honestly i would just let it be.. if he comes he comes if not he doesnt..
I would not want him to be a part of my childs life when he HIT me! Being abusive while pregnant to me = he doesn't care. Sorry.
Honestly I wouldn't give a rats ass about him coming to be there since he is VIOLENT!
I wouldn't let him around my kid alone if he is violent.
I would just tell him you'll let him know when you go into labor. If he wants to make plans in advance, he will. If he doesn't, he doesn't.
Umm why would you want him around your child if he is abusive? I wish the best for you
Uhm, me .. I would be like "I'm having your child this day, are you going to show up or not?" If he says yes, leave it at that. When the day comes, whether he comes or not, have child support papers ready.
You are better off by yourself! you don't want someone abusive around your baby, lots of luck :)
I've thought about that too, he grew up with his dad being abusive to his mom, and i don't want my child around that at all, and i will make sure he won't be, i guess it's just better to leave it alone and see how it goes, but i just have so much anxiety about it, my 'father' left when i was two years old, so i know how it is to not have a dad, i don't want that either for him.
Quoting ☆Tiffanyyy☆:" I've thought about that too, he grew up with his dad being abusive to his mom, and i don't want my child ... [snip!] ... about it, my 'father' left when i was two years old, so i know how it is to not have a dad, i don't want that either for him. "
I could understand, my son's dad was abusive as well when I was pregnant, I was sad and alone especially when my child was born, it hurt me that he didn't care but now I'm soo happyy, and I know if I would've stayed with him my life would have been miserable.