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Signing Rights Off in California Aliana 1 child; California 391 posts
7th Nov '12

Has anyone been through this before? What's the process?

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
7th Nov '12

im not sure in your state, but its pretty universal that the dad needs to agree, and you must have another person to take over where dad left off to adopt said child and financially support them

7 blessings so far.... Due February 3; 6 kids; Glen Burnie, Maryland 8799 posts
7th Nov '12

if you are refering to parental rights(of an absent/deadbeat parent).....its not possible unless their is a stepparent willing to adopt and accept responsibility for the child.
if u are refering to a parent signing over their right to the state because they cant care for the child then it all varies on the reason....

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45788 posts
status 7th Nov '12

There normally has to be a spouse (that you've been married to for a specific amount of time) in line to adopt the child prior to rights being severed.



Rights can be severed either through mutual agreement or by the courts finding a parent neglectful, abusive or unfit in some way.

Aliana 1 child; California 391 posts
7th Nov '12

The father of my LO wants nothing to do with him, especially financially, so having him sign anything will be a piece of cake.
I'm single and dont really have anyone to be the other parent.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45788 posts
status 7th Nov '12
Quoting Aliana:" The father of my LO wants nothing to do with him, especially financially, so having him sign anything will be a piece of cake. I'm single and dont really have anyone to be the other parent."


No, it won't be a piece of cake.



The courts would never allow a parent to just sign away his rights because he didn't want to support his child.

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Aliana:" The father of my LO wants nothing to do with him, especially financially, so having him sign anything will be a piece of cake. I'm single and dont really have anyone to be the other parent."


then its impossible.



do you think the state wants to take over financial responsibility for your child./ uh no.

Brookelynn's Mommy 1 child; California 1388 posts
7th Nov '12

Im going through a divorce and the lawyer who is helping me at the self help center said that the court will grant me all rights and take the father's rights away probably since that is what I'm requesting her father is not contesting it any.

Aliana 1 child; California 391 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Brookelynn's Mommy:" Im going through a divorce and the lawyer who is helping me at the self help center said that the court ... [snip!] ... me all rights and take the father's rights away probably since that is what I'm requesting her father is not contesting it any."


is there any separate side documents that I can get to do that without having to go thru a divorce?

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
7th Nov '12

In california YES the father can sign his rights away without another man stepping in. Not every state you do they need somone to adopt. I know for a fact in California and Texas they can do that. Other states I have no idea

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45788 posts
status 7th Nov '12
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" In california YES the father can sign his rights away without another man stepping in. Not every state ... [snip!] ... state you do they need somone to adopt. I know for a fact in California and Texas they can do that. Other states I have no idea"


I'm fairly certain that it only pertains to visitation and custodial rights, and that until someone legally adopts the child, they are still financially responsible for the child.



I believe this is even more true if the mother is on any sort of government assistance.

Brookelynn's Mommy 1 child; California 1388 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Aliana:" is there any separate side documents that I can get to do that without having to go thru a divorce? "


Do you have a custody agreement set up? If not you should do that. Go to the self help facilitators office at your local courthouse.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" I'm fairly certain that it only pertains to visitation and custodial rights, and that until someone ... [snip!] ... responsible for the child. I believe this is even more true if the mother is on any sort of government assistance."


Nope..I know 2 who have done it in Cali and 1 who did it in TX. I was surprised by the TX one.They were married, got a divorce and he wanted to sign his rights away. My friend said it was simple. Kind of weird but there was no issue. None of the fathers have no financial responsibitly to the children. Now I do think the moms had to proove they could support the child(ren) without the help. To be honest I think its stupid that there has to be someone willing to adopt the child