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...................... Dr. Elliot Reid 1 child; New Zealand 8788 posts
status 8th Nov '12
Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
8th Nov '12

No I'd be pissed too

stfubeeouch Due November 24; 1 child; Texas 640 posts
8th Nov '12

id be upset also. looks like you two need to talk that sounds like bull crap to me

Dr. Elliot Reid 1 child; New Zealand 8788 posts
status 8th Nov '12
Quoting stfubeeouch:" id be upset also. looks like you two need to talk that sounds like bull crap to me"

Ive tried talking to him but he doesnt want to hear it.

elisabeth♡ 49 kids; Connecticut 853 posts
8th Nov '12

I'd be pissed!

stfubeeouch Due November 24; 1 child; Texas 640 posts
8th Nov '12

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Kelly-Ann Louise 1 child; 1 angel baby; Australia 802 posts
8th Nov '12

That is rediculous of him.
I would give up on 'trying to talk'. I would DEMAND that I'm allowed to get a new bra to continue breast feeding.
You poor mama, he sounds like such a hypocrite!
And just a downright douchebag having a whinge over a cup of coffee!

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
8th Nov '12

Richard tried to pull this shit with me. So I took over the wff money lol. It works that way.

Dr. Elliot Reid 1 child; New Zealand 8788 posts
status 9th Nov '12
Quoting stfubeeouch:" is he the one that brings in the money? I have had some what of a similar issue with my husband. He thought ... [snip!] ... disagreements but i was not happy even though sometimes i feel like i cant complain much because hes the one making the money."

Yea he is but I do everything around the house, and I sold my car (because we didnt need 2 cars) and have been using that money to help out

Dr. Elliot Reid 1 child; New Zealand 8788 posts
status 9th Nov '12
Quoting h*:" Richard tried to pull this shit with me. So I took over the wff money lol. It works that way."

Im trying to get him to do that too, so if I need anything for me or LO it doesnt have to be a big deal. He said he likes it when I ask him for money because it makes him feel powerful :roll:

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
9th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Reid:</b>" Im trying to get him to do that too, so if I need anything for me or LO it doesnt have to be a big deal. He said he likes it when I ask him for money because it makes him feel powerful :roll:"</blockquote>




Oh that's not cool.
I'd just log onto IRD website and change the account number it gets paid into to my account then. But I'm sneaky like that lol probably not the best advice!!

Kelly-Ann Louise 1 child; 1 angel baby; Australia 802 posts
9th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Reid:</b>" Im trying to get him to do that too, so if I need anything for me or LO it doesnt have to be a big deal. He said he likes it when I ask him for money because it makes him feel powerful :roll:"</blockquote>



Shouldn't that be the big eye opener?
He likes to control you.
Not trying to be rude, but that is a sure sign of an abusive relationship.
He is making you reliant on him.

Layla-and-Faith 2 kids; Nova Scotia 656 posts
9th Nov '12

I would be annoyed as well if my SO told me I can't buy a coffee LOL. I work 50 hours a week, if I want to buy a coffee.. it's not his place to tell me no lol

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
9th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kelly-Ann Louise:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Reid:</b>" Im trying to get him to do that too, so if ... [snip!] ... to control you. Not trying to be rude, but that is a sure sign of an abusive relationship. He is making you reliant on him."</blockquote>




Definitely agree he is making you reliant on him... and you already said its like he loves the power. I'd be sitting him down and making it very clear that things need to change and he needs to stop being so selfish... and if they didn't, I'd be seriously considering whether the relationship was worth continuing. You can't spend your life worrying about what you can and can't have based on what HE thinks is appropriate.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
9th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" I would be annoyed as well if my SO told me I can't buy a coffee LOL. I work 50 hours a week, if I want to buy a coffee.. it's not his place to tell me no lol"</blockquote>




I think OP said she doesn't work. Not that it makes a different. They're in a partnership.