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Cast Your Vote:

    • I would pick them up -- Votes: 9
    • Let them stay home anyways -- Votes: 2
    • Make them stay at school -- Votes: 13
    • I home school. -- Votes: 1
mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Coupon Lady:" Ok so if your child was always trying to get out of school by pertending to be sick all the time and ... [snip!] ... be home to watch tv and play games instead of being at school. If the school thought I was a bad mom so beit. I dont care. lol"


I just like clicking on your comments cause I love your Avi LMAO!! Anywasy my kid would stay at school

Bogey Woman 2 kids; Fort Irwin, California 1892 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Coupon Lady:" Oh no she is, lol last year she went to a part french school and this yr changed to a full french ... [snip!] ... not like school, and only child who is used to gettingher own way, and teachers prevent kids getting their own way lol kwim?"


Gotcha, I was just curious because I know that sometimes that's why kids will want to skip out. Sounds like she's just a little spoiled. Hopefully she grows out of it :/ it can be stressful having a child who ends up behind in school.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I agree.... wtf... 80 days?! And is she not repeating a grade? "



They dont hold kids back here at all. lol She is too smart to be held back anyways. lol



Yeah here kids will skip a grade but not be held back at all.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I agree.... wtf... 80 days?! And is she not repeating a grade? "


Here if you miss 20 days without a medical reason, you get held back. Of course parents are great with finding loopholes but honestly if you're going to let your child miss 80 days just frigging homeschool them. There's 180 days in a school year FFS.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36500 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Coupon Lady:" They dont hold kids back here at all. lol She is too smart to be held back anyways. lol Yeah here kids will skip a grade but not be held back at all."

That is strange.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Supafly★:" Here if you miss 20 days without a medical reason, you get held back. Of course parents are great with ... [snip!] ... honestly if you're going to let your child miss 80 days just frigging homeschool them. There's 180 days in a school year FFS. "


lol I was held back in grade 1 so was my big brother. lol



When my bro got to grade 8 he did horrible in school and my parents begged the school to hold him back they said no. I ended up skipping grade 8. lol



But yeah, here they dont do that anymore, not since late 90's early 2000's. lol



624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
7th Nov '12

The first time, I'd pick him up and see what the underlying issue is.



I used to do that all the time when I was in the 6th grade because I had really bad anxiety and I was picked on often.

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" That is strange. "


Yep, I know with Alberta Education thier mandate is "Age, not ability" it's literally written right in there. They think it's more important to stay with your peer group then understand the material. The teachers can recommend them staying behind, but the parents have to request it and have it enforced.

OP - My parents used to make me stay home, in bed and sleep. No TV, games, toys or books. Bed only AND I had to do my homework before dinner (anything that I would have missed). If I complained and wanted to do other things, they brought me right back to school. And if I came home from school I was in bed from when I got home until the next morning for school - except to do homework, bathroom and eat.

Layla-and-Faith 2 kids; Nova Scotia 656 posts
7th Nov '12

The biggest problem here is Why is the child lying?
I would pick my child up from school and treat them as if they were sick but not in the nicest of way lol.. they would have to stay in bed all day. When my child finally admits to lying, I would talk to her about why lying is not okay and then have the conversation about what is really bothering her and hopefully, we can resolve the real issue.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting Layla-and-Faith:" The biggest problem here is Why is the child lying? I would pick my child up from school and treat them ... [snip!] ... is not okay and then have the conversation about what is really bothering her and hopefully, we can resolve the real issue."



Nothing is bothering her, thats just it. Popular kid in class straight A student. Just a child that really does not like school at all.
She is grade 2 this year and every year getting her to want to go to school as been an issue with them, She does not like to be told when she is allowed to do anything, not a trouble maker either at school no issues with that.



She just hates that she cant do what she wants whenever she wants and nothing more too it.
If her mom calls her out as lying, she will call her mom a bully and tell her she is mean and needs to apologize to her, cause its rude etc.......So her mom usually lets her stay home, but not this time, so the school called and she had to find someone to pick her up for her.



So she basically lies cause she hates going to school, even though she gets good grades and is not picked on, tons of friends. She just does not like going.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
8th Nov '12

When my kids stay home from school sicke, they watch tv and play the wii or on their ipads and ipods etc.....



When I stay home sick I still do those things, lol They can lay in bed if they want to but they dont have to. lol



But I know when my kids are lying about being sick and they go to school anyways and if the school calls I tell them oh well I dont drive send them home on the bus. And if they insist on it, I just tell them I have no way to pick them up so they have to stay there.



If there is a chance that they are sick, I will find a way to pick them up, but I cant always find someone to be able to pick them up. lol So they stay there anyways.

Fat-and-Happy TTC since Mar 2008; 1 child; Texas 13915 posts
8th Nov '12

Since she's so smart, maybe school is boring for her. It's not challenging enough.

. , Richmond, VA, United States 74775 posts
8th Nov '12

I would pick up my child but there would be no video games or whatever. I'd also tell MIL to mind her damn business.

Kaleighshaleigh 3 kids; USA 5945 posts
8th Nov '12

My son did this once and his day was full of all work and no play and a great little talk about trust, and he never did it again. It wasn't worth it. :D

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3246 posts
8th Nov '12

80 days of school?! There is most certainly something else going on here.



You as a friend of her mother's may *think* that everything is fine, but with that sort of excessive absenteeism, there is an underlying issue. Kids generally do not want to play with toys (and risk getting in trouble) enough to stay away from their peer groups for essentially a whole term.



My money would be on bullying, acedemic stress, mental illness or an unhealthy attachment to the mother.