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~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23736 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" I get what you are saying , really I ... [snip!] ... to? I know too many mixed people who only relate to black and even.down white people. Ill be damned if my daughter does that."</blockquote>



I of course teach my children to be proud of who they are, biracial people but I'm not naive. I know how the world sees them. I'd be doing them a disservice to pretend that the world won't see them as black men. Black men experience certain things in life, they need to be prepared for that.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" I get what you are saying , really I ... [snip!] ... to? I know too many mixed people who only relate to black and even.down white people. Ill be damned if my daughter does that."</blockquote>




Yeah....no. I'm not going to call myself "Irish-German-French-Navajo-Cheyenne-Dutch-Mexican". "White" works fine.

~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23736 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" I get what you are saying , really I ... [snip!] ... be."</blockquote> Lol and nobody thinks she is black anyway. Remember my poll? She looks Hispanic or Filipino lol"</blockquote>




True. My boys look black.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My ... [snip!] ... that the world won't see them as black men. Black men experience certain things in life, they need to be prepared for that."</blockquote>




Yes I do agree she needs to be prepared and I do plan on having more kids one day hopefully a boy. I just don't want her to identify with what society sees her as. She needs to.identify with reality in that she is mixed. Mixed kids face their own set of problems that black and white people don't face. I plan to teach her about all the races in her blood and hopefully she will be proud of them all and identify as an individual and not as one race. I also hope things get better when she is older. There are so many mixed kids now.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My ... [snip!] ... Yeah....no. I'm not going to call myself "Irish-German-French-Navajo-Cheyenne-Dutch-Mexican". "White" works fine."</blockquote>




So mixed people are brown then not black. But if you don't claim your heritage that's on you. You can't expect someone else to not want to. And if someone does identify with them all then it is not your place to call them black or white or whatever.

~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23736 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma ... [snip!] ... as an individual and not as one race. I also hope things get better when she is older. There are so many mixed kids now."</blockquote>




My kids will be very proud of their heritage but I don't want them to be blindsided when the white lady clutches her purse tightly as they walk by. Or when the white girls daddy pulls a shotgun in them and calls them a n****r, Kwim.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My ... [snip!] ... she is black anyway. Remember my poll? She looks Hispanic or Filipino lol"</blockquote> True. My boys look black."</blockquote>




They looked mixed imo. But oh how so very cute they are :) I want a little boy. Do you want a girl?

~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23736 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma ... [snip!] ... They looked mixed imo. But oh how so very cute they are :) I want a little boy. Do you want a girl?"</blockquote>



No way. I would have to shave her head. I can't do hair.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lotusmama:</b>" ... [snip!] ... All the time. It's not about race. You don't need to announce what you're mixed with every 5 minutes in order to be proud."</blockquote>



I don't mean every 5 minutes lol but most people are proud of who they are and where they come from. Kwim. Its less about obama but how others perceive obama.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ag iompar clainne (16w):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... to not want to. And if someone does identify with them all then it is not your place to call them black or white or whatever."</blockquote>



And white people are pink, what's your point :roll:



I embrace my heritage fine, thanks. I just don't need to go around reminding everyone of my genetic makeup to feel connected to my ancestors. And I'm not going to cater to anyone else by calling them their 8 most prominent roots. That's completely ridiculous.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My ... [snip!] ... There are so many mixed kids now."</blockquote> I have never seen this mixed race oppression that people talk about."</blockquote>




You mean like kids being made fun if or forced to choose a side or get shunned by one side if they are mixed? Or the obama thing?



Bc where I am from everybody mixes except old people but you still have people who believe strongly that interacial dating is wrong.



A lot of mixed kids are shunned by the black or white side in society and their own families. a lot feel the need to choose a side and claim only that side to fit in. But sadly, I only are this with black and white. I have friends mixed with Asian, Hispanic, European, African and etc. But it seems people only make a big deal over black and white.



I just don't understand why its still like this. Well yea I do. People still perpetuate it. The wounds run so deep and the defense runs so high. It seems people just can't move past it. But look at how many other races have Bern persecuted in this world? So many get overlooked and get drowned in the black and white issue. It makes me sad for our country. And our world.




I wonder is it this bad in other countries.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~~My ... [snip!] ... her purse tightly as they walk by. Or when the white girls daddy pulls a shotgun in them and calls them a n****r, Kwim."</blockquote>




Oh yea I see what you mean. I most def will teach.my child how she will be perceived and the prejudice and stereotypes she will have to face and overcome. I live in Alabama lol we ain't nyc. We got a long way to go here. I just know my family lives her and so does bd family. Hopefully things will get better as the years go by.

~~My Pet Wussy~~ 3 kids; USA 23736 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ... [snip!] ... are mixed. I hear about it all the time but have never seen it. The mixed kids were amongst the popular kids where I'm from."</blockquote>




I've seen it a little withe some mixed kids that acted " too white" they listened to alternative music, skateboarded, wore skater clothes etc.

*Turtles* 2 kids; Someplace, UT, United States 6098 posts
Nov 7th '12

Have any of you seen the Tyra Show episode where they talked about racial perceptions?



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3aH_B8_AoDc



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xM2_w-m_UFs



I can't find the articles.

blah 17 kids; Alabama 7639 posts
Nov 7th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting momma melissa85:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ... [snip!] ... ALL the time. If they want to just say they are black, fine. If they would rather leave it as multiracial, that's fine too."</blockquote>




Personally I think it makes more sense to say multiracial over black then if someone asks what races then explain but I don't expect everyone to have my view point. I would be very sad if my daughter told people she was black. I would feel very unimportant.