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/sigh BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4314 posts
10th Nov '12

Just venting a little dont mind me
Im tired of my SO acting like im a horrible mother. My so acts likes he's father of the year now cause he finally started taking a part in LOs life (For the first 6months i had to do everything).



He calls me lazy and that the only reason why i have to take care of LO is cause i have to. He says i hate responsibility (which i dont). He accuses me of spoiling our LO and letting her do whatever she wants. When she was born my LO liked to be constantly held it was the only thing i knew how to keep her quiet. Shes now 10months old and is still that way. He got mad at me cause i wouldnt give her water when she was a newborn. I told him she didnt need it.



He gets mad cause when i get up at 5:30a and i work 7-3 and i dont get home till almost 4 that i wanna sit for an hour then cook dinner. He said that i shouldnt let him and the baby starve just cause i dont wanna cook. I tell him if hes so hungry to cook then and then he says no,



I tell him i dont wanna be with him and that I wanna go back to my family and take LO with me . He says the only reason why i wanna go back is cause I dont wanna take responsibility and how can i do that to such an innocent child and take her away from her dad. I tell him that i dont wanna be here cause of the constant fighting. He said he'll do anything in his power to get sole custody of DD.



I cry nearly everyday. I dont know what to do anymore. I wanna pick up and leave but do to all the mental abuse im scared to. Im afraid of Losing my child, Im tired of being so unhappy.

Yurvette [♥] 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Hyrule Castle, LZ, San Marino 36477 posts
10th Nov '12

There is no reason you have to put up with that. And they arent going to take your kid away if you leave him.



He needs to step up andact likea man or you need to leave.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4314 posts
10th Nov '12

He compares me to my older brother and says that everytime something goes wrong that i wanna run to mommy and daddy.

£iones§ 1 child; Saint Albans, WV, United States 142 posts
10th Nov '12

Leave. Those are just empty threats to get you to stay. No one will grant him full custody unless your a crack head. Even then most times a judge won't take a child from their mother. Now joint custody is possible so prepare for that.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4314 posts
10th Nov '12
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DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
10th Nov '12

Not all her resp. It's his too.



Leave why stay n put up w that crap? Sounds like a spoiled little boy to me not a man or a dad IMO. No custody agreement in paper u can leave whenever u want I believe. U have 1 child already ur not gonna raise him too!

£iones§ 1 child; Saint Albans, WV, United States 142 posts
10th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BlackVelvet:</b>" How would joint custody work? Is it the mothers responsibility to bring the child when its scheduled? "</blockquote>




Well they usually set you both up to meet a mediator when you go to court then the schedule goes from what you both agree on. If you guys can't figure it out with a mediator then the judge will set it up and give you the terms of the times dropping the child off and picking up works for the parents. My husband and I meet up halfway every fri at a gas station meet up at the same place and time sun.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4314 posts
10th Nov '12
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£iones§ 1 child; Saint Albans, WV, United States 142 posts
10th Nov '12

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☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45193 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting BlackVelvet:" If i were to leave id be moving a 1000miles away "


he could stop you from being able to move

£iones§ 1 child; Saint Albans, WV, United States 142 posts
10th Nov '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BlackVelvet:</b>" If i were to leave id be moving a 1000miles away "</blockquote>




It can work out like how my sisters dad and my mom did. My mom lived in Texas. Her dad lived in Michigan. They had it where she came flew (which her dad had to pay for) on alternate holidays and every summer.

BlackVelvet 1 child; 1 angel baby; Aurora, Illinois 4314 posts
10th Nov '12
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☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45193 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting BlackVelvet:" I have no one here in this state except him"


and since that is his child to he can make it so you cant move

£iones§ 1 child; Saint Albans, WV, United States 142 posts
10th Nov '12

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