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Mixed Emotions Myown7thHeaven 39 kids; Quincy, Illinois 451 posts
3rd Nov '12

In April I was 6wks pregnant, I was on birth control, I didn't even know I was pregnant. I started cramping really bad and bleeding really bad. I went to the E.R. Being pregnant hadn't even entered my head. The doctor came in and broke the news to me. Before I could even get over everything that came with the miscarriage. The shock finding out I was pregnant and had lost my baby all in a split second... The end of June rolled around and guess what? I found out I was pregnant. I'm 22wks and my baby boy is growing and things are looking up. Although I am excited and grateful for my baby boy - I'm still mourning the loss of my other baby. I would of almost been ready to give birth and I just have these mixed emotions. I've had plenty of family members say that the baby I lost didn't count, because I wasn't far enough along. Its so sad to me. My husband is comforting and even bought me a beautiful angel wing necklace to symbolize the baby we lost. It's even harder for him, because he lost his first son at 39 wks - stillborn due to the cord. So I just have these mixed emotions. Not so much about the baby boy growing inside of me but still mourning for the child I'll never know, never have.

Christina/Chrissy Due March 31; 17 kids; Pennsylvania 8726 posts
3rd Nov '12

what your feeling is normal....and yes this baby did count...shame on your family for telling you it didnt.....
after a loss sometimes its hard to enjoy another pregnancy and be excited over the new one to come....but just remember, this one does not replace your angel baby....hang in there!

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
3rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BlessedfromAbove:</b>" In April I was 6wks pregnant, I was on birth control, I didn't even know I was pregnant. I started cramping ... [snip!] ... emotions. Not so much about the baby boy growing inside of me but still mourning for the child I'll never know, never have."</blockquote>




I'm so sorry for your loss!
I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks last October, after knowing I was pregnant for almost a month. I never expected to have a miscarriage so it came as quite a shock when I started bleeding.
They would have been due May 5, and been 6 months old right now. I think about it allll the time.
Now I'm 17 1/2 weeks and I think all the time that maybe this baby's soul is the same as the last one, just in a healthier body :)

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
3rd Nov '12

I'm sorry sweety. Some people just don't know what to say and unfortunately end up saying the wrong things. That baby does matter, no matter how small. I struggle with the same emotions about my vanishing twin. The baby stopped growing at 5 weeks and my body had no resolved it until sometime after 11 weeks. It's frustrating for me because nobody seems to care about that baby I lost. It's still a struggle for me as well. Hopefully once this baby is born you can find some closure with the one you lost. *hugs*

BeccaSauraus 1 child; Baton Rouge, Louisiana 1866 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting ☮Scarlet Begonia:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BlessedfromAbove:</b>" In April I was 6wks pregnant, I was on ... [snip!] ... I'm 17 1/2 weeks and I think all the time that maybe this baby's soul is the same as the last one, just in a healthier body :)"


I love this.

mommabomma Due November 8; Durban, South Africa 22 posts
3rd Nov '12

Every little angel counts, they have been given to us for a reason, no matter how long they have been in our lives. So sorry for your loss, and congrats with your current pregnancy



I was 9 weeks when I lost my baby, my angel baby did not develop past 6 weeks. I would have given birth in Feb next year, the date haunts me. So I totally understand how you are feeling now, but its now time to focus on the positive, for your and your baby's health.



Praying for your and your baby's health and hoping you find some peace. Lotsa hugs