. Are there situations or places you go where you refuse to spank bc of judgment from others?
6. Does your SO/inlaws, parents, etc spank your kid(s) and do you say anything against them?
7. Anything else you want to add?/ How did you arrive at spanking as a form of punishment you'd use?
Er... I just spank average I guess. Never on a bare butt. Not more than 3 times in a row. It doesn't leave marks. I don't feel bad. No one else spanks him except maybe SO but he's an insane pushover. I do other things generally before going to spanking.
I'm not much of a spanker but I have before.
When my daughter was in her room for throwing a tantrum and she decided to spit in my face and scream so loud that she woke up her brothers all the while chucking things at my head and nothing else was working- I spanked her. It's not something I enjoy... and no, I don't really think it teaches them anything- but sometimes she gets so out of control that nothing works, and that's what happens.
No, it doesn't leave a mark. I spank her once.... obviously open-palm or it wouldn't be a spank, and over her clothes. Her.. over my knee... It's the only thing that gets her to realize that mom is serious about the situation. Lord knows why it came to this.
My son gets his butt spanked if he is misbehaving. I d
Never to hurt, just grab attention. No marks, not hard at all. Not bare bottom, just one little tap on his rear end to signal "enough!"
I don't hurt him and will never. I'm raising him. Not scaring him to follow the rules...
My son gets his butt spanked if he is misbehaving. I don't spank his bare butt unless he is in the shower and acting up. If your leaving marks then that's to hard. Depending on what he is doing will depend if he gets a swat
I spank rarely. I don't spank hard. I will spank bare bottom or over pants/underwear, just however he is at the moment. I don't pull down his pants to spank him though. I do one pop, only on the behind (after verbal warnings and time out). I never leave a mark. It's rarely ever even red, and if it is then it will go away in a few minutes. I don't spank in places where him crying is going to cause a big scene. Not because of judgement, but because I don't want to disturb everyone. If I need to, we will leave the situation (go home, basically). I am the only one who spanks him. His dad said he doesn't trust his own judgement of how hard he would hit (he's a big muscular guy) so he just doesn't do it. When he stayed with my sister while I was at school, she had permission to spank him but she never did. I've never spanked my nieces or nephew either. Spanking is our last resort option for behaviors which have gotten out of hand and haven't been corrected in other ways OR for situations that are dangerous and need an immediate message sent (once he ran out into the parking lot at Walmart).
My son gets his butt spanked if he is misbehaving. I don't spank his bare butt unless he is in the shower and acting up. If your leaving marks then that's to hard. Depending on what he is doing will depend if he gets a swat or a full on spank. My mom and husband can spank him but no one else. And sitting in time out and talking or yelling doesn't work with him.
Sorry for random half posts my phone is being really weird!!
Quoting Chuck Bass:" I spank rarely. I don't spank hard. I will spank bare bottom or over pants/underwear, just however he ... [snip!] ... OR for situations that are dangerous and need an immediate message sent (once he ran out into the parking lot at Walmart). "
That is the only time I think my oldest son has ever been spanked- and he's almost 5. He ran into a parking lot when he wiggled out of my hand. I spanked his butt right there in the parking lot and shouted so loud that the whole lot probably heard me scream to never run away from me again. I was so freaking scared! he has NEVER left my side or not held my hand again. Ugh, what a horrible experience.
<blockquote><b>Quoting *Cade*Mak*Col*:</b>" That is the only time I think my oldest son has ever been spanked- and he's almost 5. He ran into a parking ... [snip!] ... from me again. I was so freaking scared! he has NEVER left my side or not held my hand again. Ugh, what a horrible experience."</blockquote>
Yea I feel you. That is one time I actually spanked hard & yelled. I didn't give a f**k who saw lol. A car literally was inches from hitting him & honked the horn :shock: he wasn't listening to me at all *shrug* f**king kids sometimes.
<blockquote><b>Quoting *Cade*Mak*Col*:</b>" I think in that situation- anyone witnessing it understands. It's SO effing scary to experience your ... [snip!] ... most) and can save their life! At that age "it can kill you" or "it scares mommy" or "its dangerous" means NOTHING to them."</blockquote>
Right. They just don't listen to reasoning some of the time. If they did, there would be like zero tantrums lol
<blockquote><b>Quoting *Cade*Mak*Col*:</b>" My daughter is the challenge. Girls, I swear. My son... I never have to punish him. EVER. He never misbehaves. ... [snip!] ... her way it's an hour-long tantrum. It's ridiculous. I have raised them the same... my only explanation is that she's a girl."</blockquote>
Oh jesus... I can't wait lol
Thank you for answering honestly :)
The marks, I guess I meant the redness.. If she's in the shower acting up or the tub splashing water everywhere and I can't get her under control, I spank or "swat" but she's so fairskinned and even a swat like "love taps?" leave a redness on her. Once I see it. I bust out crying and she' hardly ever been the one crying from a spanking of any sort.
Pulling her pants down and spanking in the beginning was a learned behavior for me I think. I've been better at not doing that. But I think I don't spank hard enough on average. It's almost like I pull her across my knee, raise my hand to, and then it comes down with so much less force than I thought. She's laughed at me before bc of it.