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Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
7th Nov '12

Maybe he's trying to see what a relationship w/you is like when you're not going at it like jackrabbits... cause well.. that probably will be the case once the baby is born.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" How long have you guys been together, did you get pregnant right away & is this his first kid?"</blockquote>




5 months, and yes.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jay_Em_Gee:</b>" Maybe he's trying to see what a relationship w/you is like when you're not going at it like jackrabbits... cause well.. that probably will be the case once the baby is born."</blockquote>




Well, that's stupid, because 1, if so why deny ourselves 5 months longer than we need to, and 2, I still managed to have lots of sex when my daughter was a newborn. I got pregnant 9w pp ffs.

O ♥ G 2 kids; Pride, Louisiana 10723 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mara:</b>" so he did freak out? or are you worried about ... [snip!] ... he would be now, if that is it. Cheating has been on my mind :/ but I'm pregnant and hormonal so idk if I'm looking clearly."</blockquote>




I happened to see your last post about him and he sounds extremely sketch to me. And I would think the same way if I wasn't pregnant too.



I would have a discussion with him. If Saturday wasn't an issue then how does it drastically change only 3 days later? KWIM?

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
7th Nov '12

I don't think he's cheating. Guys are actually hornier when they cheat because they are used to having so much sex or something along those lines. However, that is a fucked up thing to say and I would focus more on his feelings, not his actions.
And regarding your last post, having sex with a newborn around is easy. Having sex with a newborn and pre-schooler around.....not so much lol.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" I don't think he's cheating. Guys are actually hornier when they cheat because they are used to having ... [snip!] ... last post, having sex with a newborn around is easy. Having sex with a newborn and pre-schooler around.....not so much lol. "</blockquote>




if he's f**king around on me he wouldn't risk harming the baby. I could completely see him trying to turn me off sex with him because he's going elsewhere.



& she goes to school at 8 am. He goes to work at 2:15 pm. We'll have lots of time to boink :lol:

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" I don't think he's cheating. Guys are actually ... [snip!] ... because he's going elsewhere. & she goes to school at 8 am. He goes to work at 2:15 pm. We'll have lots of time to boink :lol:"


Lucky!
I don't understand...how would be harming the baby? With STD's and such? He could use a condom. But again, I don't think he's cheating. If he was, why wouldn't he just tell you if he's not interested anymore?

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Lucky! I don't understand...how would be harming the baby? With STD's and such? He could use a condom. ... [snip!] ... use a condom. But again, I don't think he's cheating. If he was, why wouldn't he just tell you if he's not interested anymore?"</blockquote>



Because we're having a child. He's already told me I'm stuck with him because he won't allow a broken home.



And condoms don't protect against all std.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Lucky! I don't understand...how would ... [snip!] ... He's already told me I'm stuck with him because he won't allow a broken home. And condoms don't protect against all std."


Okay but cheating usually leads to a broken home. Or a fucked up marriage. From what you've said he seems to care a lot about this child, too much to risk either losing him or him(or her) not having a stable life.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Okay but cheating usually leads to a broken home. Or a fucked up marriage. From what you've said he ... [snip!] ... said he seems to care a lot about this child, too much to risk either losing him or him(or her) not having a stable life. "</blockquote>



I don't necessarily believe he's cheating anyway, it's just one possibility on my mind.



But I do think he's hiding...something :/ I just don't know what or why.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Okay but cheating usually leads to a ... [snip!] ... anyway, it's just one possibility on my mind. But I do think he's hiding...something :/ I just don't know what or why."


I just noticed that you posted this yesterday. Have you asked him about it since then? I honestly think he was just being a douche. He was probably pissed for some reason - maybe at something you did or said and didn't tell you about it. I slept on the couch when we had one and I was pissed at DH.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" I just noticed that you posted this yesterday. Have you asked him about it since then? I honestly think ... [snip!] ... maybe at something you did or said and didn't tell you about it. I slept on the couch when we had one and I was pissed at DH. "</blockquote>




I posted about it further down on page 1. Today my daughter and I have been sick so we haven't spoken.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" I just noticed that you posted this yesterday. ... [snip!] ... "</blockquote> I posted about it further down on page 1. Today my daughter and I have been sick so we haven't spoken."


I went back and read it. I still think he's either pissed at you or he's second- guessing the relationship. But instead of being "straight forward" to you he's being a dick about it.

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Lucky! I don't understand...how would ... [snip!] ... He's already told me I'm stuck with him because he won't allow a broken home. And condoms don't protect against all std."


i'm going to go with : reality is hitting home and he's doubting almost everything about himself.



the desire to abstain is probably some sort of bizarre proof to himself that he's able to be a man and the father he's now lined up to be.



men can get REALLY weird about this stuff ... especially if they're bad at communicating otherwise, which it sounds like he is.

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Supafly★:" I went back and read it. I still think he's either pissed at you or he's second- guessing the relationship. But instead of being "straight forward" to you he's being a dick about it. "


i think he's feeling very insecure about his position, which is the usual reason for dick-ishness.