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Verbal abuse A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
9th Nov '12

What things would register as verbal abuse to you?
For instance...
If your SO would constantly accuse you of cheating, constantly tell you that he "knows" you have many guys on the side. Will curse at you and yell during these accusations that have zero basis.



Would you consider that borderline verbal abuse? Or just a lovers quarrel?

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
9th Nov '12

I'd call that paranoia and trust issues over verbal abuse. Still definitely not okay.

user banned California 8675 posts
9th Nov '12

Both and a relationship with no trust is not good!

JessiFox TTC since Oct 2010; 17 kids; Pennsylvania 37 posts
9th Nov '12

I think it's highly inappopriate and nothing you want in a relationship...I'm not sure where to draw the line exactly into abuse.

user banned California 8675 posts
9th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting JessiFox:</b>" I think it's highly inappopriate and nothing you want in a relationship...I'm not sure where to draw the line exactly into abuse."</blockquote>




Cussing and accusing her of shit she didnt do is considered verbal abuse since it happends constantly.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
9th Nov '12

Now our conversation had gone like this..



Me: I do not think this is going to work. You continuously scream and yell and accuse me of things I didn't do. It's borderline verbal abuse.
Him: Haha verbal abuse. I might be wrong to accuse you but you can take "verbal abuse" and stick it where the sun don't shine"



Me: no response for a while



Him: Maybe it's good we are not getting married. Hell I wouldn't want to "abuse" you Haha
Me: you're right, because a marriage where you'd constantly be yelling at me and accusing me of cheating, accusing me of having multiple boyfriends, accusing me of flirting with my coworkers, telling me you don't want me to work because you don't trust me with my coworkers.. that marriage would probably end in divorce.
Him: you're such a martyr. You go girl!

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
9th Nov '12
Quoting A&J. ♥:" Now our conversation had gone like this.. Me: I do not think this is going to work. You continuously ... [snip!] ... you don't trust me with my coworkers.. that marriage would probably end in divorce. Him: you're such a martyr. You go girl!"


Wow. Tell him he can go f**k himself since with an attitude like that he won't be seeing a vagina in person for a long ass time.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
9th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Co-Creator of Goobernut:</b>" Wow. Tell him he can go f**k himself since with an attitude like that he won't be seeing a vagina in person for a long ass time."</blockquote>




You're right. Exactly what I'm thinking. I guess when I should've left it alone when it didn't work out the first time instead of giving it another try.

user banned California 8675 posts
9th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting A&J. ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Co-Creator of Goobernut:</b>" Wow. Tell him he can go f**k ... [snip!] ... I'm thinking. I guess when I should've left it alone when it didn't work out the first time instead of giving it another try."</blockquote>



Dont feel bad at least now you know that you gave him another chance
and it didnt work. If you didnt gave him another chance you would always have that what if. kwim?