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TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
7th Nov '12

It's absolutely normal for the father to become distant in the beginning...especially if the pregnancy was unplanned. Doesn't mean he's going to run out on you and your baby. Give him time to get used to the idea of having a family that he's going to be responsible for. Most guys aren't as attached to a fetus like the Mother is from the start. Most guys don't feel any connection with the baby until after he/she is born. I wouldn't stress about it, Mama...unnecessary stress isn't good for you and your baby :)

Kylees Mama 1 child; Faribault, Minnesota 4193 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting shes*almost*one!:" i would have an abortion and finish school. "


I'm sorry but really? :?



OP, it may be the nerves, it may be something else. Whatever it is, you just gotta keep telling yourself you will get through it and you will be strong. It's hard, trust me I know, but it gets better everyday. Try talking to him about it?



Tiffoni Watts 5 kids; Stamford, Connecticut 138 posts
7th Nov '12

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" i would have an abortion and finish school. "




She didn't ask you what you would do.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" ps how do you own a home at 18? Im 25 and am not even close "</blockquote>



Didn't you post about having trouble with your credit a day or two ago? Because of a voluntary repo? I know quite a few people my age with way too good credit for their ages.

Stormyb123 Due May 26 (boy); Florida 97 posts
7th Nov '12

First all of you p***e o* s**t who told me to get an abortion get off my posts. Why would you even suggest that, wow i came to this website to get GOOD advice. I don't OWN my own home, i rent a house.& did you not understand my posts I said I was considering moving out & just being a single mother because the father wasn't being very supportive. I knew just because I said I was 18 meant that people would be a*****es. Thanks for the one person who didn't judge me on my age & actually gave me concrete advice.

Mommy of TWO <3 2 kids; Maryland 731 posts
7th Nov '12

I was 18 when I got pregnant, also going to school for nursing. I'm now with a 1 year old, married to the father, and never quit school, have our own place and we do just fine on our own.. We had our ups and downs but we made it through. Wait it out, he probably is in shock. And don't listen to any rude f**ks telling you to get an abortion and finish school. It's not easy but it's not impossible to have a child while you're in school.

JustDucky 2 kids; Connecticut 1118 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stormyb123:</b>" First all of you p***e o* s**t who told me to get an abortion get off my posts. Why would you even suggest ... [snip!] ... that people would be a*****es. Thanks for the one person who didn't judge me on my age & actually gave me concrete advice."</blockquote>




Easy there momma, there was only one person that was rude!

Tikaytasha 17 kids; New York 11503 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Gir!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" ps how do you own a home at 18? Im 25 and am ... [snip!] ... credit a day or two ago? Because of a voluntary repo? I know quite a few people my age with way too good credit for their ages."


I wasn't being rude..I was just wondering. My credit suuuuucks from being a stupid ass teenager

username1 1 child; Chicopee, MA, United States 30921 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Stormyb123:" First all of you p***e o* s**t who told me to get an abortion get off my posts. Why would you even suggest ... [snip!] ... that people would be a*****es. Thanks for the one person who didn't judge me on my age & actually gave me concrete advice."


then leave your age out of it.if you have your shit together then who cares if you are 18. you are just setting yourself up for those negative comments.

Laventure_Adventure 2 kids; Pennsylvania 675 posts
7th Nov '12

He may honestly be scared, I got pregnant and I had my first DD at 17 and I was scared but excited. My now DH was very distant and seemed rather uninterested. I think the fact of a small human being scares some men, especially with how people say "they are so fragile and need support under their head etc..." it freaks them out. I am not defending him in any way shape or form just explaining it's a scary experience for some of them. I honestly went on from having my daughter at 17 after graduating high school to enrolling in culinary school, got my degree and became a chef at a private country club. I moved my way up and enrolled in a business school which I am currently finishing for my bachelor's degree and soon going to start a business and I have a second child. Mind you I am 26 now but I too have a house, a big yard, just got a new car and married the man who helped me give life to my two girls. It wasn't without having confidence in myself and really pushing myself to work hard for my oldest, that led me to where I am today. So it's not impossible it just takes a little extra effort and if he doesn't want to step up that's his problem.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Stormyb123:" First all of you p***e o* s**t who told me to get an abortion get off my posts. Why would you even suggest ... [snip!] ... that people would be a*****es. Thanks for the one person who didn't judge me on my age & actually gave me concrete advice."


:?You really need to get over your insecurities. No one gives a shit how old you are, just how rude you are.

Tikaytasha 17 kids; New York 11503 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting Stormyb123:" First all of you p***e o* s**t who told me to get an abortion get off my posts. Why would you even suggest ... [snip!] ... that people would be a*****es. Thanks for the one person who didn't judge me on my age & actually gave me concrete advice."


easy. A lot of people actually gave you opinions and advice.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stormyb123:</b>" First all of you p***e o* s**t who told me to get an abortion get off my posts. Why would you even suggest ... [snip!] ... that people would be a*****es. Thanks for the one person who didn't judge me on my age & actually gave me concrete advice."</blockquote>




I was being nice too.. Along with others.. I don't understand how anyone could have thought saying "get an abortion" was a good idea! What the hell?

Ashley; Kenley's Mommy! 1 child; Wisconsin 15117 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stormyb123:</b>" First all of you p***e o* s**t who told me to get an abortion get off my posts. Why would you even suggest ... [snip!] ... that people would be a*****es. Thanks for the one person who didn't judge me on my age & actually gave me concrete advice."</blockquote>



You're 18, an adult. Why would we have a problem with your age? It's not like your 15 and still i school.

Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" I wasn't being rude..I was just wondering. My credit suuuuucks from being a stupid ass teenager "</blockquote>



I didn't mean it that way, but I just wanted to throw it out there. Some people are lucky enough to start off ridiculously awesome :D