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Icat Minnesota 34665 posts
6th Nov '12
user banned California 36390 posts
6th Nov '12

I'm.curious about this too....

Kimber-lily Due September 27; 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
6th Nov '12

If I were a SAHM I would think my job description would be:



Take care of children, play with children, feed the children.
Clean the house; vacuum, sweep and mop, clean kitchen do the dishes. Laundy, wash, dry, and put away.
And of course BG so I can continue to educate myself further on parenting ;)



ETA: I would expect my SO to take out the trash, and help with the kids and dinner when he gets home from work.

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60889 posts
6th Nov '12

My main priorities are the kids first and foremost. I'm not a maid, I'm a mom. We homeschool, so that comes before pretty much anything.



I sat down with DH once and asked him what in the house was the most important to him. I can't physically do everything, I can't, it's impossible. So, he told me what he felt was most important so, that comes next.(prepared meals, clean laundry, clean kitchen, and tidy living room.)



And then I just do what I can for the rest. Kids/school come first though.

user banned Indiana 33802 posts
6th Nov '12

For me its my job to keep the house clean, do the laundry, take care of the kids, do the shopping, do the cooking....
I will also say though my husband works 2nd shift and sleeps during the day. I dont expect him to do those things. I also take care of the bills. Around the house its his job to take the garbage to the street, mow the lawn, and fix anything that needs fixing. When he does see the kids he does help...which is only on the weekends.
It works for us though

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
6th Nov '12

As for doing things inside of the home, clean it. Do the laundry, wash the dishes, take care of any yard work. Etc etc. I do everything during the week, for the most part. I'm home all day, there's no reason why I should be saving things for my husband to do during the week. You should also be doing learning activities and crafts with the children since they are the reason you're staying home in the first place.

Kass. Due November 30; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ottawa, Ontario 11312 posts
6th Nov '12

Right now I am a WAHM, and I find it very hard to get all my 'house' stuff done because I'm so busy working. However, come January, I will be a SAHM and I am so happy! I hope to stay on top of things, but I imagine that my things to do would include keeping the house tidy, making dinner, laundry, grocery shopping, bringing DD to and from school, still doing all the fun activities with DD, annnddd... I don't know what else, lol. I think that's enough though! I'm sorry that you and DH got into it, I think it's normal when one person doesn't understand the other person's day.

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
6th Nov '12

I basically do everything around the house (cleaning wise) except the trash. That's my husbands "job" lol. And he feeds the dogs. Mainly because it makes me gag. I cannot stand dog food this pregnancy, but also because I forget. :oops: lol.



I do the dishes, laundry, pick up after myself and my daughter. (dh is great about picking up after himself) and I cook dinner every night. Also I do the grocery shopping. I have it pretty easy around here. Dd is pretty self sufficient now, so I obviously watch her and play with her, but she picks up her messes and cleans her room.

Icat Minnesota 34665 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Kimber-Lily:" If I were a SAHM I would think my job description would be: Take care of children, play with children, ... [snip!] ... do the dishes. Laundy, wash, dry, and put away. And of course BG so I can continue to educate myself further on parenting ;) "


How much time would you say to do the following:
play with the children



would you consider supervising independent play as part of a daily job description?
how often would you say to do the following:
vacuum
sweet
mop
do dishes
laundry



I'm trying to get an idea as specifically as possible, of what I could put in my own job description.



and yea, i consider BG "parenting education time" :wink:

mommyashley! Due November 17; 3 kids; Bristol, Tennessee 316 posts
6th Nov '12

My husband can't afford a full time chef, nanny, accountant, housekeeper, pet sitter, and hooker. So I'm a stay at home mom.

Kass. Due November 30; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Ottawa, Ontario 11312 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting ~*Icat*~:" How much time would you say to do the following: play with the children would you consider supervising ... [snip!] ... as possible, of what I could put in my own job description. and yea, i consider BG "parenting education time" :wink:"


I am a WAHM right now as I said, but I do all of those things on a daily basis. As for how much time you want to actively play with your children, that's up to you. :)

Icat Minnesota 34665 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" As for doing things inside of the home, clean it. Do the laundry, wash the dishes, take care of any yard ... [snip!] ... be doing learning activities and crafts with the children since they are the reason you're staying home in the first place."


yea, i don't save anything for my husband, other than heavy lifting. His main responsibilities are garbage, fixing things, and yard work. But when he comes home in the evening, he kind of takes over as "main parent" in responsibilities - diaper changes, bed time routine. So far, I thought it was working for us, until our fight where he seemed to just explode thinking I don't do enough.



So now im just trying to figure out what I SHOULD be doing. As detailed as possible

homes cool 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60889 posts
6th Nov '12

It doesn't take me long to clean the house, so I don't scrub things forever...I'm not Cinderella. We clean as we go, I do a basic clean of the big stuff every day& I tend to deep clean one room a day (during the week.)We're very busy, usually, so we don't just sit around at home. I'd go nuts.

JΔS Georgia 70894 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting ~*Icat*~:" How much time would you say to do the following: play with the children would you consider supervising ... [snip!] ... as possible, of what I could put in my own job description. and yea, i consider BG "parenting education time" :wink:"


Whoa, I think you're taking it too seriously. As a SAHM, I'm on my own time. I don't have a schedule. I do things when I feel like it and for as long as I feel like it. All of my cleaning gets done at night, as far as dishes and putting things back where they belong. When I wake up, I get the laundry done, breakfast done, puppy fed and walked. I also do any surface/deep cleaning I need to do during the day (floors, bathrooms, bedrooms, etc). Its all about time management, not schedules.

Icat Minnesota 34665 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Kass.:" Right now I am a WAHM, and I find it very hard to get all my 'house' stuff done because I'm so busy working. ... [snip!] ... though! I'm sorry that you and DH got into it, I think it's normal when one person doesn't understand the other person's day."


very normal. I feel really bad, because I think he thinks that I assume his job is "easy" and that when he comes home, he has to "take over"....and I don't want him to feel that way.