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2happy 2 kids; 3 angel babies; North Carolina 14739 posts
4th Nov '12

There are many selfish things parents do, many you listed. A bad parent is one who doesn't do the right thing for their child and causes mental or/and physical harm.

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 105460 posts
status 4th Nov '12

I must be a shit mom. I stick my kids in front of netflix with a snack and a drink in the am. those b***hes are up too early for me.

bia. Due August 13; 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 76253 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting Ashley; Kenley's Mommy!:" So if I had sex with my newborn baby in the bassinet in the aame room that makes me a bad mom?"


Uh yes, how do you not know that? you should have CPS called on you.



:lol: :wink:

Andrea's Momma 1 child; Louisville, Kentucky 1558 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting Lil Dude's Mamma:" WOW, guess I won't be getting the "mother of the year" award. Most of the reasons you listed are just stupid."


How are they stupid?
Second hand smoke leads to cancer.
Sleeping while your child is awake is irresponsible.
Hitting a child before it can understand makes no sense.
I should have worded the last one better. I mean toddler age, I guess? Not like a newbie. And when it's awake, obviously.

OGTattedmama2007 2 kids; Ghetto, Ca, United States 32572 posts
4th Nov '12

I love smoking and smacking my baby.. but in all seriousness, those are kinda lame.

I work nights and even if I didn't I'd still figure out a way to try and sleep in a bit, occupy baby, and sleep sitting up while on the couch...

and gettin my f**k on... I would have never had sex if it wasn't for nap time.

Andrea's Momma 1 child; Louisville, Kentucky 1558 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" Yeah, I used to work until two or 3, not get to bed until 4ish, and HELL YES was I sleeping in past LO if her dad or my parents would get up with her."


I meant if no one else is watching them?!!! :shock::?
Not saying that mom should ALWAYS be up with the kid..

Holly Marie Read 1 child; Mississippi 346 posts
4th Nov '12

The only time a mom is bad to me is when they do not care or bond with baby and absolutely refuse to either get the help bonding with it or let someone else care for it-- leading to neglect and abuse of the child.
I believe the majority of mom's have the best intentions in mind for their children and therefore are good parents. But even good parents make mistakes. No one is perfect.

Tasha & Nika Due December 22 (boy); 1 child; San Jose, CA, United States 16053 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting Andrea's Momma:" What do you think makes a mother a "bad" parent? Besides the obvious, like drugs, abuse, and neglect. ... [snip!] ... understand (Not abuse, like smacking and saying no) Having sex around baby I can't think of anymore. Just wanna hear opinions."


Apart from the obvious abuse and neglect, selfish choices..



I think it makes a person a bad parent when they knowingly refuse to better themselves and/or their life.



To give an example: not toughing it out and getting the needed education in order to get a good job that pays at least minimum wage and is a stable one. Not wanting one. Not striving to be an intellectual and learn things. Lack of ambition to succeed in life, and the like.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
4th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" I must be a shit mom. I stick my kids in front of netflix with a snack and a drink in the am. those b***hes are up too early for me."</blockquote>




f**king right?!
DD is still young so I stay half awake...usually :lol:



But before her, noooo. DS knows how to peel open a banana and put a straw in a juice box.



Im clearly a bad mom.

bia. Due August 13; 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 76253 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting Ur Local Frnt Desk Clrk:" I love smoking and smacking my baby.. but in all seriousness, those are kinda lame. I work nights ... [snip!] ... and sleep sitting up while on the couch... and gettin my f**k on... I would have never had sex if it wasn't for nap time."


Fark, I can't wait until this kid is out of me, I neeeeeeeeed to smoke!

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 105460 posts
status 4th Nov '12
Quoting Mayhem ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" I must be a shit mom. I stick my kids in ... [snip!] ... :lol: But before her, noooo. DS knows how to peel open a banana and put a straw in a juice box. Im clearly a bad mom."


right? shoot me ffor needing that extra hour so I can run after them all day

marsupialjoe TTC since Jun 2003; 3 kids; Fort St John, British Columbia 454 posts
4th Nov '12

Wow aren't you judgmental..



Smoking around the kids makes you a bad parent?
Put them in that bubble when you go out.. wouldn't want them to be exposed to LIFE.
I'd rather explain it to them than hide it.



Not waking up with them in the morning?
Haha, just wait. You'll have mornings where you lie on the couch half-asleep while your toddler plays in the child-proof living room. I promise not to judge you for it.



Bad parents are neglectful, abusive, or put their children in potentially dangerous situations (usually out of selfishness). Parents being HUMAN do not make them bad. Children of smokers, and even children whose parents had sex next to them while they were sleeping infants will grow up just fine.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
4th Nov '12
Quoting Ravey Candyass:" I must be a shit mom. I stick my kids in front of netflix with a snack and a drink in the am. those b***hes are up too early for me."



lol I do this too, at least for a hr until the morning hits me. Like seriously who wants to be up and active at 6am! :roll:8):shock:

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
4th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Andrea's Momma:</b>" How are they stupid? Second hand smoke leads to cancer. Sleeping while your child is awake is irresponsible. ... [snip!] ... I should have worded the last one better. I mean toddler age, I guess? Not like a newbie. And when it's awake, obviously."</blockquote>




That legit makes me a shitty mom.
Unless my youngest is crying in the morning, she plays in her crib. And DH and I have definitely snuck off to the bathroom for some mid-day lovin'.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
4th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" right? shoot me ffor needing that extra hour so I can run after them all day"</blockquote>




From the avi, it looks like OP only has one child that isn't mobile yet?



She'll see, one day :lol: