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SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" its ture. he is ignoring her which is great! he could just block her number and she cant text him any more"</blockquote>




That could be action he could take now. I have neve blocked a number in my life so if he's anything like me he wouldn't even know how to do that. Lol I just ignore people who annoy me.

GrumpsMama 1 child; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 16073 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" I asked one of my friends what she thought and she said to take the number and call her and ask her what ... [snip!] ... me, that is probably why I am needing to vent just now because my nature is to lose it and I'm trying to remain very calm :?"


Theres ways to go about it that wont make it seem like she is a treat.
Tell her along the lines of stop talking to him. He does not want to talk to you. He's not texting back for a reason. He's in love with me. He doesn't want to be with you, you left your husband and kids to be a wh**e.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
8th Nov '12

Aww op you're handling it really well and very reasonably right now. It's bring it up to him and let him know you saw the text and you appreciate him trying to protect you and just ignoring the b***h, you would like it if he would please ask her to stop.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elena Dawn's mommy:</b>" Sounds like you have a good man on your hands. If you say something, he may think you don't trust him. ... [snip!] ... Congrats for getting one of the good ones op. I'll be the first to say that I don't trust my so that much lol, I'm jealous."</blockquote>



Yes she is a skank and she is trashy, you should see her! She is almost 40 so what she wants with my 25 year old DH I don't know. Just comes across as desperate to get her hands on anything she can.

GrumpsMama 1 child; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 16073 posts
8th Nov '12

I'm only telling you this..because SAME exact thing happened to me about a year ago.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮ Phuket:</b>" its ture. he is ignoring her which is great! he could just block her number and she cant text him any more"</blockquote>



Do you know how he can go about blocking her number? I wasn't even aware you could block a specific number.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Elena Dawn's mommy:</b>" Sounds like you have a good man on ... [snip!] ... 40 so what she wants with my 25 year old DH I don't know. Just comes across as desperate to get her hands on anything she can."</blockquote>




Gross. I usually feel bad for women like that but in this case I think she just needs to wake the eff up.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" I mean I would mention it to him, just that you saw it. But I wouldn't be upset and I wouldn't get involved. ... [snip!] ... been saying and you're not comfortable with it, but that you are not blaming him and the two of you do not have a problem."</blockquote>



Yes this seems good to reassure him I am not trying to blame him for anything because I am really not, I have no issue with him and I'm happy that he has trying to ignore her and send her a clear message it is just quite obvious she is CRAZY! :?

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" I mean I would mention it to him, just that ... [snip!] ... with him and I'm happy that he has trying to ignore her and send her a clear message it is just quite obvious she is CRAZY! :?"</blockquote>




Right, he is doing nothing wrong, she is just a nut job. Make sure it's clear you know that but that you would feel better if he just tried to put a stop to it. And that he doesn't have to nvolve his friend and cause problems there if he doesn't want to (blame the messenger and all that) just tell HER to stop

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting GrumpsMama.:</b>" Theres ways to go about it that wont make it seem like she is a treat. Tell her along the lines of ... [snip!] ... texting back for a reason. He's in love with me. He doesn't want to be with you, you left your husband and kids to be a wh**e. "</blockquote>




I can see where you are coming from and appreciate what you are saying but as well as not wanting her to think she is a threat I do not trust myself. I am trying my best at the moment to just relax but as I said my nature is not to stay calm at all and if I put myself in a situation of being in direct contact with her I would not be able to keep a lid on my true feelings, if she was to say something rude to me it would take me all of about 2 seconds to get in the car and appear at her door. So yes I think the best thing is to keep myself away from her :?

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" Aww op you're handling it really well and very reasonably right now. It's bring it up to him and let ... [snip!] ... and you appreciate him trying to protect you and just ignoring the b***h, you would like it if he would please ask her to stop."</blockquote>




Thanks.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Elena Dawn's ... [snip!] ... Gross. I usually feel bad for women like that but in this case I think she just needs to wake the eff up."</blockquote>




Yes I can feel sympathy in certain situations but not her and not women like her. If you are just having affairs to have affairs, are having them with as many as you can at a time and don't care who it is you can get your hands on and have no regard for anyone that is just a cheap trashy skank IMHO.

GrumpsMama 1 child; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 16073 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting BG Secrets:" <blockquote><b>Quoting GrumpsMama.:</b>" Theres ways to go about it that wont make ... [snip!] ... of about 2 seconds to get in the car and appear at her door. So yes I think the best thing is to keep myself away from her :?"


Very true.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Nov '12

I just want to say even if I haven't replied directly to you, thank you to everyone who has replied with advice, it is appreciated.

BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
8th Nov '12

I am going to log out now, thank you again to everyone. I think I am going to tell him I know about the messages due to getting MIL number from his phone, reassure him I am not angry with him about it at all and I can see he is trying to ignore her but it is really bothering me she is not taking the hint. I will just say to him as ignoring her is clearly not working I think it is now at the point where he needs to be more harsh about the situation and text her back and be quite clear he does not want her to text him again and she is to remove his number from her phone..... and that she needs to get a grip on herself if she thinks a happily Married 25 year old is interested in her middle aged, cheating, trashy, skanky ass. Well maybe not the last part but that is how I feel !!



Thanks ladies.