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Gir! 2 kids; Ohio 7504 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" she didnt have to... that's the beauty of the internet, you can throw your .02 in where ever you see fit! abort it OP. "</blockquote>



Seriously. What's morbid is your tune :-/

JustDucky 2 kids; Connecticut 1118 posts
7th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" she didnt have to... that's the beauty of the internet, you can throw your .02 in where ever you see fit! abort it OP. "</blockquote>




:roll: shut it, dumbass

Christan_89 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8043 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" ....... WTF was that for? You're hitting a bit below the belt tonight... "


And she's telling other people she's glad they don't have kids....

Hathor + A Due December 23 (girl); 16 kids; Spring, Texas 12834 posts
7th Nov '12
Quoting shes*almost*one!:" didnt hurt my feelings. and why are you on a mothers website anyway... pretty pathetic. because you got pregnant one and well, yeah... "

Ever single time we post in the same thread, you always try to duke it out with me? What the fuck did I do to you?

talexys 1 child; Ontario 1138 posts
7th Nov '12

Alot of guys don`t get excited until they see their baby for the first time and fall inlove. When I found out I was pregnant my spouce was really scared, he wouldn`t straight up tell me he wanted me to get a abortion, but I knew he did. I had already had one and I swore I could never do that again...but I wanted him to be on the same page as me...we went to a counselor to talk about our options...(and sometimes with a third party its easier to get out how your feeling)...he said he just didn't feel ready but wanted to support any decision I made..he would not have straight up told me he just didn't feel ready because he didn`t want me to feel forced to do something I didn't want to do..... ultimately I knew I was keeping the baby, and as the time got closer he got more excited ....Guys are different then girls when it comes to this a lot of the time, especially if it wasn`t planned, he probably has a million things going through his mind and is scared, (I don't know just a guess).. Just give it time though!

shajenni TTC since Oct 2012; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Dubbo, Australia 1108 posts
7th Nov '12

My husband told me once that it's not real for them until the baby is born even with our 2nd baby he was detached from it all. Your partner may be in a little shock so be sensitive to him and he'll more then likely come around. Try to involve him in things and talk to him that's the only way. and if it's not ment to be then move on but don't throw it away just yet give him more time.



hope for the best for you and your little family.

Veronika Karn Due January 22 (boy); Wilsonville, Or, United States 120 posts
8th Nov '12

Im 18 and 29weeks today, ive been.with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. We werent ttc it just happened and was a shock for both of us expecially sense i had just moved back in with my parents to help out with my dad who is recovering from a hip replacment. But it took my SO a while to get used yo the fact a little one is gonna be here and our lifes are changing. Theor are a lot of negative people on this site but also many great and helpful people.
Just give him a little time to adjust to the news

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting shajenni:" My husband told me once that it's not real for them until the baby is born even with our 2nd baby he ... [snip!] ... to be then move on but don't throw it away just yet give him more time. hope for the best for you and your little family. "

!!!! My DD is 8 months old and my DH told me a few weeks ago that he really didn't 'bond' with her or get really excited and stuff (this sounds horrible I know but I promise he's a great father lol) until she started playing more, like around 4-5 months. He loved her from the beginning but it didn't seem 'real' to him when she was a newborn because she really just slept.

shajenni TTC since Oct 2012; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Dubbo, Australia 1108 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting Carol :):" !!!! My DD is 8 months old and my DH told me a few weeks ago that he really didn't 'bond' with her or ... [snip!] ... months. He loved her from the beginning but it didn't seem 'real' to him when she was a newborn because she really just slept."

I couldn't breast feed my 1st 2 so my hubby gave me quite a bit of help with feeding and he got to bond with them really early in their lives :) He could very well be the same as your's if I can BF #3 will have to wait and see.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting shajenni:</b>" I couldn't breast feed my 1st 2 so my hubby gave me quite a bit of help with feeding and he got to bond ... [snip!] ... with them really early in their lives :) He could very well be the same as your's if I can BF #3 will have to wait and see."</blockquote>



I didn't BF and while dh helped a little with the feeding I still did the majority being a SAHM lol. My mil tries to say he just doesn't help bc it's generic bc his dad didnt help but I don't buy it and I told him I don't buy it and when I need his help he needs to help (man I sound like a bitch :) )

shajenni TTC since Oct 2012; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Dubbo, Australia 1108 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting Carol :):" <blockquote><b>Quoting shajenni:</b>" I couldn't breast feed my 1st 2 so my hubby gave ... [snip!] ... help but I don't buy it and I told him I don't buy it and when I need his help he needs to help (man I sound like a bitch :) )"

Not at all. I'm at SAHM as well But my hubby just wanted to do it while he could. :) He figured that he would miss out on a whole lot being at work all the time and this was one thing he wanted to do. He also now baths both of the kids and reads to them before we put them to bed he's very hands on much more then what i expected. :)

Stephy B Due May 10 (girl); 64 kids; Tennessee 226 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting shes*almost*one!:" she didnt have to... that's the beauty of the internet, you can throw your .02 in where ever you see fit! abort it OP. "


Teen pregnancy is not actually an abortion thread. If she wants advice on whether or not to abort, there's a place for her to question that.



You're just being a bitch.

*Amo a Mis Nenas* 3 kids; Birmingham, Alabama 8838 posts
9th Nov '12

talk to him OP. when my kids father became distant and didn't want to see me or hang out with me bc he was "tired" he was cheating on me. while i was pregnant with our baby. but he's a dick and had cheated on me the whole time. so it wasn't a spontaneous thing..



but i'm also not saying your SO is cheating. he may just be scared. idk. you wont ever know till you talk to him. and also, sometimes it's better to be separated and co-parent vs being together and being miserable. it sounds like you have your cards in place with school. just don't give up on that.



i also had to get to a place of being utterly miserable with BD before i finally felt okay to leave. i hate i waited so long to do it. but i got with my current DH not long after leaving BD (was supposed to be a friends with benefits type thing. yeah, i fell for him. and he fell for me)

Stormyb123 Due May 26 (boy); Florida 97 posts
9th Nov '12

Thank you ladies for all your wondeful advice :) It really does help alot <3