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Pregnant and lonely Deacon'sMamaBear Due February 26 (boy); Calgary, Alberta 20 posts
4th Nov '12

I am 19 years old and pregnant with my first child. He is due March 3rd and I am naming him Deacon William. I am very excited but also having a hard time because I don't really have any friends or family to support me. When I found out I was pregnant, alot of my friends said they were supportive but they never come around or ask how I am doing. They're all too busy partying and getting drunk. Obviously my partying days are over. I guess this is an opprotunity to meet new friends like young moms. Also, my Mom was very supportive at first but now she ignores all my calls and we haven't talked for months. She told me she wasn't mad, and I don't see why she would be because she got pregnant at my age. I sent my parents pictures of my ultrasound and I never got a reply. I talked to my cousin who visits them regularily and she said that they purposely ignore my calls. I just don't understand why they're acting this way. I mean, I guess I can say that I have always had a rocky relationship with them but I need them now more than ever. I just feel very lonely lately. The only family member that is really supportive is my older brother (Jason), he always gives me words of encourgement and tells me he loves me and I can do this. His words of encouragement are really the only thing that help me through the loneliness. But it sucks that we live in different towns. My boyfriend is very close with his family, he talks to them everyday and they are very supportive. I am so jealous of their relationship. I wish I could call my Mom just to talk but she won't even answer my calls. I have also gotten alot of negative people telling me I will be a bad mom. My second oldest brother (Tyler) told me he hopes my baby dies and posted a status about me on Facebook saying that I was a slut and that my baby isn't even my boyfriends. I have blocked him and he has lost any chance to ever meet my son. I just don't understand why people are so rude. Some people just hate seeing others happy.

Soon 2B Mom of 2 2 kids; North Highlands, California 3785 posts
4th Nov '12

I was 19 when I got pregnant with my DS. There is no reason you wont be a great mom just because of your age. As long as you love you child, and do your very best, thats all that matters. What about your SOs family? Can you talk to them?

NatashaHarper 1 child; Guildford, United Kingdom 687 posts
4th Nov '12

I'm sorry to hear that :(
I'm 17 and I'm pregnant with my first, due dec 4th (EEK!)
I know its hard not having support and not being able to do anything about it :/
Have you tried talking to your boyfriends parents? Maybe they can be supportive of you?

Coastie Mami 2 kids; Boston, Massachusetts 516 posts
4th Nov '12

Don't be sad mama. When I got pregnant with my first I was 20 about to turn 21. I missed out on the parties and stuff too. It sucked. The people I called friends didn't act like real friends. While everyone else was out having fun, I was at home knocked up. I completely understand. It's sad to say they are in a different head space. They don't know how life changing this is, or how hard it can be when your friends aren't really acting like friends. Just remember you are not alone! You always have the moms on here that aren't about the drama. Its really sad when the negativity comes from your family and you feel bad in turn for wanting to just be happy. I am pregnant with my second. I am technically going thru a separation if you will and it sucks. I feel lonely ALL the time. I am in the military, I am a single mom and I am pregnant. I have no one to rub my back or hold my hair when I get sick. My family is all up in arms over the fact that I am pregnant with my "husbands' baby but we aren't together. So I feel bad for wanting to be happy too. I have my moments where I get really sad and resentful. At the end of the day you have your older brother and yourself. You are going to be the best mother. Don't let what other people think of you or say about you, ruin your joyous time! Enjoy every moment of this time! And when you finally have Deacon in your arms, just know that you are going to be his WHOLE world and he needs you to be strong! Stay positive and know you always have me. Stranger I know but I am here! Have a better day! Cheer up!

Bri + 1.5 <3 Due October 20 (girl); 1 child; Florida 4344 posts
4th Nov '12

Aww, this literally makes me want to cry because I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am 18, due next month & I haven't spoken to my father or my brothers since I was 5 weeks pregnant. My step mom was writing horrible things about me on facebook & allowed my 13 year old little brother to say things about me that no child should ever be allowed to say on facebook where all of my family could read it. It hurts, but you don't need the stress & drama they will bring to your life. I miss my dad & my brothers a lot, but I know my son & I are better off without them. If you need someone to talk to PT & message me anytime. Just know that you aren't alone in feeling this way. But it will get easier.

Lily'sMama♥ 1 child; Mississauga, Ontario 7928 posts
5th Nov '12

Im really sorry to hear this :(



Im sorry everyone especially your family are acting so fucked up about this... you are 19 not 12. :(



I was 18 when I had my LO,.... you will always have those rude people around trying to bring you down, all you need to think about is you will be the best mother you can be for your son and nobody negative matters!!!

Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
5th Nov '12

im so sorry you have to go through that , im going through somewhat of the same thing my older siblings are supportive my younger ones are always putting me down because im 18 and a single mom my daughters due February 2nd im naming her Gemma (obviously) my BD hasnt been involved since i was 9 weeks and his family hate me and dont think its his. i dont really have any friends anymore for the same reason as you . my dad is a jerk to me because of the fact im pregnant and a single mom too. but i try to remember tht i still have some people who care about me and thoes are the people i need the way i see it if your not going to be there for my low moments dont expect to be a part of my best moments. if you ever want to talk message me.

gardensparrow Colorado, 40, United States 20 posts
7th Nov '12

Oh, I'm so sorry you're feeling so alone right now. I know this is a time when you could use all the support you can get! So, I'll be praying that your friends and family will get on board with this pregnancy and offer you lots of love and encouragement. However, in the meantime, it might be worthwhile to try and find some other moms you can relate to. Maybe look into joining something like MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers)? You can have time chat and socialize with other moms and, when the baby comes, you also have some childcare available. There's also the option of support groups. You might be able to locate one through a church or pregnancy resource center. Just a thought! Well, hang in there and know someone out there is thinking of you!