My husband loves doing that, it turns him on.
I could do without it.. I tell him to shutup or he wont get any when he goes overboard lol
It turns me on too, but there's a difference in talking about it and actually DOING it. I don't mind talking about it if he wouldn't take it so seriously.
If you are not happy leave.
Giving him an ultimatum will not fix anything, regardless of what people think.
If things arent moving for you and you have brought it to his attention just leave and find someone who wants what you want.
Quoting I work in HR:" BF and I have been together almost 3 years. We don't live together or see each other often because of ... [snip!] ... married soon, we don't talk about furthuring our relationship in any way. He's upset and I don't know what to do anymore."
If you are unhappy and he doesn't seem to want to stop pushing you into this idea, then leave.
I don't think there is anything wrong with discussing his fantasies but if you don't want to do it you don't want to I had a bf that kept trying to push me to have a threesome he wouldn't stop finally I just snapped and told him off he never asked again. Like I said he's an ex now
If you guys live in separate states, I say forget about him. Found someone who wants to pleasure you, not just himself. You should be able to do what pleases you. Dude kinda sounds like a weirdo, lol. If you're not comfortable with trying anything he wants to, and he still doesn't understand that, find someone who will treat you right. At least you guys are not married, and aren't talking that seriously about getting married yet. My advice is to find someone new. I know it's been 3 years, but you should find someone who will treat you right for the rest of your life.