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who i want at the hospital.. Taynia Craig Due November 21; Bunceton, Missouri 33 posts
9th Nov '12

Is it too much to ask for if I only want my boyfriend (baby's dad) and me to be the only ones in the room before my baby girl is born. I honestly don't want anyone there besides us until afterwards mainly because I don't want to hear my sister yell at my nephew and I don't want to hear the arguments when I am supposed to be somewhat relaxing and getting ready for active labor. I told my mom and she threw a fit about what I want. It's not a party so I don't understand why she can't wait just wait until after my daughter is born.
Do you all think I am mean? Oh and btw my family is nothing but drama that is why I really don't want ppl there until afterwards.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4496 posts
9th Nov '12

You're not, in any way, wrong. It's YOUR decision & your's only. Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for that.

Brandi Milam 3 angel babies; Tucson, Arizona 574 posts
9th Nov '12

I'm not even going to tell my family until after our daughter is born. But I am going to have my hubby and his mom there.

Ella Minnow Pea Delight, Arkansas 3822 posts
9th Nov '12

Nothing wrong with that. DH was the only one in the room with me for DD, and I was by myself (minus the medical staff, of course) with DS since he was deployed. I prefer labor to be a personal experience, not a party where everyone can see my lady bits. lol

kaaw 2 kids; Minnesota 10192 posts
9th Nov '12

oh, hell no. your nephew does not need to be there while you labor. none of them do. don't feel guilty, either. i'd beat their asses if they show up. it is not about them. these posts f**king piss me off (not you, OP, your drama family wanting to ignore your wishes).

Red Rover Due February 25; 16 kids; California 1802 posts
9th Nov '12

Its just going to be me, DH and my doula.
Family is either going to waid out in the lobby or till after LO is born. I dont want to hear their comments or opinions and thats that. My birth my way. I'm not going to be uncomfortable to make them happy.

Taynia Craig Due November 21; Bunceton, Missouri 33 posts
9th Nov '12
Quoting Brandi Milam:" I'm not even going to tell my family until after our daughter is born. But I am going to have my hubby and his mom there."

I am so tempted to do that. I do admit that since his family is only 5 miles away and they are the ones to take me in, if he is hunting or working, that they should be there and my family should come afterwards since they live like 127 miles from me. But when I told my mom, she said that it wasn't fair since that is her first granddaughter too. What is it with some mothers making a big deal out of something so small?

Mrs cree Due November 23; 33 kids; Ontario 1907 posts
9th Nov '12

I don't understand why families get so bent out of shape about being in the room my hubby and I have said it will be him and I no one gave us a hard tim. People have hinted about wanting to be in there but we have lost two babies this is important to us people need to get over themselves sheesh. Tell them this is what's happening if they don't like it to bad tell the nurses to its not a family get together if they can't accept it don't tell them till baby is born

Brandi Milam 3 angel babies; Tucson, Arizona 574 posts
9th Nov '12
Quoting Taynia Craig:" I am so tempted to do that. I do admit that since his family is only 5 miles away and they are the ones ... [snip!] ... fair since that is her first granddaughter too. What is it with some mothers making a big deal out of something so small?"

I haven't even told my mom that she isn't allowed to be there.

*mommy to 3* Due March 7; 2 kids; Virginia 1167 posts
9th Nov '12

This is your baby and your body. If they want to watch a baby be born that badly then they need to get pregnant and have their own.....and then you can harrass them about being in there and make them feel like crap and see how they like it. some people.....geez

J.E.T.= mommy's world! 1 child; California 230 posts
10th Nov '12

Other than the medical staff, it was just MY mom & SO w/ me. After delivery they have something called the Miracle Hour where it's ONLY mommy & daddy time. No one is allowed to be in there but since my mom was part of my "support group" & MY mom she was allowed to stay. I didn't ask her to but she went & sat in the corner & gave us time w/ our baby. Holy hell if my SO's parents didn't pitch a fit. They were so upset that THEY couldn't be in there too since my mom was. It was absolutely ridiculous. This was their first grandbaby & they didn't see her for about a week & refused to talk to my SO because they were so upset. YOUR baby, YOUR body, YOUR say in who gets to be there. Stick to your guns & don't let anyone try & talk you into doing something other than what you've decided to do.