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*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Kiss Kiss Bang Bang:" Surprise eachother. That's how it works in my relationship. I could surprise him with a nice dinner ... [snip!] ... he can surprise me by cooking for me once in awhile. Do something you don't do regularly that shoes how much you care for them."


That doesn't always work. I made my SO a surprise breakfast these past couple of days and I am still being treated like crap.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" That doesn't always work. I made my SO a surprise breakfast these past couple of days and I am still being treated like crap."


There is always an underlying reason. Most times when D is an ass to me it is because he is stressed about something. It is true when they say that you take it out on those closest to you. Talk to him. Let him talk about himself for a bit. They need to let off steam once in a while too.

MommyCeleste.♡ Due October 23 (girl); 1 child; Japan 59 posts
10th Nov '12

This all started when our daughter was born (she is now almost 9 months). We have NO alone time (& no we don't have anyone who can babysit). We hardly even get to have sex because she has to be with one of us constantly. We used to have sex EVERY DAY. Now MAYBE once a week & its usually in a hurry. Were always frustrated about money issues or stressed & exhausted.

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Not tellin:" There is always an underlying reason. Most times when D is an ass to me it is because he is stressed ... [snip!] ... out on those closest to you. Talk to him. Let him talk about himself for a bit. They need to let off steam once in a while too."

We haven't been getting along for a while anyway. I just made him breakfast to show that I care.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting MommyCeleste.:" This all started when our daughter was born (she is now almost 9 months). We have NO alone time (& no ... [snip!] ... EVERY DAY. Now MAYBE once a week & its usually in a hurry. Were always frustrated about money issues or stressed & exhausted."


Why does she have to be with one of you at all times?



Sex once a week is better than most! lol With the twins it seriously was like 4 months before we were able to find time and energy! We still find ourselves going a month or more (large in part to him being gone for work as well). Sex is important in a relationship but it isn't the only thing. Sounds like your communication has really broken down. Your daughter is young enough that the two of you can go for a walk (weather pending) with her in a stroller and just talk. You can make a picnic and she will not go anywhere.



She is also old enough to be left alone to nap without someone hovering over her. Let her breath and focus one day a week to just you guys. Make that your "day". You don't have to go anywhere special or even leave at all. Make it the splurge on something and enjoy each other. Order take out, shower together, watch a movie ect.... Get your little girl on a better bedtime routine and take advantage of the time she is sleeping.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" We haven't been getting along for a while anyway. I just made him breakfast to show that I care."


We have done that too. Fits and Feathers I guess. lol Good luck!

Kiss Kiss Bang Bang 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 1984 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting *Turtles*:" That doesn't always work. I made my SO a surprise breakfast these past couple of days and I am still being treated like crap."


I would have made rearranged his breakfast to be shaped like a dick and told him he is what he eats..thats just me though

*Turtles* Due July 27 (girl); 1 child; Someplace, UT, United States 6090 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Kiss Kiss Bang Bang:" I would have made rearranged his breakfast to be shaped like a dick and told him he is what he eats..thats just me though"


:D Good idea.

MommyCeleste.♡ Due October 23 (girl); 1 child; Japan 59 posts
10th Nov '12

We don't live together right now due to financial issues. She naps once a day but when its nap time I'm exausted & honestly don't even feel like having sex. We try to talk more & I've been telling him lately I wanna no how he feels or what his day was like or at least talk on the phone for a while well she's asleep.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting MommyCeleste.:" We don't live together right now due to financial issues. She naps once a day but when its nap time I'm ... [snip!] ... him lately I wanna no how he feels or what his day was like or at least talk on the phone for a while well she's asleep."


Huh? I have never heard of a couple not living together due to financial issues. If if there are financial issues, they seem to live together with ones parents or something.



You clearly live with someone as does he. I am guessing parents. You have a babysitter. Go to a dinner or movie. You don't have to spend $100 on dinner. Even McDonald's value menu will suffice! Find a way to have some quality time together.

JessiFox TTC since Oct 2010; 17 kids; Pennsylvania 37 posts
10th Nov '12

Definitely. A lot of people seem to think that 'real' love should be some effortlessly amazing ride forever and ever and never be hard. Real love takes a lot of work, and effort/commitment from both people.

MommyCeleste.♡ Due October 23 (girl); 1 child; Japan 59 posts
10th Nov '12

I think I should have put some of the back story. Okay, I'm 18, I live with my dad & siblings. I have two little sisters (one is 7, one is 11) my 11 year old sister is disabled. She can't walk, talk, eats through a feeding tube. So when she gets out of school I babysit her & the 7 year old. Our mother pretty much abandoned us & is just a drunk mess in & out of our live. When she's around she neglects my sister & other siblings. So I'm pretty much the helper/babysitter. With my sisters needs it would be hard for my dad to find someone else to care for her & babysit her well he works. & My boyfriend & I couldn't afford an apartment until recently (were currently looking for one.) So for those & many other reasons I live at home still.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting MommyCeleste.:" This all started when our daughter was born (she is now almost 9 months). We have NO alone time (& no ... [snip!] ... EVERY DAY. Now MAYBE once a week & its usually in a hurry. Were always frustrated about money issues or stressed & exhausted."


Don't be so hooked up on the sex, trust me when you're trying to get your emotional relationship back on track the last thing you want to be doing is add sex into the mix

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55983 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting MommyCeleste.:" I think I should have put some of the back story. Okay, I'm 18, I live with my dad & siblings. I have ... [snip!] ... afford an apartment until recently (were currently looking for one.) So for those & many other reasons I live at home still."


And just when do you have time to have sex daily with all that?



Sex isn't as important in this relationship as your communication. When communication breaks down, you pretty much lose everything else with it. When your dad is home, take an hour or two and go have dinner or a cup of coffee. I am sure all will be well leaving your daughter for a little bit. That or take her to your BF's parents. Hell, have one of your friends come and babysit your daughter and give your dad a hand with your SN sister (the other one is pretty much self sufficient but just can't be alone).