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HIV+ and TTC Chick+6.5! Due October 18; 6 kids; 1 angel baby; Colorado 7766 posts
10th Nov '12

Stemming from a conversation with a friend. If you knew you were HIV+, would you intentionally ttc? Would you prevent pregnancy? If you wouldn't have biological kids would you adopt? My view, I wouldn't chance pregnancy. I also don't think I would adopt because I would know there was a chance I wouldn't be around long, or be sick often. Thoughts?

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
10th Nov '12

I would prevent pregnancy. Assuming my spouse was also +, no I wouldn't adopt either.

**Cali's Mommie**[EBF] 2 kids; San Jacinto, California 661 posts
10th Nov '12

if i was in that situation i think i would adopt or just stay how i am before i got prego! and just enjoy my time left wit my son defenitly wouldnt ttc

† Phoenix † 1 angel baby; 16167 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Chick+6!:" Stemming from a conversation with a friend. If you knew you were HIV+, would you intentionally ttc? Would ... [snip!] ... I also don't think I would adopt because I would know there was a chance I wouldn't be around long, or be sick often. Thoughts?"


Honestly, I don't know how i feel because i mean there are medication that can help prevent the baby to get it, but I don't know how i would feel about that. I just pray i never have to deal with that. Would they even let someone would have be sick often adopt? I don't know though.

snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Angel's Momma.:" Honestly, I don't know how i feel because i mean there are medication that can help prevent the baby ... [snip!] ... I just pray i never have to deal with that. Would they even let someone would have be sick often adopt? I don't know though."


people can live very long, normal lives now with HIV.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
10th Nov '12

I don't know. I probably would TTC assuming my partner was HIV+ too. The meds they give to HIV+ pregnant women decrease the chance of passing it on to baby by 98%

Mommy|Of2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Canada 3028 posts
10th Nov '12

I wouldn't have children if I knew I was HIV positive.
I wouldn't adopt either.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
10th Nov '12

I very much doubt adoption would even be an option unless it was a private adoption. I would want to have a baby very badly, maybe I'd be selfish enough to try. I'm not really sure.

Chick+6.5! Due October 18; 6 kids; 1 angel baby; Colorado 7766 posts
10th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:</b>" I don't know. I probably would TTC assuming my partner was HIV+ too. The meds they give to HIV+ pregnant women decrease the chance of passing it on to baby by 98%"</blockquote>




I couldn't knowingly chance that 2%. I'm a worry wort.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30579 posts
status 10th Nov '12

I wouldn't TTC, and I would try to prevent pregnancy. Even though people can live longer these days, I still wouldn't chance it. I wouldn't adopt either.

James Mama 3 kids; Arizona 2845 posts
10th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" people can live very long, normal lives now with HIV."</blockquote>




!!!!!



Some people think its like the plague.

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7869 posts
10th Nov '12

Assuming DH was as well, yes, I would. I have heard about medications and shots that an expecting mother can be given that would prevent the fetus from contracting the disease. Although, I haven't done MUCH research so I can't say for sure.

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
10th Nov '12

Personally I wouldn't. But I have also never TTCed and never will. But that is just because having biological kids is not important to me. Though HIV is not as risky as people thing. Women can have children and breastfeed them, and live normal healthy lives.

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
10th Nov '12

just because a mom is HIV + doesnt mean the baby will be born with it, now a days its deff possible..

you just cant BF or anything. it depends on my health and stuff to if i would TTC. id hate to bring a baby into the world only to take a turn for the worst..
idk, i love children so much and to think that just because a certain disease i coulndt enjoy that happines..

maybe its the same with moms with cancer? even though they wont give cancer to their babies..usually.. even though ive heard some cases of babies having cancer when their moms had cancer

user banned Shreveport, Louisiana 66739 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting ☮ Phuket:" just because a mom is HIV + doesnt mean the baby will be born with it, now a days its deff possible.. ... [snip!] ... wont give cancer to their babies..usually.. even though ive heard some cases of babies having cancer when their moms had cancer"


The recommendations for breastfeeding have actually changed, it is recommended that HIV pos women do actually bf now.