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J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting ProundMommy2Be2:" lol like i said im moving out in 2 weeks.... if telling her after i move out wont impact her in any way"


I know. I didnt see that until after I posted the first one

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
3rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ProundMommy2Be2:</b>" Yes and if you knew my mom and everything she put me through you would understand more why im feeling the way i do..."</blockquote>




How far along are you?

SouthernTruth Montgomery, Alabama 226 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting Emma and Chloe's Momma:" She's going to be 10x's more pissed if she hears it from someone else."


True! I didn't tell my dad when I was pregnant with my first, I was still in high school. He eventually found out from other people. It's so much better that she hear it from you, OP.

**:)37Weeks(:** Due May 26 (boy); Colorado Springs, Colorado 102 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting Disney Mamma:" I think it depends on how you feel. It would be nice of you to tell her, but if you don't then that's your decision because you are an adult:)"


Thank you.... im just scared for my family to disown me thats all.... why she does is completely beyond me considering she had 2 kids before 19

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Armpit, of, Ireland 29526 posts
3rd Nov '12

If everyone knows except your family, I think you better think about telling her. I think it's better she hear it from you.

~a girl and a boy~ 2 kids; Iowa 55117 posts
status 3rd Nov '12
Quoting ProundMommy2Be2:" im moving out in 2 weeks so im planning to wait at least that long to tell her... i just dont need her to disown me again and have my whole family against me when we barely just fixed everything"


Then wait the 2 weeks until your out. But, then tell her right after that. If you don't want to deal these 2 weeks with living with her and her knowing.

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
3rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ProundMommy2Be2:</b>" Thank you.... im just scared for my family to disown me thats all.... why she does is completely beyond me considering she had 2 kids before 19"</blockquote>




Because no mother wants their hold to follow in their footsteps they're not proud of.

**:)37Weeks(:** Due May 26 (boy); Colorado Springs, Colorado 102 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ProundMommy2Be2:</b>" Yes and if you knew my mom and everything ... [snip!] ... she put me through you would understand more why im feeling the way i do..."</blockquote> How far along are you?"


not far almost 11 weeks but my SO said that theres a bump and you can start to tell

**:)37Weeks(:** Due May 26 (boy); Colorado Springs, Colorado 102 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ProundMommy2Be2:</b>" Thank you.... im just scared for my ... [snip!] ... 2 kids before 19"</blockquote> Because no mother wants their hold to follow in their footsteps they're not proud of."


which is true but wouldnt you think shed be more understanding than disowning?

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting ProundMommy2Be2:" Thank you.... im just scared for my family to disown me thats all.... why she does is completely beyond me considering she had 2 kids before 19"


Maybe she just wanted better for you...I'm guessing. It was probably a struggle with being so young. She wanted better for her daughter. Parents always want better for their kids than what they had or have went through.

wilde_mommy 4 kids; Columbus, Ohio 3459 posts
3rd Nov '12

I understand you had a hard time with her during your first pregnancy but you should still tell her. When I was pregnant with my first (i was 20) I didn't tell my mom until I was almost 30 weeks, we had a lot of issues.We've talked about it sense and when I found out how much pain it caused my mom by not telling her it crushed me. I don't see the harm in waiting until you move out, you could easily say you wanted to wait until you're in the safe zone. But please tell your mother, don't let her "just find out"

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
3rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ProundMommy2Be2:</b>" which is true but wouldnt you think shed be more understanding than disowning?"</blockquote>



Everyone handles stuff differently. I can't say how I would handle it if my child did the same crap I did. I would be heartbroken.

MWifey 3 kids; Longview, Texas 3459 posts
3rd Nov '12

i wouldnt f**king tell her, screw her for disowning you. theres no reason to tell her. your an adult and its none of her business. shes just gonna have to miss out

J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting MWifey:" i wouldnt f**king tell her, screw her for disowning you. theres no reason to tell her. your an adult and its none of her business. shes just gonna have to miss out"


she wasnt "disowned" though if she's still living in her house....

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
3rd Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting J+D=4:</b>" she wasnt "disowned" though if she's still living in her house...."</blockquote>




I was just thinking that haha