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BAD MOMMYS Andrea's Momma 1 child; Louisville, Kentucky 1558 posts
4th Nov '12

What do you think makes a mother a "bad" parent? Besides the obvious, like drugs, abuse, and neglect.



I think:
Smoking during pregnancy and around the kids
Not waking up with baby in the morning
Hitting before child can understand (Not abuse, like smacking and saying no)
Having sex around baby



I can't think of anymore. Just wanna hear opinions.

Lil Dude's Mamma [10 wks] Due November 7; 1 child; Argentina 2488 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting Andrea's Momma:" What do you think makes a mother a "bad" parent? Besides the obvious, like drugs, abuse, and neglect. ... [snip!] ... understand (Not abuse, like smacking and saying no) Having sex around baby I can't think of anymore. Just wanna hear opinions."


WOW, guess I won't be getting the "mother of the year" award.



Most of the reasons you listed are just stupid.

Curlyheadedfck 2 kids; Illinois 45661 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting Andrea's Momma:" What do you think makes a mother a "bad" parent? Besides the obvious, like drugs, abuse, and neglect. ... [snip!] ... understand (Not abuse, like smacking and saying no) Having sex around baby I can't think of anymore. Just wanna hear opinions."


f**k guess I'm an awful mom.
My parents getup with my son on the weekends cause I work late nights.



Ashley; Kenley's Mommy! 1 child; Wisconsin 15117 posts
4th Nov '12

So if I had sex with my newborn baby in the bassinet in the aame room that makes me a bad mom?

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20984 posts
4th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lil Dude's Mamma:</b>" WOW, guess I won't be getting the "mother of the year" award. Most of the reasons you listed are just stupid."</blockquote>



:!: lmao

bia. 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 71785 posts
status 4th Nov '12

I wouldn't say smoking while pregnant makes you a bad mother, selfish? f**k yes, not a bad mum though lol.

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10774 posts
4th Nov '12

You sound very judgmental. I'm wondering why. A holier than thou attitude will only get you so far.



It's better to stop smoking, but many mom's can't, or are led to believe it can cause miscarriage. Yes, I do think smoking around your kids is bad, maybe even borderline neglectful due to health issues, but I wouldn't say it makes you a bad mom.



Having sex around a baby? I don't get that... I mean, if it's asleep, whatever lol.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 20544 posts
4th Nov '12

I think there all sorts of different ways to mother, and it's hard to be "perfect"....

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
4th Nov '12

A BAD parent?
Severe neglect, abuse, molesting the kid...stuff like that.



What do you mean by not getting up with them in the a.m.?



Those things that you listed aren't things I necessarily agree with but I don't think they make someone a bad parent.

bia. 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 71785 posts
status 4th Nov '12
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" You sound very judgmental. I'm wondering why. A holier than thou attitude will only get you so far. ... [snip!] ... but I wouldn't say it makes you a bad mom. Having sex around a baby? I don't get that... I mean, if it's asleep, whatever lol."


I think she means when the kid is awake lol.

anonymom + 1.5 2 kids; West Virginia 10774 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting Curlyheadedfck:" f**k guess I'm an awful mom. My parents getup with my son on the weekends cause I work late nights. "


Yeah, I used to work until two or 3, not get to bed until 4ish, and HELL YES was I sleeping in past LO if her dad or my parents would get up with her.

Michael Myers 2 kids; Slaughter, Louisiana 3408 posts
4th Nov '12

You don't get your f**k on with the baby in the room while smoking and slapping them in the face? Da fuq :?

Maebaby&Grayson Due October 15; 2 kids; South Carolina 7556 posts
4th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ashley; Kenley's Mommy!:</b>" So if I had sex with my newborn baby in the bassinet in the aame room that makes me a bad mom?"</blockquote>




I'm a bad mom dd is 7 months and we do it with her in the room... only if she's asleep though I feel weird is she's awake though lol her crib is in our room.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5402 posts
4th Nov '12

My BD usually wakes up with my daughter he likes to wake up early me not soooo much.
Also we all shared a room until very recently..
So Im guilty of the sex while the kid is in the same room...



For me if constantly yelling and not validating your childs feelings.

Mama Charli Due August 8; 6 kids; Texas 6387 posts
4th Nov '12

damn, i guess im the worst parent there is... f**k man!




those reasons are really dumb!
Did you know that if you are smoking before you find out you are pregnant drs will tell you not to quit cold turkey?!
Also had sex with my DD in the room as we lived with my mother and DD was in our room with us...
When DD was born, My DH got up with her in the mornings...