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BD Problems. ☆Tiffanyyy☆ 1 child; Ohio 387 posts
7th Nov '12

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JessicaMatlock:) Due May 7; 1 child; Modesto, California 1337 posts
7th Nov '12

honestly i would just let it be.. if he comes he comes if not he doesnt..

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13681 posts
7th Nov '12

I would not want him to be a part of my childs life when he HIT me! Being abusive while pregnant to me = he doesn't care. Sorry.

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
7th Nov '12

Honestly I wouldn't give a rats ass about him coming to be there since he is VIOLENT!

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
7th Nov '12

I wouldn't let him around my kid alone if he is violent.

Nathan Young 2 kids; Syracuse, New York 57578 posts
7th Nov '12

I would just tell him you'll let him know when you go into labor. If he wants to make plans in advance, he will. If he doesn't, he doesn't.

Tiff + 2[girls] 2 kids; Montana 6000 posts
7th Nov '12

Umm why would you want him around your child if he is abusive? I wish the best for you

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
7th Nov '12

Uhm, me .. I would be like "I'm having your child this day, are you going to show up or not?" If he says yes, leave it at that. When the day comes, whether he comes or not, have child support papers ready.

Perfectly Imperfect :P 1 child; California 146 posts
7th Nov '12

You are better off by yourself! you don't want someone abusive around your baby, lots of luck :)

☆Tiffanyyy☆ 1 child; Ohio 387 posts
7th Nov '12

I've thought about that too, he grew up with his dad being abusive to his mom, and i don't want my child around that at all, and i will make sure he won't be, i guess it's just better to leave it alone and see how it goes, but i just have so much anxiety about it, my 'father' left when i was two years old, so i know how it is to not have a dad, i don't want that either for him.

Perfectly Imperfect :P 1 child; California 146 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting ☆Tiffanyyy☆:" I've thought about that too, he grew up with his dad being abusive to his mom, and i don't want my child ... [snip!] ... about it, my 'father' left when i was two years old, so i know how it is to not have a dad, i don't want that either for him. "

I could understand, my son's dad was abusive as well when I was pregnant, I was sad and alone especially when my child was born, it hurt me that he didn't care but now I'm soo happyy, and I know if I would've stayed with him my life would have been miserable.

Baking #4!!! Due March 5; 3 kids; West Virginia 270 posts
7th Nov '12

You are much better off without him!