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Can You Find The Love Again? Opinions? MommyCeleste.♡ Due October 23; 1 child; Japan 59 posts
10th Nov '12

I no that after having a child a couple can go through rough patches or possibly fall out of love. Especially when your young & neither of you were ready. But do you think you can fall in love with each other again, Or fix things in the relationship?

*Turtles* Due July 27; 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6083 posts
10th Nov '12

Yes, it's possible. It takes a lot of work and dedication to make things work though.

Tani. 2 kids; California 1076 posts
10th Nov '12

Yes, definitely.

K. Beaupiiiit..* 1 child; Ontario 663 posts
10th Nov '12

Maybe this is just my opinion but I think if you believe you have "fallen out of love" with someone, you never loved them to begin with. Once you love someone, you always do. Times may get rough, and you may go through things like other people do, but I don't think people who truly love each other can just "fall out" of it.

Just Niki 19 kids; Oregon 1456 posts
10th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Turtles*:</b>" Yes, it's possible. It takes a lot of work and dedication to make things work though."</blockquote>




Yup. Relationships are hard.

*Turtles* Due July 27; 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6083 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting K. Beaupiiiit..*:" Maybe this is just my opinion but I think if you believe you have "fallen out of love" with someone, ... [snip!] ... you may go through things like other people do, but I don't think people who truly love each other can just "fall out" of it."



I don't agree. I think people can fall in love and out of love, but that doesn't mean they never loved that said person to begin with.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3467 posts
10th Nov '12

I think u can fall outta love w someone but fall just as easily back in love if u really wanna work it out. There's a line though if u start to resent/hate that person then no... I think it's over- Dislike where everything they do u wanna punch them in the face or get super super angry.

K. Beaupiiiit..* 1 child; Ontario 663 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" I don't agree. I think people can fall in love and out of love, but that doesn't mean they never loved that said person to begin with."


My views are different I guess..! Touchy topic for me!

*Turtles* Due July 27; 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6083 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting K. Beaupiiiit..*:" My views are different I guess..! Touchy topic for me!"


I also think that people mistake infatuation for love.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting MommyCeleste.:" I no that after having a child a couple can go through rough patches or possibly fall out of love. Especially ... [snip!] ... & neither of you were ready. But do you think you can fall in love with each other again, Or fix things in the relationship?"


I have been married nearly 8 years. We go thru those moments here and there. Marriage/ relationships take a LOT of work. You have to make time for each other and the relationship away from the stresses of bills, work and kids.



For a while, I hated my husband. There were days I wish he would never come home from work. That is a nasty thing to have run thru a persons mind but, that is where we were in our relationship. I was dealing with PPD, PTSD and being a SAHM to 3 little kids. My twins are now 4 and my son is 2. My husband is gone a lot for work so, everything is on me to get handled. Run all the errands, pay all the bills, care for the kids 24/7 and I don't have anyone to help me or relieve me for a few moments. We went to counseling and really had to take time for us. Don't get me wrong, I still look at him sometimes with a WTF thought. lol I love him very much and I know I married the right man. It is just a lot of work to make it thru the rough patches. People are too worried about instant gratification these days. They don't want to put work into the relationship it is just easier to walk away.

K. Beaupiiiit..* 1 child; Ontario 663 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" I also think that people mistake infatuation for love."


I agree with that 1034343947948204290000000000%

Kiss Kiss Bang Bang 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 1984 posts
10th Nov '12

If you love each other, you could fix it and fall back inlove depending on the reason you fell out of love to begin with.

MommyCeleste.♡ Due October 23; 1 child; Japan 59 posts
10th Nov '12

I don't mean you don't "love" them, but your not "in love" If that makes sense? Like there's no more spark, excitement, happiness, every day feels like here we go again.
That's how I feel about my daughters father. Were both young & have many many problems but we both want to "fall in love" again & make it work. I just can't seem to figure out how..

*Turtles* Due July 27; 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6083 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Not tellin:" I have been married nearly 8 years. We go thru those moments here and there. Marriage/ relationships ... [snip!] ... about instant gratification these days. They don't want to put work into the relationship it is just easier to walk away. "


:!: People are too worried about instant gratification these days. They don't want to put work into the relationship it is just easier to walk away.

Kiss Kiss Bang Bang 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 1984 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting MommyCeleste.:" I don't mean you don't "love" them, but your not "in love" If that makes sense? Like there's no more ... [snip!] ... young & have many many problems but we both want to "fall in love" again & make it work. I just can't seem to figure out how.."


Surprise eachother. That's how it works in my relationship. I could surprise him with a nice dinner when e get's home from work and he can surprise me by cooking for me once in awhile. Do something you don't do regularly that shoes how much you care for them.