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user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
2nd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Taylor Migliano:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:</b>" In thinking about it- if its someone ... [snip!] ... kind of sandwich. If you're having a hard time, accept the good things that come your way, even if you don't agree with them."</blockquote>




I don't get upset- I just kind of wonder what would happen if I said as a response what comes naturally to my mind.
Ex: " I have cancer."



Customary response: "I'll pray for you"



My response : "that sucks"



Because my "positive thoughts" won't do shit. I will be the first to offer monetary help, a babysitter, food- but I would do that privately.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75043 posts
2nd Nov '12
Quoting she nan igans:" If you are not religious, does it bother you if someone says they will pray for you, or keep you in their ... [snip!] ... going to think positive thoughts for you. So, if you are not religious, does that bother you? Is it rude to say that? D&D"

Sometimes it bothers me. Most of the time I'm grateful and will tell them thank you. Sometimes when my old church friends say something like "How's your relationship with God/Jesus? I've been praying for you/about it" etc I get annoyed. It's probably because I've had the same mindset as them in the past and I know what they're thinking, that I'm going to hell.

♥vetoURface Due April 25; 2 kids; Georgia 21441 posts
2nd Nov '12
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Taylor Migliano:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. ... [snip!] ... thoughts" won't do shit. I will be the first to offer monetary help, a babysitter, food- but I would do that privately."


I understand that better!



I can see that response as my first thought/response to the person and doing the same, it makes more sense to me.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
2nd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥vetoURface:</b>" I understand that better! I can see that response as my first thought/response to the person and doing the same, it makes more sense to me."</blockquote>




Yeah. I'd not go crazy on someone who was in their way wishing me the best. But I follow the thought that ten hands working are worth more than a hundred hands praying.

♥vetoURface Due April 25; 2 kids; Georgia 21441 posts
2nd Nov '12
Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Sometimes it bothers me. Most of the time I'm grateful and will tell them thank you. Sometimes when my ... [snip!] ... It's probably because I've had the same mindset as them in the past and I know what they're thinking, that I'm going to hell."


"How's your relationship with God/Jesus":
That would be annoying and slightly offensive, I think.
It's one of those things people should accept and move on from. :?



I can understand not wanting your friends to go to Hell, but to ask that question.. I'm not sure, I'd be slightly offended if it was a constant thing.

♥vetoURface Due April 25; 2 kids; Georgia 21441 posts
2nd Nov '12
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥vetoURface:</b>" I understand that better! I can see ... [snip!] ... in their way wishing me the best. But I follow the thought that ten hands working are worth more than a hundred hands praying."


I definitely follow that.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 75043 posts
2nd Nov '12
Quoting ♥vetoURface:" "How's your relationship with God/Jesus": That would be annoying and slightly offensive, I think. It's ... [snip!] ... your friends to go to Hell, but to ask that question.. I'm not sure, I'd be slightly offended if it was a constant thing."

That's how I feel too. I guess what they're really asking is "are you Christian again yet?". Because I believe in God but not in the same way I did before at all and I'm sure they don't care to hear about that. :lol: I do think good vibes/prayers can help but when it's directed towards me becoming a Christian I just get annoyed.

JΔ$ Georgia 76650 posts
status 2nd Nov '12

It doesn't me, it shouldn't bother anyone. They are showing concern. To keep things neutral, I always say that I will keep them in my thoughts.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
3rd Nov '12

No, I appreciate the positive energy.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
3rd Nov '12

No, I appreciate the positive energy.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
3rd Nov '12

I love me some Jesus, but I have a visceral reaction when I hear Christianese (church talk) because of some bad church experiences. Bless you, I'll pray for you, etc just makes me feel... Weird. I always remind myself that people mean well or are just saying what they feel is appropriate but it all feels so fake (not saying it is, just feels that way to me)

Stephy B Due May 10 (girl); 64 kids; Tennessee 226 posts
3rd Nov '12

No...I'm not really religious, but I'm glad someone thinks I'm important enough to pray for.



As long as they're not saying it in a sarcastic manner, cause that's annoying.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Sometimes it bothers me. Most of the time I'm grateful and will tell them thank you. Sometimes when my ... [snip!] ... It's probably because I've had the same mindset as them in the past and I know what they're thinking, that I'm going to hell."


And I totally agree with that. That's rude. That's the sort of condescending attitude I hate. I was Atheist for a while when younger, and it didn't bother me when people would offer prayers because whether or not I believed in it, it was still a nice gesture.



I usually say "I'll be thinking of you" just to be nicer, but my step-mom is super religious and always comes back with "what we really need is prayer! The squeaky wheel gets the grease!"



Which, is absurd. By that same logic the kid who died of cancer must just not have gotten enough people praying for them, so God was like "sorry kid, you couldn't pay for that miracle with enough prayers."



Side rant there I guess, haha.



I was just surprised someone was honestly offended that people offered prayers in a supportive way.

Crystallized Due February 24; 1 child; California 431 posts
3rd Nov '12

No, it doesn't bother me at all.
Praying is the same thing as hoping in my book.

user banned 1 child; Nunya, CA, United States 6369 posts
3rd Nov '12

I am Christian and I pray, but I know A LOT of Christians who think that prayer is all that is needed. It's not.



For instance, if someone is in need, financially, and I'm able to help, I don't JUST pray. I give what I am able and THEN pray.



Instead of just praying, be an answer to a prayer. THAT is being a Christian. Actions speak way louder than words!



Sorry, for no real answer to the OP. Just my 2