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Leash25 2 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 1589 posts
status 10th Nov '12

is this his first child???

M+1 1 child; Ballarat, Australia 1549 posts
10th Nov '12

we weren't emotionally connected before i had the baby. he never listened to me, but i gave it another shot hoping that he would change. i'm going to ignore him for a couple of weeks and see if he comes to his senses cause i'm not willing to play games. no matter how much i express my feelings to him, it's like i'm talking to a wall. i thought i would be the last person on this planet to be in this situation.

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
10th Nov '12

Ugh, he sounds almost exactly like my BD. He has a lack of emotion that is almost sociopathic...it used to actually scare me sometimes. I would call him with updates about my pregnancy, the baby, etc. and he would either have little/no response or he would become angry with me for contacting him. Once I stopped contacting him...that was it. I never hear from him.

M+1 1 child; Ballarat, Australia 1549 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Leash25:" is this his first child??? "

yes, first child for the both of us.

Leash25 2 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 1589 posts
status 10th Nov '12
Quoting Marissa xo.:" we weren't emotionally connected before i had the baby. he never listened to me, but i gave it another ... [snip!] ... feelings to him, it's like i'm talking to a wall. i thought i would be the last person on this planet to be in this situation."


Well sweetie the signs were there. There is nothing you can do now but prepare to be a single parent. It is not the end of the world. Hopefully you guys can coparent with no issues. You deserve someone who cares about you and I hope you find him. It seems like this rrelationship is completly one sided and that isn't fair to you. I really hope you realize you deserve better. Once you do you will be alot happier.

Leash25 2 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 1589 posts
status 10th Nov '12
Quoting Lizplustwo:" Ugh, he sounds almost exactly like my BD. He has a lack of emotion that is almost sociopathic...it used ... [snip!] ... or he would become angry with me for contacting him. Once I stopped contacting him...that was it. I never hear from him."

I vroke up with my son father while I was 7 months pregnant! he was no help to me and didnt want to come see me. I think he only asked about the baby 1 time after we broke up. I was fine being a singe mom!!! I waited until my son was 3 to put him on childsupport... now he hates me!!! lol who cares!!!!

M+1 1 child; Ballarat, Australia 1549 posts
10th Nov '12

this is what he's said so far: "you act like you didn't know i'm in the f**king army and train all over the place" "i told you when you said you were pregnant, it was going to be like this. i f**king told you" "this is nuts"



funny thing is, after 3 months of dating i told him i didn't want to be with someone in the army because it would be too hard on me, and he said that he would quit once his contract is up (this july 2013). he also hasn't/won't deploy for a very long time because he has metal plates in his knees.



he sounds selfish as f*ck, doesn't he?

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Leash25:" I vroke up with my son father while I was 7 months pregnant! he was no help to me and didnt want to come ... [snip!] ... I was fine being a singe mom!!! I waited until my son was 3 to put him on childsupport... now he hates me!!! lol who cares!!!!"

Yeah my BD didn't show up for the birth of his son but he came to the hospital the next day and hisAf new girlfriend waltzed right into my hospital room with him! After he didn't come to our son's baptism because I told him I didn't think it was appropriate for him to bring her, I pretty much said good riddance. I have a lot less headaches now.

Perfectly Imperfect :P 1 child; California 146 posts
10th Nov '12

He sounds like an a*****e -__-

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
10th Nov '12

he sounds like an a*****e honestly...

his kids ARE family.. he is his parents, kid.. what adouche bag honestly. is this the babies dad right? just make sure he signs the Birth certificate and go after him for child support. its based on income so if he makes good money you should get decent money too..

f**k that noise. seriously. id be just keeping it civil so i could try and get cild support in the end

MommyingWithGrace Beverly Hills, California 2427 posts
10th Nov '12

I am going to be honest....I have seen far too many military guys act that way. They get distant from people they should be helping with. Also, you can get him for child support and he will have to pay it. The army doesnt give you the option to pay it or not. They cant make him be a part of the baby's life, but they can make him take care of his child.
My husband was a very different man while he was in the army. Almost someone I hated every single day of my life. Now that he is out, he the most affectionate, loving person. He has done a lot better on so many levels.

M+1 1 child; Ballarat, Australia 1549 posts
10th Nov '12

i've heard a lot of military men are cold too because of what they seen.. i still don't think it's a valid reason to treat your gf like shit, and not be emotionally there, nor physical. i told him i'm done last night and his response was "me to" i thought to myself.. what ever happened to the quote: "fight for love"? all bs anyway. i'm trying to now live by the saying: "forget what you want, and remember what you deserve"



thank you all girls for putting your opinions in, it truly helped me and i appriciate it. it made me think beyond what i was thinking, and helped me make my decision. xoxo much love

Leash25 2 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 1589 posts
status 10th Nov '12
Quoting Marissa xo.:" i've heard a lot of military men are cold too because of what they seen.. i still don't think it's a ... [snip!] ... helped me and i appriciate it. it made me think beyond what i was thinking, and helped me make my decision. xoxo much love"


it sounds like he was already done a while ago. I'm happy you chose you over him. I just hope he isn't an ass when it comes to his child and will help you out with him... good luck!!!