<blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" Ok...so I am confused.....your son's father is also the father of his ex's child? How old is her child? ... [snip!] ... How old is her child? And when she came saying that, was she still pregnant? And did he go back to her after she said that?"</blockquote>
And shouldn't say "search" because it is only him and 2 other guys (so she says). All 3 of them still hvent been tested. But my ex is convinced its his now because he put their pictures side by side and apparently they look alike...and I have to accept that until when/if he gets a test done,
<blockquote><b>Quoting ★Bαtgirl:</b>" Then why are you even ON here? If it's not for advice and help from moms who have experience in child care that you may not already have??"</blockquote>
To talk to new people. I can ask my family for advice. And if they don't have the answers then I'll come here. Why does it matter to you anyway?
<blockquote><b>Quoting Peppa pig:</b>" Lol...having three baby daddy options is a lot in my opinion...at least I'd be going nuts if I ever ... [snip!] ... you have that attitude...and you left him because of the fact that he is the father? I assume he cheated or he lied to you?"</blockquote>
No. He didn't cheat.....that I know of. And no, I didn't leave him because of her child. I was with him the entire time it was going on and even after he got his name on the birth certificate...which he said he only done because he got a test....which I just found out recently he didn't.
I left him because after getting pregnant, he kept asking me for an abortion because he couldn't handle gaining two new children at the same time. His words..."i just found out about her one so how am I going to handle your baby coming too?" And we had been talking kids for a while...I can't say we were actively TTC but we weren't taking any actions to prevent pregnancy. After she came back into the picture I saw the mess about to happen so i started getting him to pull out. That's when I got pregnant after months of taking no precautions. Lol.
The excitement of my pregnancy was pushed to side so I can help him through his situation with her. And I stood by his side the entire way through it. She came to the house with the child to get him to sign papers to put his name on the birth certificate while I was there. He didn't let her come in though. Lol.
I was the supportive pregnant girlfriend. after he got his name on the birth certificate, I was already almost 10 weeks pregnant. So because her child was already here...he wanted me to get rid of mine even though it was basically planned to make it easier for him! If he would have left it at me saying no, we would have been fine. But he kept pushing and pushing and being rude about it calling me selfish and inconsiderate. So I ended up leaving him because it was emotionally draining.
Quoting Peppa pig:" I would have done the same and I hope he feels like a assbag..has he been trying to get back with you? ... [snip!] ... what you want....it's a lot easier that way, financially and in terms of getting a break...but it's not always for the best. "
No. He hasn't been trying to get back with me. It will never happen even if he wanted to. I lost all respect for him when he changed his number on me. He told me that since we aren't together anymore, there's no need for him to support me through my pregnancy and that he'll see me in March. I haven't heard from him since begining of August. He was super butt hurt that I left him.
He'd have to do a lot of growing up before I consider taking him back.
An opinion is saying I don't think being a SAHM is hard, not saying those who are , are lazy and sit on their ass all day and don't mine mooching off their husbands.. That's being a bitch. "Shrugs"
<blockquote><b>Quoting ★Bαtgirl:</b>" :!::!: Yep. And where are you getting the money for college then, OP, if not from your mommy and daddy, ... [snip!] ... Do you really want to tell me you're going to law school, I think it was, out of your OWN pocket, with no loans of grants?"</blockquote>
I refuse to be all nice to someone who said those things about me, if everyone else wants to go for it, I refuse to just think she's "stubborn" no she's just a bitch about the whole thing.
True on the last part you wrote!
Quoting Isaiah & Delilah's Mama:" An opinion is saying I don't think being a SAHM is hard, not saying those who are , are lazy and sit on their ass all day and don't mine mooching off their husbands.. That's being a bitch. "Shrugs""
Those are both opinions actually. one just happens to be more harsh.
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" :!::!: Yep. And where are you getting the money for college then, OP, if not from your mommy and daddy, ... [snip!] ... Do you really want to tell me you're going to law school, I think it was, out of your OWN pocket, with no loans of grants?"
What? my tuition is being paid for by my parents. I said that pages ago. Go back and read. I said hopefully my son won't have to worry about paying for his either. Clearly you don't know how to read or you just skipped over it. I never said I'm in law school either.
Quoting Isaiah & Delilah's Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ★Bαtgirl:</b>" :!::!: Yep. And where are you getting ... [snip!] ... for it, I refuse to just think she's "stubborn" no she's just a bitch about the whole thing. True on the last part you wrote!"
Trust me, I do not need you to be nice to me. So keep refusing. I'll live!
Quoting DisneyMommyTTC#3:" If people are assholes to to others, they will always be an asshole to you eventually. If he gets ... [snip!] ... and runs away when shit gets real, he was/is severely lacking in character, and is really an overgrown boy, rather than a man."
I agree. I'm not saying much in his defense. He has been acting like a boy.
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" Yeah, see, I'm one that believes a higher education should be mostly paid for by the person who wants ... [snip!] ... wants it, not the parents. How much have you really had to pay for in life? Not the big expenses, like college, obviously..."
Well that sucks for you. I feel that if I am making the decision to bring a child into this world, it is my responsibility to ensure that they get through college if what they chose to do. That's just my job as a parent if I want what's best for my child.....if I want my child to suceed. The child didn't ask to be here. I'd feel worthless if after high school I told my child "you're on your own!" That's not a responsibilty they should take on. Luckily my parents feel the same way!
And I've paid for enough in life. I can happily say college isn't one of them. And I'll forever thank my parents for being as invested in my futuRe as I am. :)