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MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
3rd Nov '12
Quoting i ♥ nora:" I don't agree with people living off the governent when they are capable of working. Pregnancy is not ... [snip!] ... support as soon as the baby is born. or, you can move back home and have support, love, and family surround you and your child."


You do realize though that most people who work dont make enough to make ends meet, right? My husband makes $13.27/hr and works 48-60 hours a week. We still qualify for assistance, but we dont get it because he gets money from pell grants for school and BAH from the VA for going to school and VA disability.
Pregnancy makes it difficult to work. I did with my 1st. Then I got hypertension and the doctor ordered me to stop. Several other girls at my job had to be the door greeters during pregnancy. You are basically useless to an employer. Not to mention, if you are looking for a job WHILE pregnant...uh, good luck. Most wont even look at you let alone hire you.

Stephy B Due May 10 (girl); 64 kids; Tennessee 226 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" You do realize though that most people who work dont make enough to make ends meet, right? My husband ... [snip!] ... Not to mention, if you are looking for a job WHILE pregnant...uh, good luck. Most wont even look at you let alone hire you."


This. Exactly this.



And also, government assistance programs are there to assist you. It doesn't mean that anyone is trying any less hard, but shit happens, and sometimes when that shit happens, we need help. People shouldn't feel ashamed of asking for help, they should feel ashamed of not asking for help and therefore not getting the support they need, when there are resources available.

mamaofarunner 1 child; Kansas City, Kansas 1684 posts
status 4th Nov '12

If you need assistance while pregnant go for it. That's what it's there for. Its not like your lying to get it.

i ♥ nora 1 child; New Jersey 1622 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting MommyingWithGrace:" You do realize though that most people who work dont make enough to make ends meet, right? My husband ... [snip!] ... Not to mention, if you are looking for a job WHILE pregnant...uh, good luck. Most wont even look at you let alone hire you."


So she shouldnt even try? Right from the start she should just apply for everything and live 100% off the government? Thats disgusting. She can have a job and when the ends don't meet, apply for assistance. Thats what it is for- to fill the gap you cannot afford- NOT pay for absolutely everything.

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49057 posts
6th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting i ♥ nora:</b>" So she shouldnt even try? Right from the start she should just apply for everything and live 100% off ... [snip!] ... don't meet, apply for assistance. Thats what it is for- to fill the gap you cannot afford- NOT pay for absolutely everything."</blockquote>



How do u know she doesn't have a job

i ♥ nora 1 child; New Jersey 1622 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Click Me Click Me!!!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting i ♥ nora:</b>" So she shouldnt even try? Right from the ... [snip!] ... to fill the gap you cannot afford- NOT pay for absolutely everything."</blockquote> How do u know she doesn't have a job"


I dont care if she has a job or not. If she is pregnant and homeless she obviously doesnt. Her child will be taken from her if she is homeless and so she needs to shape up and support herself and her child is she is leaving her inlaws. The end. Its assistance for a reason- to supplement what you do not generate in income. NOT to support you 100%.

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49057 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting i ♥ nora:" I dont care if she has a job or not. If she is pregnant and homeless she obviously doesnt. Her child ... [snip!] ... her inlaws. The end. Its assistance for a reason- to supplement what you do not generate in income. NOT to support you 100%."


UM NOT TRUE, shelters will take single women with kids they wont take them... Also u do know even with 1 child making 8.50 an hours i would still get my help right? Also she should feel like shit to ask for help just because ur making her NO.




And i understand where she is coming from... that may be why we have different views.

That one mom. 1 child; Florida 638 posts
10th Nov '12

ckquote><b>Quoting i ♥ nora:</b>" I dont care if she has a job or not. If she is pregnant and homeless she obviously doesnt. Her child ... [snip!] ... her inlaws. The end. Its assistance for a reason- to supplement what you do not generate in income. NOT to support you 100%."</blockquote>



Ignorant. CPS would not take her child for being homeless. There are tons of shelters for women and children. The first thing CPS would do is to find her one. Then assign hera worker/counselor to assist with stable housing and whatever else her and the child would need. Life can be unexpected and sometimes it gets tough.It could happen to anyone.

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
10th Nov '12

CPS is already short on foster homes for kids. They are not going to take a child froom a home where the child isnt being neglected or abused. If the child is homeless, they will do everything in their power to find homes for the family. That is easier than traumatizing a child by snatching them from their parents and finding a foster family to take them (the foster family has to enough a certain number of rooms for the child and beds and etc) when there are plenty of abused kids who need a foster family.
being homeless isnt a crime. It a rough spot in life that some unfortunately have come across.

i ♥ nora 1 child; New Jersey 1622 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting Mama+1 Princess:" ckquote><b>Quoting i ♥ nora:</b>" I dont care if she has a job or not. If she is ... [snip!] ... and whatever else her and the child would need. Life can be unexpected and sometimes it gets tough.It could happen to anyone."

Ignorant? Really? CPS will take your child if you are deemed unfit to support and raise them. Living for an extended period of time in a womans shelter is still homelessness- just because you have a place to rest your head at night doesnt make you fit. Be damn sure if I couldnt get my life together enough to support my child and myself, I would want her to go to a better family until I got my shit situated. But live off the government? Thats some lazy trash talking. Get a job and make it on your own- thats what a woman is supposed to do. Some of you are telling her to apply and live off of the system 100%. How long with that take? Until she has her baby? No, because then who will watch her baby while she has to work? She will be on assistance for years because its easier to mooch than to make it on your own.
Call me what you want- but I pay my own bills and make sure IIIII put a roof over my childs head. I work to raise my child which i created and no one elses money should go to support her or myself.

taking a look at life Palm beach gardens, FL, United States 49057 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting i ♥ nora:" Ignorant? Really? CPS will take your child if you are deemed unfit to support and raise them. Living ... [snip!] ... a roof over my childs head. I work to raise my child which i created and no one elses money should go to support her or myself."



U know if she gets a job they will help with day care also um no CPS will not take them for living at a shelter long term. I know some one that has been there 2 yrs and they cant get her out because we have no section, yes she works as well.

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting i ♥ nora:" Ignorant? Really? CPS will take your child if you are deemed unfit to support and raise them. Living ... [snip!] ... a roof over my childs head. I work to raise my child which i created and no one elses money should go to support her or myself."


:roll: Your problem is you are arrogant. I hope and pray for your sake you never hit a rough patch in life. Maybe you will be too proud to get food stamps and they WILL take YOUR child for starving her. Just sayin.....