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Cast Your Vote:

    • MUST call step parent mom or dad -- Votes: 0
    • May call step parent mom or dad if child desires -- Votes: 19
    • NEVER ok to call step parent mom or dad -- Votes: 2
Step Mom 2 Baby Girls Due May 19; 4 kids; Utah 3212 posts
5th Nov '12

I am both a step mom., and also have children who will have a step mom shortly. All the kids are age 6 or under, and naturally, sometimes my step sons call me mom. Other times they call me by my first name. In our house it's up to them. I realize that my girls will call their step mom "mom" as well, and though my pride wishes they wouldn't, I feel that it's completely their choice. I also know people who feel that it's NEVER acceptable to call a step parent mom or dad. What's your opinion?

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
5th Nov '12

I think it should be whatever makes the child and parent feel comfortable.

SoonToBeProudMommyOf3 Due March 10; 34 kids; Oklahoma 441 posts
5th Nov '12

Well, I know in my family, I was given the choice, but I personally just couldn't call my step mom- mom. I would usually call her by her first name. To this day, I can't call her mom. I say let the kid choose personally

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21587 posts
5th Nov '12

I think it only confuses a child to call a step parent mom or dad. But it is up to the child.

katxo 18 kids; Florida 7270 posts
5th Nov '12
Quoting Mommy☠Kate:" I think it should be whatever makes the child and parent feel comfortable. "

:!: My mom went ape shit on me b/c my son called DH daddy. He asked "Is David my daddy?", and I said he's your step dad. "Well your son needs to call him David or step-dad, that is NOT his dad; he has his own daddy already!". I can't believe how upset my mom got over this subject. If my ex ever got married and those kids called him dad, I would never get upset over it.

********bbhbh Illinois 36 posts
5th Nov '12

As of October next year I will be a step mom and I just feel personally that its not okay for my SO's LO to call me mom, mainly because there has been a lot of drama with his mother. And I know if I were in her shoes I wouldn't want my child to call herher mom. But that's just my opinion. If things would've been different who knows. I just think it depends on the situation

Robert Downey Jr. Zanzibar, Tanzania 16079 posts
5th Nov '12

We give DS the choice to call me Mom or Sam. He goes back and forth.

Alicia Holz 2 kids; Fond du Lac, Wisconsin 534 posts
5th Nov '12

its up to the kids and what there comfroble with but with manners and them being young it shouldnt be the first name

Holly Marie Read 1 child; Mississippi 346 posts
13th Nov '12

Growing up I called my step dad Daddy. He was a father figure to me and always treated me exactly like he treated his two children.
My real dad died when I was 3 but his family still had a lot to do with me. All of my real dad's family use to make me call my step dad by his name when I said anything about him.
That was the most confusing thing to me-- being forced to call the man I saw as a Daddy by his name...
I still knew that my real dad was a real person that had loved me and he still had his place in my heart.
If I were in the situation, I would support whatever the child felt most comfortable doing because it hurt me to see my family so upset over it.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26125 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting Mommy☠Kate:" I think it should be whatever makes the child and parent feel comfortable. "


This. If Tony's son ever called me Mom, awesome! His mom is shit anyways. If Lillers called Tony Dad... sweet, her Dad isnt around anyways.

2 Baby Girls Due May 19; 4 kids; Utah 3212 posts
14th Nov '12
Quoting Holly Marie Read:" Growing up I called my step dad Daddy. He was a father figure to me and always treated me exactly like ... [snip!] ... situation, I would support whatever the child felt most comfortable doing because it hurt me to see my family so upset over it."


That's an interesting point.