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Losing someone to suicide Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
7th Nov '12

We found out today that a very good friend of ours died unexpectedly, and we just found out he took his own life. I have known people before that have done it, but no one I was close to. I knew he was depressed, but I didn't know it was this bad, I just wish he would have reached out to us. I don't even begin to know how to process this.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" It's hard to process... SO's friend who was in the military shot himself this year, and he was a REALLY ... [snip!] ... friend of his... and we found out recently another mutual friend hung himself in 2009. It sucks... I'm sorry for your loss... "

Thank you so much, this has affected my DH a lot more since finding out, he was friends with him for a very long time, a lot longer than me.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
7th Nov '12

When I lost a friend I deployed with to suicide- I didn't know how to act at all. We weren't super close, but we were good friends. I cried, and pondered for awhile why, or what was going on that made him do it.. but you can't change anything, and I know it's painful to realize that.



I also lost my uncle to suicide, but I was younger, and didn't really understand.



I know it hurts- I hope you heal soon from your loss. <3

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
7th Nov '12

i lost a BIL to suicide... awful awful awful



so sorry for your loss

Cass Hole 3 kids; Shiloh, IL, United States 7588 posts
7th Nov '12

My dad killed himself when I was 17. It's hard and unfortunately you will never understand it. I still to this day struggle with the "why" even though he left a note. It's really hard even after so many years.



I'm so sorry for your loss.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Cass-Hole:" My dad killed himself when I was 17. It's hard and unfortunately you will never understand it. I still ... [snip!] ... struggle with the "why" even though he left a note. It's really hard even after so many years. I'm so sorry for your loss. "

Oh I am so sorry, we will probably never know why he did it, no note, nothing

user banned Due January 20; 33 kids; North Carolina 14662 posts
7th Nov '12

I know how you feel love.
I'm here if you need anything.
*hug*

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Pirate Hooker {BAMW}:" I know how you feel love. I'm here if you need anything. *hug*"

Thanks love *big hugs*

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 61358 posts
7th Nov '12

This makes my heart hurt. My father shot himself, his mom shot herself, my uncle hung himself....it unfortunately seems to 'run' in the family. I am so terribly sorry..

smASHface 3 kids; 1 angel baby; French Lick, IN, United States 48695 posts
7th Nov '12

suicide is terrible. I've lost a few people in my family and a few friends to it. I'm not sure it's ever really sunk in or taken affect on me. It's just hard. I'm so sorry.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting the grace life:" This makes my heart hurt. My father shot himself, his mom shot herself, my uncle hung himself....it unfortunately seems to 'run' in the family. I am so terribly sorry.. "

Thanks love, but make sure it ends there :)

thisunrest India 10364 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tara - Anya's mommy:</b>" We found out today that a very good friend of ours died unexpectedly, and we just found out he took his ... [snip!] ... but I didn't know it was this bad, I just wish he would have reached out to us. I don't even begin to know how to process this."</blockquote>




(hugs)



In July, I found out that a friend of mine had taken his own life this past May. If you need anything, you're free to PM me:-(

Dean Winchester 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alaska 16777 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting Tara - Anya's mommy:" We found out today that a very good friend of ours died unexpectedly, and we just found out he took his ... [snip!] ... but I didn't know it was this bad, I just wish he would have reached out to us. I don't even begin to know how to process this."


it is honestly a very long and hard process. my cousin took his life in 2001 at the age of 15. it still effects me today, however it does get easier, and it has opened a new perspective to me on peoples feelings (not saying i didnt care, but now there are better signs to look for i didnt see as a threat then... granted i was 12) however, it just takes time :/ but you will feel better. the "what could i have done" or "why?" will always be there, but with time you learn to deal with those unanswered questions more and more. :/
im so sorry for your loss momma :(

.Adilee's.Mommy. 1 child; Greenup, Kentucky 409 posts
11th Nov '12

Last October one of my very best friends growing up took his life over drug addiction. He didn't like what he had become and I suppose was just tired of dealing with every day life. He was one of the very best people on this Earth and I wish I had just one more day to talk to him. It's so sad what drugs, alcohol and depression can drive you to do. Sorry for your loss!!

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49462 posts
11th Nov '12
Quoting .Adilee's.Mommy.:" Last October one of my very best friends growing up took his life over drug addiction. He didn't like ... [snip!] ... had just one more day to talk to him. It's so sad what drugs, alcohol and depression can drive you to do. Sorry for your loss!!"

Thanks Mama!