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Husband lying about stupid things Bogey Woman 2 kids; Fort Irwin, California 1892 posts
6th Nov '12

This might be too long for some, so bear with me a bit lol
Does anyone else have a husband who lies about stupid things? An example of what I mean: This happened about a month ago. I came home from grocery shopping and could tell instantly that my son needed his diaper changed. I asked my husband when the last time he was changed was and he told me that he did it, "...like ten minutes ago." So I just thought maybe my son had too much apple juice or something. I went to change him and when I unsnapped his onesie, he was still wearing the same diaper I put on him that morning. The ONLY reason I knew it was because I used his last jeans diaper before I went out. The new diapers were a different color and even a different brand, so I knew that he didn't change him. When I confronted him, he denied it and swore up and down that he changed him. So I dropped it, still a bit angry because I know I caught him in a lie.



Now about three or four days ago, same situation. I went to the grocery store and came back to my husband playing a video game and my son reeking of poop. I asked, "When did you last change him?" And I again got the ten minutes answer. This time though, I set it up on purpose so that the diaper would have to be different. So I went to change my son and sure enough, it was the same diaper he had that morning. Also, I had cleaned out the diaper pail first thing in the morning and it was still empty. I went to confront him with my "proof" and he fessed up that he didn't change him after all and was too busy with his video games and didn't feel like it. So he left me to do it when I got home.



What in the WORLD can I do to make him stop this!? It's his son, too and if I'm not home, he's completely responsible for making sure our son is taken care of! I think I could have been alright if he would have just said, "I didn't notice it, so I didn't change him." Instead he lies and says that he changed him when he obviously didn't. My poor son got diaper rash because of that most recent one. So frustrating. I have been taking my son everywhere I go now because I feel like I can't trust my husband to take care of him.



I guess the only plus (besides KNOWING he'll get changed) is that Vincent LOVES going shopping with Mommy, so he's really well behaved.

mom2AB&C 3 kids; Akron, Ohio 394 posts
6th Nov '12

um thats neglect.. does he feed him and give him something to drink when he is thirsty?



id throw the f**king video games in the trash!

Bogey Woman 2 kids; Fort Irwin, California 1892 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting mom2AB&C:" um thats neglect.. does he feed him and give him something to drink when he is thirsty? id throw the f**king video games in the trash!"


Other than the diaper, he's very well taken care of. They eat together, they play together, but when it comes to the diaper, it's like my husband feigns ignorance. I don't get it.

E'M Shikari Due March 10; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Preston, United Kingdom 1747 posts
6th Nov '12

That sounds so familiar. The XBox seems to come before anything. Pisses me off. Some men are f**king jerks and need to realize that their babies needs come first now.

Cecily's Mama 1 child; 3778 posts
6th Nov '12

When you leave take the controllers with you. That's neglect.

Bogey Woman 2 kids; Fort Irwin, California 1892 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Ellie Shikari:" That sounds so familiar. The XBox seems to come before anything. Pisses me off. Some men are f**king jerks and need to realize that their babies needs come first now."


My husband is a PS3 fanatic -_- The worst is that it always depends on what game he's playing. If he's playing something like Minecraft, he does what he's supposed to do, if he's playing CoD, THAT'S when my son gets ignored.

E'M Shikari Due March 10; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Preston, United Kingdom 1747 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Bogey Woman:" My husband is a PS3 fanatic -_- The worst is that it always depends on what game he's playing. If he's ... [snip!] ... If he's playing something like Minecraft, he does what he's supposed to do, if he's play CoD, THAT'S when my son gets ignored."


I made SO's friend take CoD away with him last time he came so he wouldn't be on it 24/7 and can't blame me because I don't have it ;)

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7830 posts
6th Nov '12

Seems a little....neglectful. If my husband ever left my son in a shitty diaper, my son would no longer be left in his care alone!



My brother in law was like that when my nephew was born. Too worried about the video games...



But yes...DH has lied about stupid things. Not anymore recently, but before....Yes.

Bogey Woman 2 kids; Fort Irwin, California 1892 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" Seems a little....neglectful. If my husband ever left my son in a shitty diaper, my son would no longer ... [snip!] ... born. Too worried about the video games... But yes...DH has lied about stupid things. Not anymore recently, but before....Yes."


My son's coming with me from now on. I would rather sacrifice "my time" so that I know my son is being taken care of. My son is really well behaved in public, so it's not a big deal, I just wish my husband would take more initiative.

Mandy and her girls!~ 3 kids; Illinois 10028 posts
6th Nov '12

One reason I'm thankful my husband has no interest in video games lol. But seriously why do some people act like changing diapers is the most awful thing. I guess because it's part of my routine something I do daily I don't even care at all. I mean is it awesome, no but I would rather do it than any other household chore.

* MRS KING * 2 kids; Whitesboro, Oklahoma 1550 posts
6th Nov '12

Next time he does that id stick his memory card in your sons

Shelby Chappell Due November 29; 1 child; Alberta 1575 posts
6th Nov '12

take away the controllers/games. My husband loves his games as well and 9/10 wont get up to help. Last night he was playing a game and i really wanted a shower but i knew until he was done playing his league of legends game that if DS started crying, he wouldnt get up and do anything about it. Have you tried talking to him about it after confronting him the first time? Ask him how he would feel if he had to sit in his own poop for who knows how long

Bogey Woman 2 kids; Fort Irwin, California 1892 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting * MRS KING *:" Next time he does that id stick his memory card in your sons
Bogey Woman 2 kids; Fort Irwin, California 1892 posts
6th Nov '12
Quoting Shelby Chappell:" take away the controllers/games. My husband loves his games as well and 9/10 wont get up to help. Last ... [snip!] ... it after confronting him the first time? Ask him how he would feel if he had to sit in his own poop for who knows how long"


I should try that. My husband is really messy, so the only thing I do that irritates him is when he leaves his clothing all over the living room (yeah, the living room), I stuff it in his pillow and he never finds it until he's about to go to bed. I DID threaten it and I don't think he was expecting me to follow through. Maybe until he starts changing our son, I should withhold doing his laundry.

*sp* 2 kids; Texas 16155 posts
6th Nov '12

Your husband sounds like a child. He would rather play a video game than change his own kid's shitty diaper? Let his kid walk around in that for no telling how long?



Hell no. He needs to grow up quick style. My husband doesn't "like" to change diapers, but he knows it needs to be done and does it when our son is in his care.



Seriously, I would be livid.