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Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting J+K=Bri+? :):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea.J:</b>" That's what everyone is saying. He's not afraid ... [snip!] ... so against taking her to court..."</blockquote> He's an idiot? Idk. If I was him I would be taking her ass to court!"


He's scared it'll come to be that its not actually his son. I mean, i can imagine how much it would hurt to think your the father for 3+ years, and find out you weren't. My friend went through that, and it killed him that his little girl wasn't actually his.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
10th Nov '12

That's actually a very good possibility. Sad to say it, and we all joke about it all the time, but I can tell if you pay attention real close that he's got his own doubts. Her current BF, and the boy look a lot a like. I wish I could post this one picture. It's weird. But my SO claims that they didn't know each other at the time of conception (Btw their son was supposedly conceived on BC and condoms. Which I know happens but come on...) But she's with the guy Idk why that would stop her from taking him to court. Him on the other hand... I could see now thinking about it, why he'd be hesitant. He loves his son so much. Reads to him every night. We all eat at the dinner table. My SO and I had what you could say wasn't the 'perfect' childhood without getting too deep. So we try and make the best for his 3 year old... That would be sad. But it would fix a lot not saying I want my SO to lose his only son, in any form. But, Idk someone has to get what I'm saying.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
10th Nov '12

^ I just want this drama to be somewhat tamed... Is what I'm saying.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Chelsea.J:" That's actually a very good possibility. Sad to say it, and we all joke about it all the time, but I ... [snip!] ... But it would fix a lot not saying I want my SO to lose his only son, in any form. But, Idk someone has to get what I'm saying."


Eh, looks don't really mean TOO much. My friend and the little girl looked IDENTICAL, and she wasn't his. I mean she literally was the spitting image of him. Court is the best option. I know he loves him, but i mean, if the other guy is the father, its not fair to the boy to not know his actual father KWIM?

Mother of amazing kids 3 kids; Arizona 257 posts
10th Nov '12

The same thing is happening to me but that my kids aren't acting out like that. My ex husband took my kids one day and in the middle of everything I found a new great guy who I'm married to now. But, I decided even after I filed for divorce that I would rather just be with my husband now cause one he has never hit me or anything, where as my ex has. But anyways, my ex found a new gf thinking that that was going to hurt me, then had my kids call her mom and everything. Told me because I had a newborn with my husband that I can't see my other two kids. Even tho we had court ordered 50/ 50 custody. If I wanted to see my kids it would only be when my husband wasn't around, so he can one try and get me to sleep with him or is asking for something, or on the weekends. Now I'm pregnant with my husbands and I's second and I took him to court cause I'm tired of everything. It's a game to him to try and hurt me with the kids, but really all he is doing is hurting the kids. He should take her to court that's the only way anything will get resolved and the situation will get better. Sorry you have to go though this it is hard I have gone through this for over two years now it's hard.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
10th Nov '12

Yeah I understand that completely.
It's a matter of getting him on board I don't understand the issue still on his side. Aside frm that possibility.

BobbiJ Due February 6; 2 kids; New Zealand 6 posts
10th Nov '12

I live in NZ so I don't have the details on how to take to court in your country. I hope you are feeling ok love and I think its best to get things sorted BEFORE the birth of your baby.
She sounds like a jelous cow that can't handle whats going on, and the poor wee boy is stuck in the middle. I think if anything (as you can't really do anything apart from support your partner) is continue to shower that lil man with the love he deserves and needs. XX

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Mother of 4 :):" The same thing is happening to me but that my kids aren't acting out like that. My ex husband took my ... [snip!] ... will get better. Sorry you have to go though this it is hard I have gone through this for over two years now it's hard."


That sounds rough and confusing all at once. I will have to talk to him but for now, we have to wait for her majesty to grace us with her presence. She always tells us the day we can have him, but never an ETA, so she purposely screws our entire day. Like today. :D!!!!!!
I'm really annoyed. SO just got home and I always feel like a b***h bringing it up, because Chris (3 year old) isn't mine. So why should it matter? It's his attitude towards it, and someone mentioned it would bother them if their SO cared that much. Or something. Like Sticking to her every word.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting BobbiJ:" I live in NZ so I don't have the details on how to take to court in your country. I hope you are feeling ... [snip!] ... really do anything apart from support your partner) is continue to shower that lil man with the love he deserves and needs. XX"

Thanks, I do, unless he starts acting like his mother, then I just have to walk away because I can't be mean to a three year old, but I can't stand by and be spoken to like trash, because his mother taught him how. I make little snacks for after day care, and I always tell SO we should all go to the park when he's been good at school, etc., and when his dad reads to him at night Chris always comes to find me, and asks if I want to listen too. He's so sweet sometimes. I just want this resolved.

Erica Yutzy 1 child; Red Lake, Ontario 344 posts
10th Nov '12

She has no choice but to go to court if he wants to. Especially when it's his child he's fighting custody for.

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Erica Yutzy:" She has no choice but to go to court if he wants to. Especially when it's his child he's fighting custody for."


He's afraid the kid isn't his.

Erica Yutzy 1 child; Red Lake, Ontario 344 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" He's afraid the kid isn't his."


.... Well then.
Someone needs to demand a paternity test. ;D

Tash+1 1 child; Canton, Ohio 7839 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Erica Yutzy:" .... Well then. Someone needs to demand a paternity test. ;D"


Meh, i can see why he doesn't. There is a VERY likely chance it isn't his, and he'll lose all access to the kid.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
10th Nov '12

this is just a vent to my vent. She doesn't call when she's dropping him off or even give a time frame we were getting ready to go grocery shopping, so we'd have food for the week, and she pulls up and whales on the horn like she's big shit. God she gets under my skin. Now that I know is a cross between just wanting common courtesy, and hormones.



ANYWAY.



I will be talking to him. He's convinced they didn't know each other when their son was conceived but it's no longer the problem its the drama. and the attitude. but whatever.

Chels :3 Florida 2017 posts
10th Nov '12

I want to murder something (Not to be taken seriously.) he's already here and crying because she kept him out all day, no nap, no nothing, hasn't eaten dinner and it's 5pm here. We can't go get food now because he's screaming and crying that he's too tired, but doesn't want to go to bed. I can't drive atm medical issues and I'm terrified too while I'm pregnant, and SO isn't "allowed" to leave him alone with me instructions straight from his mother herself... This is what I mean. She makes him feel like holy lord for getting a Saturday with him, and drops him off like this. And speeds away to go off for the weekend. She couldn't handle full custody I don't get why she jokes about it so often. Then pulls shit like this. She's blow her brains out before the third week of having him full time. Well I'm in for a fun weekend. Hormones have me irritated already, and I know I'm being a bit over dramatic but the situation as a whole has me upset. I wanna cry and go to bed. Thank you guys though seriously, for the information. The census say's take her stupid ass to court. Now just to get him on board.