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How to accept depression Amy Baize-Stapleton Due May 18; Japan 3 posts
8th Nov '12

I have always had depression and my pregnancy made it worse so my babys dad couldn't handle it and broke up with me by blocking me on fb. How have any of you fought depression and how do you tell a kid when its older that its father left and it's your fault?

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56007 posts
8th Nov '12

Well first off GET HELP



Secondly, it isn't YOUR fault that your BD left



Seriously, get some help. You don't accept being depressed. You fight back and make yourself well

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
8th Nov '12

It's NOT your fault. If the father left, its because he wasn't educated about depression and wasn't strong enough to support you and his child. Don't blame it on yourself.

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
8th Nov '12

I tried for 8 years to "beat" depression on my own.
Anti-depressants literally saved my life.
It's not your fault that you are depressed. Unless your behavior was extreme, then he sounds petty and immature.
Get help. Talk to someone. You don't have to get through this alone.

Lotusmama Due March 31; British Columbia 1672 posts
8th Nov '12
Quoting Amy Baize-Stapleton:" I have always had depression and my pregnancy made it worse so my babys dad couldn't handle it and broke ... [snip!] ... on fb. How have any of you fought depression and how do you tell a kid when its older that its father left and it's your fault?"


1.) It is not your fault. He has a responsibility to his child regardless of whether or not his relationship with you is working out.
2.) Depression is a clinical illness, leaving someone because they are sick is pretty weak. The way he did it shows a lot about his charactor and makes me think you will be better off without him.



Go get some help for yourself! What will make you feel better is really a matter of trial and error because each person is different and different treatments work for different people. One of the most helpful things you can do is find a good psychiatrist to work with and talk to about your feelings, stresses, and different treatment options. For some people talk therapy and lifestyle change can be enough. For others, medication is also required.

Bri + 1.5 <3 Due October 20 (girl); 1 child; Florida 4344 posts
8th Nov '12

Aww, it is not your fault. He wasn't man enough to stay! Talk to your doctor about how you have been feeling. He may refer you to a personal couselor. Or refer you to someone who can prescribe you something to help. I hope everything works out for you.

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
8th Nov '12

since you acknowledge it, you need to seek treatment.



My husband denied it for years. just recently he's started getting help and as they've figured out his meds, I've seen a big improvement. Not every day, but, it is getting lots better.