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Would you be mad? Preschool question Stephloveslynden Due August 2 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 24423 posts
10th Nov '12

I picked my daughter up from school on Thursday and my youngest was passed out in my arms, we were late to an appt so it was kind of a crazy day. I just signed my oldest out and took her hand and walked her to the car. When we got home I realized she had a NASTY bruise on her face. It was smallish but deep like someone poked her with a pen. I asked her what happened and she said "nothing." so I asked her again and she told me she fell. I kept asking her different ways and different questions and I couldn't get a straight answer. When my husband got home, she told him she was running with her two friends and she tripped and fell on some rocks. Today, the bruise is way way way worse, its all red and gross. She said it hurts but still won't us what happened. I am worried because she's told me a few times in passing that she is "lucky" her best friend is the tallest girl in class. "She protects me from the mean kids. No one can hurt me when I'm with her. She looks out for me." She has said several times that her friend protects her. From what, I don't know because when I ask she won't tell me. This afternoon we passed a house that has gravel in their front yard and my daughter said "You don't throw rocks. You have to be careful because you can really hurt someone." Now I'm wondering if someone threw a rock at her? I'm really upset that her teacher didn't tell me about her injury when I picked her up. My daughter is not an easy going child, she is very very sensitive so I know that there's pretty much no one that she was could have gotten hurt without crying and her teacher didn't know plus the bruise is really bad so even if the teacher didn't see if, she should have known about it. Would you be upset too?

Red Rover Due February 25; 16 kids; California 1802 posts
10th Nov '12

Id be upset but not at the teacher if she didn't know about it. If she did then I'd be pissed as hell.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
10th Nov '12

I would be upset too. Thinking about someone possibly being mean to my kid makes me wanna cry. :/

*mommy to 3* Due March 7 (girl); 2 kids; Virginia 1167 posts
10th Nov '12

they should have wrote an injury report for it. And when you go back I'd be talking to the director and making them review the security tapes if no one knew what happened.

user banned 1 child; Boston, Massachusetts 30985 posts
10th Nov '12

A rock wouldnt bruise like that.



I'd be upset though, sounds like something is going on. Talk to the teacher. It's preschool, they see everything, its not like the kids can really sneak away.

John Mayer. 2 kids; Modesto, California 21992 posts
10th Nov '12

I don't think a small child throwing a rock would bruise like that.



I'd ask the teacher/staff. They should be supervising at all times, so they should know what's going on.



ETA: Yes, I 'd be upset. Either they know and didn't notify you, or they aren't paying attention enough to know.

Stephloveslynden Due August 2 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 24423 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting *mommy to 3*:" they should have wrote an injury report for it. And when you go back I'd be talking to the director and making them review the security tapes if no one knew what happened."


I'm going to talk to her teacher first on Tuesday and if I'm not happy with her answer then I'm going to call the director. This is the second time my child has come home with an injury that I wasn't informed of. The first time, I picked her up and she had a busted lip! I asked her what happen and she said some kids accidentally knocked her into the cabinet of the playset thing so I marched back in and asked the teacher and she was all casual "oh yeah, she got hurt a little. She didn't make a big fuss." :twisted:

Stephloveslynden Due August 2 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 24423 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting shes*almost*one!:" A rock wouldnt bruise like that. I'd be upset though, sounds like something is going on. Talk to the teacher. It's preschool, they see everything, its not like the kids can really sneak away."


I think I'm going to post a picture. I only comment on it being like being poked because when I was little I was accidentally stabbed with a pen (I know that sounds crazy but it really was an accident) and it looks similar to that. Whatever it was that hurt her hurt her bad. And I don't know why she won't tell me because she tells me everything.

Stephloveslynden Due August 2 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 24423 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Keyboard Warrior.:" I don't think a small child throwing a rock would bruise like that. I'd ask the teacher/staff. They ... [snip!] ... going on. ETA: Yes, I 'd be upset. Either they know and didn't notify you, or they aren't paying attention enough to know."


That's my thoughts. I'm willing to bet that it's one of those things where they weren't paying attention. I really think her class size is too big for the teacher. I've been wanting to pull her out mostly because we moved slightly further away and the commute sucks, I only had her in because she was in the class with one of her friends from my playgroup but she's since told me a bunch of times that that friend is mean and doesn't like her.



ETA: Above mentioned "mean" friend wasn't at school last week.

Jillian Lindsey 2 kids; Mosheim, Tennessee 2354 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Steph+Alice+Caroline:" I picked my daughter up from school on Thursday and my youngest was passed out in my arms, we were late ... [snip!] ... plus the bruise is really bad so even if the teacher didn't see if, she should have known about it. Would you be upset too?"

id be having a talk with that teacher! a little boy in dd class knocked over a toy and it hit dd (i was in the room) and she kept apologizing and removed that toy from the room they actually fill out accident reports when kids get hurt

A+R+D=Family 1 child; 2 angel babies; Minnesota 286 posts
10th Nov '12
Quoting Steph+Alice+Caroline:" I'm going to talk to her teacher first on Tuesday and if I'm not happy with her answer then I'm going ... [snip!] ... back in and asked the teacher and she was all casual "oh yeah, she got hurt a little. She didn't make a big fuss." :twisted:"


accidentally my ass sounds like kids are hurting her at school or worse the teachers. I'd talk to the director and if nothing changes after talking to him. I'd transfer her. Sounds like the teachers aren't paying enough attention to the children or maybe it's just your child that she isn't paying attention too??

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
10th Nov '12

wow how could they have missed the bruise? Id talk to the teacher and take it from there. poor kid hope everything gets straightened out

Stephloveslynden Due August 2 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 24423 posts
12th Nov '12

Thanks for all the advice. I'll see what her teacher says on Tuesday. I feel bad for my poor little girl, I know she is clumsy and the injury could be self-inflicted but I also know it hurts and I feel sad thinking that she probably got hurt and her teacher didn't say or do anything to comfort her. In past when she's had bad days the teacher will say "oh Alice was tired this morning and said she missed her sister, so I gave her a special book to read" or something so I know how she did that day and the fact that the teacher didn't mention the injury means she either didn't know about it or did nothing about it so either way my poor baby got hurt and was probably just sad about it. :(

Destinite 1 child; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 31319 posts
12th Nov '12

I would be very upset. I think you're doing the right thing by speaking with her teacher. There really should be an incident report for that sort of thing, IMO.