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    • Be a SAHM -- Votes: 40
    • Get a job -- Votes: 14
ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raptor Jesus:</b>" Why do you feel the need to defend yourself ... [snip!] ... women who stay at home. I feel for the OP. :(. I hate when anyone judges others without having walked a mile in their shoes."


Honestly, take it as being rude if you want...I never will have to even walk an inch in her shoes.

ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" Sorry but why will you need financial assistance for child care when you are so financially stable?"



Did you not read what I just said?

ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Raptor Jesus:" Not that I saw. I think her posts were interpreted to say as much just because she too feels that if a family isn't financially stable then both parents should be working. "


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ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" Go back and read then because I did and it says "I'll be honest. I am kind of stuck up when it comes to SAHMs..""


"kind of stuck up" makes a lot of difference....

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Grand Forks, ND, United States 45937 posts
status 6th Nov '12
Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" <blockquote><b>Quoting
ZoeysMum 1 child; Arizona 827 posts
6th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kendra65:</b>" Idk if your talking about my comment or not but I just want to clarify I wasnt trying to say one mother ... [snip!] ... other person at all :D I agree. If I went back to work it would all go to childcare. But I believe she has 2 kids, 1 with DS"</blockquote>




No I wasn't talking about you. Another member flat out said RJ is a better parent than OP. and she is entitled to her opinion but still. Does it help the OP to start the " who's a better mother" argument on here? And Fidelis we get it you're so much better off in your life, that's awesome. No need to rub it in her face! The poor thing wanted advice bot a bashing because you disagree with how her DH spends money on loans or your comment about her not being as good as a mother as RJ.

ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" <blockquote><b>Quoting
Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
6th Nov '12
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ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Ryloonjimama:" I'll be paying to put my children through school also, but actually not everyone sees that as the parents job."


It is the parents job. Every parent should want a bright future for their child. They shouldn't leave it up to their child to pay for it when it wasn't the child's decision to come into the world.

ZoeysMum 1 child; Arizona 827 posts
6th Nov '12

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ƒideℓis ϟ 1 child; Cherry Hill, New Jersey 5085 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Kendra65:</b>" Idk if your talking about my comment or not ... [snip!] ... because you disagree with how her DH spends money on loans or your comment about her not being as good as a mother as RJ."


I'm not rubbing anything in her face! I am just showing her that getting a job can make her life A LOT better. Two incomes is always better than one. I was just using my parents as an example.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
6th Nov '12
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Lois. 1 child; Pennsylvania 2653 posts
6th Nov '12
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ZoeysMum 1 child; Arizona 827 posts
6th Nov '12

I totally see your point, really I do! But two incomes ( if its unnecessary) isn't what every family wants. It may not make sense to you, but there are some sahm who may think the same thing about women who work. My MIL had always said she can't imagine why women work ( I see why they do!) but not every momma wants to or needs to. I'm sorry if I came off as rude, I didn't mean to.

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Grand Forks, ND, United States 45937 posts
status 6th Nov '12
Quoting Brittney Ivanov:" I totally see your point, really I do! But two incomes ( if its unnecessary) isn't what every family ... [snip!] ... women work ( I see why they do!) but not every momma wants to or needs to. I'm sorry if I came off as rude, I didn't mean to."

The op has no real income and neither of them have a job so why do you think its smart for her to stay home when her mans job isnt guaranteed nor is his school money